My boyfriend is watching Inside Edition and he called me into the room to show me Roe Messner being interviewed and talking abt how he married Tammy Faye's best friend. He asked her to marry him ON THEIR FIRST DATE. :crazy:

According to Rowe, it's what Tammy would have wanted. ;)

http://www.insideedition.com/

When a gaunt Tammy Faye Messner spoke to CNN’s Larry King the day before she died, her faithful husband Roe Messner was by her side.

But barely four months later, Roe married Tammy’s best friend! And you won’t believe where their romance began.

Roe tells INSIDE EDITION that the couple first became attracted to each other at a memorial service for Tammy Faye.

INSIDE EDITION sat down with Roe and his new wife Melanie for an exclusive interview, and for the very first time they are revealing the details about their whirlwind romance.

“We got married on our first date,” Roe says. “I asked Melanie to marry me and she said yes, and I said let’s just go get it done.”

Tammy Faye married Roe back in 1993, following her divorce from disgraced televangelist Jim Baker. But their last year was tough, because Tammy Faye had terminal cancer and Roe was her devoted caregiver. He can barely hold back the tears when he talks about her final days.

“Even the day Tammy died, she felt like the Lord was going to heal her...she never gave up.”

Roe and Melanie first caught each other’s eyes here, at the church in Palm Desert during Tammy Faye’s memorial, held six weeks after she died. They got married in Las Vegas in December, just four months after Tammy Faye passed away.

It is clear that Roe and Melanie are two newlyweds in love. Roe tells INSIDE EDITION that he thinks Tammy Faye would be happy for him.

Well, Tammy Faye was quite ill for some time. A friendship could have developed between Tammy's friend and husband, who were united in caring for her, then in grieving for her.

Many years ago, my friend's mother died. She was only 52, and was so beautiful. She and her husband had a wonderful marriage and had raised six kids. After her death, her husband started spending time with a woman who was their friend. In fact, this woman's husband had died the year before. The two couples were in each other's weddings 30 years before that.

They got married within the year. My friend had a hard time time with her father marrying a family friend. I remember trying to explain to her that these were people who enjoyed being married, were not the type to hit the bar scene or to date around, and didn't have time to go steady. That marriage lasted 30 years as well, as they've both passed on now.

With that said, if my husband hooked up with one my friends after I died, I'd come back and haunt his ass until the day he died. :lol:

Your last paragraph killed me. :rofl:

Me and my boyfriend were just talking abt this. He is disturbed abt his marrying so soon, especially with her best friend. He basically said what you said, some sort of relationship developed prior to Tammy's death for him to have felt this way, especially to ask her to marry him on their first date. Of course, he asked me the hypothetical question, "Babe, would you marry my best friend if I died?" My response, "Oh hell no. Obviously there is a reason he is YOUR best friend and not mine." :)

Eh, it could just be me but I think that's tacky.

Eh, it could just be me but I think that's tacky.


Exactly, there was always something wrong with that man. You don't marry your dead spouse bestfriend. That's just sick

maybe its a woman thing, I see nothing wrong with it.....now, had they started dating before she died.........THAT would be tacky

(And, i know of where I speak.....nuff said)

Wow...that is tacky. He could've at least waited longer...

Well, Tammy Faye was quite ill for some time. A friendship could have developed between Tammy's friend and husband, who were united in caring for her, then in grieving for her.

Many years ago, my friend's mother died. She was only 52, and was so beautiful. She and her husband had a wonderful marriage and had raised six kids. After her death, her husband started spending time with a woman who was their friend. In fact, this woman's husband had died the year before. The two couples were in each other's weddings 30 years before that.

They got married within the year. My friend had a hard time time with her father marrying a family friend. I remember trying to explain to her that these were people who enjoyed being married, were not the type to hit the bar scene or to date around, and didn't have time to go steady. That marriage lasted 30 years as well, as they've both passed on now.

With that said, if my husband hooked up with one my friends after I died, I'd come back and haunt his ass until the day he died. :lol:

Love can be strange. He may have been very grief stricken and lonely. But I do think they could have waited a little longer to marry -out of respect for Tammy.

Live is for the living and if I passed I'd be happy knowing my partner was with someone good. But not while I was living....or there'd be....FIREWORKS!!!

Well I'd never judge anyone. Afterall, didn't Tammy marry Roe and he had been Jim's best friend?

Like Janice, my mother had a boss who's best friend died of cancer. He married his best friend's widow within a year after his friend's death and like Roe said, it's what he would have wanted.

If it were me, I think I'd like to know my widower was with someone I really liked and knew rather than a stranger and that he found someone again to be happy with.

I don't see anything wrong with it unless they had started some kind of relationship before she had past away. That would have been really low and sleazy of them.

If it were me, I think I'd like to know my widower was with someone I really liked and knew rather than a stranger and that he found someone again to be happy with.