I was reading Cosmopolitian(The one with Carmen Electra on the cover), and they had an article on how not to get raped.

These were the tips.(Actually, they were more like common sense.)

1. Never allow a guy to give you more drinks then you want to drink. A guy is more likely to rape you if you are drunk.

2. Never act gullible or naive. Don't hang on to his every word.

3.Never go somewhere alone with a guy you barely know. Never go to his apartment or his car. He is 10 times more likely to rape you in a private place then in a vrowded, public place.

4. Don't act like a follower. A PR is more likely to attack women who seem to base their decisions on what everyone else is doing and wants, then making up her own mind.

5. Always bring a friend with you to parties, bars, and clubs. A lesbian friend should do the trick(Because a lesbian friend will not be interested in the "potential rapist" and can keep an eye out for you because she is not getting "groomed" by the PR).

6.Do give off a "Back the F" off of me", buddy attitude. A woman who gives a "I'm not here for your nonsense," is more likely to not get raped. PR don't want to spend time with a woman who is acting like a bitch.(In this case, it could save you).

7. Never ever let him stand to close too you. He may be planning how to rape you if he is TOO clse to you.

8. Never act shy or timid. Women who act scared to stand up for themselves are 10 times likely to get raped.

i remember when this exact article ran in redbook in the mid 90's. i had saved it for a while but eventually lost it so i was glad cosmopolitan re-ran it. (i think redbook and cosmo are printed by the same publishers) they are very good tips. as you said janice most of it is basic common sense but some poeple even lack that. my sister and i are complete opposites. when i'm in a parking lot/garage etc. i'll look all around, check between parked cars, look into my car before getting in, be aware of others walking near me, read body language and behavioretc. my sister on the other hand walks out of the store rifling through her bag, unwrapping a purchase from its packaging completely unaware of her surroundings. i worry about her often.

Carry mace and legal weapons. Aim for the eyes.

Carry mace and legal weapons. Aim for the eyes.
:nod: i carry mace in my purse.

Carry mace and legal weapons. Aim for the eyes.


What, no tiger, Cathy? :lol: ;)

Carry mace and legal weapons. Aim for the eyes.
And kick them hard in their private area. ;)

Also let me add, NEVER LEAVE YOUR DRINK WHERE SOMEONE CAN PUT ANYTHING IN IT. ALWAYS HAVE IT IN YOUR HAND. Should you walk away to the restroom, when you come back, get a new drink. You never know, someone could put in some sleeping medication or any sort of drug to cause you to become incoherent.

How about some men stop being so vile?

that was a good article with some very helpful tips

:nod: i carry mace in my purse.good for you sarah

How about some men stop being so vile?
Sadly, that will never happen.

What, no tiger, Cathy? :lol: ;)
He stays in the car.

And kick them hard in their private area. ;)

Also let me add, NEVER LEAVE YOUR DRINK WHERE SOMEONE CAN PUT ANYTHING IN IT. ALWAYS HAVE IT IN YOUR HAND. Should you walk away to the restroom, when you come back, get a new drink. You never know, someone could put in some sleeping medication or any sort of drug to cause you to become incoherent.

:nod: never accept drinks from strangers either. unless you see the bartender make it himself & he hands it directly to you.

I was reading Cosmopolitian(The one with Carmen Electra on the cover), and they had an article on how not to get raped.


5. Always bring a friend with you to parties, bars, and clubs. A lesbian friend should do the trick(Because a lesbian friend will not be interested in the "potential rapist" and can keep an eye out for you because she is not getting "groomed" by the PR).





Actually, a straight friend who is cynical of all men and call them all cheating lying scumbags can do the trick to. She won't be interested in the PR eitherm so she would be jsut as good a friend to watch out for you as a Lesbian friend.:)

Excellent article, Janice!

I remember a few other ideas that I learned in college:

1)If you must walk alone after dark, be alert. Do not be gabbing away on your cell phone. It may make you feel safe, but it can be knocked out of your hand in a second.

2)If taken by the arm unwillingly, twist out of it. Pulling away will make them tighten their grip, twisting will make them unable to hold you and you could end up breaking their arm.

3)Rapists look for women who are distracted, alone, and not carrying anything that could be used as a weapon. Carry a large flashlight or an umbrella. If nothing else, even keys can be used.

4)If you think you are being followed, there are a few options:

-If possible, walk to a police station.

-Walk to a crowded area with plenty of lights.

-Do not walk home, you do not want him to know where you live.

-If alone and in the middle of nowhere you can turn directly around and face him. It sounds awful, but if you look him in the eyes and address him, you are more likely to be able to point him out later. Speak to him, and BE LOUD.


Liza's Personal Story Time:

I remember when I was in Italy I was by myself and lost in a very small train station. I was walking by some empty railroad tracks and an Italian was right on my heels and followed my every turn. (I don't think he wanted to rape me, but picking my pocket was probably on the to-do list). I walked quickly right up the rails to the station lobby. He kept following me and I waited until I was in a room with a lot of people. I turned around and faced him square and yelled, in English, "WHAT DO YOU WANT?!!!" He turned tail and ran. A bunch of people smiled and one guy even said "Bravo, Signorina!" :lol: Always better to be safe than sorry! :wave:

The infamous page 148?:eek: :D :crazy:

In the June issue of Cosmo, there was a serious article about how to not get raped on page 148. On the July issue,on page 148 there was a serious article about how to protect your identity on Facebook. I wonder if all future issues of Cosmo will have a serious article on page 148.;) I said, 'future" because I went to a magzine that was published in March, April, or may, and that page 148 had an article on how to have better sex with your man,(or something like that):lol: