I was in line this morning at dunkin donuts and the line was out the door, two lines and I saw a female co-worker coming down the street and she was like-"are you going in? I was like-"yeah I'm waiting for the line to die down". And she says-"well can you get me a cup of coffee??


So instead of us standing in line TOGETHER and GOING TO WORK TOGETHER, she wanted me to stand in the long line and get her coffee and deliver it to her at her desk???? Does anyone think this is kind of strange??


Of course I said NO but not in a rude and unpleasant way.

No I don't think it's strange. She thought that since you were standing in line anyway that you could get her some coffee also. It's not a female thing, she probably would have asked you that question if you were a female co-worker.

No. Maybe she needed to run an errand.

If that were me, I would of gotten her a cup of coffee, after all I was already in line getting something for myself. No harm in helping a co-worker out, male or female. Maybe she/he would return the favor in the future.

I would not get it for her unless she gave me money to cover the cost of *her* cup of coffee.

If that were me, I would of gotten her a cup of coffee, after all I was already in line getting something for myself. No harm in helping a co-worker out, male or female. Maybe she/he would return the favor in the future.

i agree. last year when i worked, my co-workers would ask me to get food from wherever i went on my lunch break or i would ask them. and then it just became a pattern; whenever someone was going on their lunch break they would announce where they were going and whoever wanted something would give them moolah.

Of course you can do favors to co-workers, but something still seems to be wrong here. Why couldn't she have gotten into the line herself?

if she was expecting you to pay for it, yeah it was a thoughtless thing to ask. doesn't have to do with gender either way though.

No I don't think it's strange. She thought that since you were standing in line anyway that you could get her some coffee also. It's not a female thing, she probably would have asked you that question if you were a female co-worker.


The difference was we were both at the end of the line. It wasn't like I was close to the front so I was confused as to why we couldn't stand in line together. Now if she was going to wait for me that would have been different but she was going to leave and go back to her office-lol

I would not get it for her unless she gave me money to cover the cost of *her* cup of coffee.
agreed. if she gave you money for the coffee it wouldnt be a problem with me. ive done that in school before when i was buying snack.

Of course you can do favors to co-workers, but something still seems to be wrong here. Why couldn't she have gotten into the line herself?


Yeah we were both at the end of line which made it strange-lol I was no closer to the front of the line than she waswhich meant we could have waited in line together

I don't know. It does seem sort of strange. I guess it depends on the way she asked and my closeness with the person. If she said it in a way that she expected it, I wouldn't like it. If she asked me if I minded or said she had a stop to make, then I'd say no problem. I think it's one of those you had to be there deals. Nobody likes to stand in line.

Solomon, you have such a way with words. Every time you mention a situation like this, I can just see it happening!! :lol:

A gentleman wouldn't think twice about getting her a coffee. All you need is her to give you the cash.

I don't know. It does seem sort of strange. I guess it depends on the way she asked and my closeness with the person. If she said it in a way that she expected it, I wouldn't like it. If she asked me if I minded or said she had a stop to make, then I'd say no problem. I think it's one of those you had to be there deals. Nobody likes to stand in line.
Excactly! It depends on how she asked it.

I think it depends, like Janice said. If she just expected you to wait in line for a half of an hour and buy her a cup of coffee with your own money, yeah, that's pretty rude. Especially if you don't really even know her. :lol:

I think it depends, like Janice said. If she just expected you to wait in line for a half of an hour and buy her a cup of coffee with your own money, yeah, that's pretty rude. Especially if you don't really even know her. :lol:
Yeah :lol:

I don't know. It does seem sort of strange. I guess it depends on the way she asked and my closeness with the person. If she said it in a way that she expected it, I wouldn't like it. If she asked me if I minded or said she had a stop to make, then I'd say no problem. I think it's one of those you had to be there deals. Nobody likes to stand in line.

I agree with Janice. It really depends on HOW the person asks. If she asks you nicely, gives you the $ upfront and has a good excuse like "I have to rush to get ready for meeting, I have rush to pick something up for a friend's party before work, etc. then I don't see a problem. But if she asks like its your obligation or like you're her servant, in my head I'd be thinking "f" off--but what I'd say to her sweetly is "I'm so sorry, but my hands are already going to be full."

Solomon...:lol:

I think with Solomon making these threads, we have to inquire more to the story.

Solomon puts the whole story in two sentences. We were not there so it is hard to decipher simply from two sentences whether the girl asked him nicely, whether she offered to give him the money, etc. I assume she was going to pay for the coffee or else this thread would be saying this instead:

"There is a female co-worker who expected me to stand in line, get her coffee and to pay for it too?????" LOL "Is that crazy or what?"

Now, since you never mentioned money in your post, it sounds like you were simply irked for being asked to get someone coffee. From what you posted, it seems like she asked and not demanded and was going to pay you for it. I would have no problem with a co-worker asking me to get them coffee. I am sure in the future if you wanted some coffee but didn't want to stand in line, she would do the same for you. ;)

Solomon...:lol:

I think with Solomon making these threads, we have to inquire more to the story.

Solomon puts the whole story in two sentences. We were not there so it is hard to decipher simply from two sentences whether the girl asked him nicely, whether she offered to give him the money, etc. I assume she was going to pay for the coffee or else this thread would be saying this instead:

"There is a female co-worker who expected me to stand in line, get her coffee and to pay for it too?????" LOL "Is that crazy or what?"

Now, since you never mentioned money in your post, it sounds like you were simply irked for being asked to get someone coffee. From what you posted, it seems like she asked and not demanded and was going to pay you for it. I would have no problem with a co-worker asking me to get them coffee. I am sure in the future if you wanted some coffee but didn't want to stand in line, she would do the same for you. ;)


It also depends on how far it was to his office. It can be a hassle carrying two cups of piping hot coffee (among other things) through crowded sidewalks for who knows how many blocks. I would be afraid I was going to drop one of them on my walk to work.

It also depends on how far it was to his office. It can be a hassle carrying two cups of piping hot coffee (among other things) through crowded sidewalks for who knows how many blocks. I would be afraid I was going to drop one of them on my walk to work.
True. But Solomon never mentioned that either. I think if that was an issue he would have mentioned it in his initial post. Again, he just seems irked to have been asked. But like I said, we weren't there. I don't know if she asked him in a pushy way or what.

True. But Solomon never mentioned that either. I think if that was an issue he would have mentioned it in his initial post. Again, he just seems irked to have been asked. But like I said, we weren't there. I don't know if she asked him in a pushy way or what.


She was going to pay for it but I'm not a delivery boy and if she couldn't stand in line and wait with me then I guess she really didn't want coffee-lol

She was going to pay for it but I'm not a delivery boy and if she couldn't stand in line and wait with me then I guess she really didn't want coffee-lol
So we can say she asked nicely, she was going to pay and she wasn't rude abt it. Right? It had nothing to do with you having too many things to carry as well. You were just irked that she didn't want to stand in line with you.

Again, I would have no problem with getting someone something. I have had many people get me a soda or something to eat when they were out and about and I had no problems getting a coffee for a co-worker or a water or whatever they wanted. If they are nice abt it, what is the problem I say. ;)

So we can say she asked nicely, she was going to pay and she wasn't rude abt it. Right? It had nothing to do with you having too many things to carry as well. You were just irked that she didn't want to stand in line with you.

Again, I would have no problem with getting someone something. I have had many people get me a soda or something to eat when they were out and about and I had no problems getting a coffee for a co-worker or a water or whatever they wanted. If they are nice abt it, what is the problem I say. ;)


We were both at the end of the line and I saw no reason why she couldn't wait. Now if I was CLOSER to the front I would have said YES

We were both at the end of the line and I saw no reason why she couldn't wait. Now if I was CLOSER to the front I would have said YES
I don't know Solomon, maybe she needed to go use the bathroom or needed to do something before her break was over. Only she knows. I don't get how the long line has anything to do with it. :lol: Is it the mere fact she didn't want to be in line with you? Did you hope she would stand there with you and chat?

I don't know Solomon, maybe she needed to go use the bathroom or needed to do something before her break was over. Only she knows. I don't get how the long line has anything to do with it. :lol: Is it the mere fact she didn't want to be in line with you? Did you hope she would stand there with you and chat?


No it didn't matter to me, I just couldn't see myself delivering coffee-lol

No it didn't matter to me, I just couldn't see myself delivering coffee-lol
Either way, if the line was short you would still be "delivering coffee." :lol:

Everyone is different. Some people wouldn't mind, while others would. Doing someone's waiting for them and providing delivery service doesn't sit well with some people, while others don't care. I'd probably do it once, if asked nicely, but if it became a pattern, no way. I'm nobody's runner either.

That was another issue I was thinking abt as I posted. Does this girl have a habit of asking people to do this for her? I know some people take advantage of these kinds of situations and expect people to do these things. I can attest I would not want to do that. It is hard to decipher though whether this girl is doing that or if this is someone Sol actually gets along well with. I would have no problem doing a "coffee run" for a friendly co-worker. I did it many times and I have had people do things like that for me. Sometimes people would do it without me ever asking them to.

That was another issue I was thinking abt as I posted. Does this girl have a habit of asking people to do this for her? I know some people take advantage of these kinds of situations and expect people to do these things. I can attest I would not want to do that. It is hard to decipher though whether this girl is doing that or if this is someone Sol actually gets along well with. I would have no problem doing a "coffee run" for a friendly co-worker. I did it many times and I have had people do things like that for me. Sometimes people would do it without me ever asking them to.
I worked with one gal for five years, and we're still friends to this day. She loved chicken/broccoli/ziti. That's one of my signature dishes, so I'd make it for us every weekend, and bring it in for us to have for lunch on Monday in the employee cafeteria. I'd put it in those separate disposable Rubbermaid containers. I'd bring grated cheese in on the side, and sometimes throw in a dessert if we had company over the weekend. It was a Monday ritual.

For this, she would stop at Dunkin' Donuts every day and get bagels and coffee for the both of us. Deliver it right to my desk. I'd give her the money on Mondays for the week. Sometimes, I'd surprise her and bring in my eggplant parm later in the week. She was going to Dunkin' Donuts anyway, but I still didn't feel right that she picked up my breakfast, without reciprocating in some say. It was such a nice little arrangement.

I worked with one gal for five years, and we're still friends to this day. She loved chicken/broccoli/ziti. That's one of my signature dishes, so I'd make it for us every weekend, and bring it in for us to have for lunch on Monday in the employee cafeteria. I'd put it in those separate disposable Rubbermaid containers. I'd bring grated cheese in on the side, and sometimes throw in a dessert if we had company over the weekend. It was a Monday ritual.

For this, she would stop at Dunkin' Donuts every day and get bagels and coffee for the both of us. Deliver it right to my desk. I'd give her the money on Mondays for the week. Sometimes, I'd surprise her and bring in my eggplant parm later in the week. She was going to Dunkin' Donuts anyway, but I still didn't feel right that she picked up my breakfast, without reciprocating in some say. It was such a nice little arrangement.
See, that's how it was at different places I worked. That was real nice of you to make something homemade. And delicious too. ;) I think when a small group does things like that for each other, it can be such a nice atmosphere and fun. Picking up food or getting someone a drink knowing they would do the same for you and they appreciate it. I would hate having worked at a job where people were not nice. Sometimes it takes a moment of consideration to make a big impression.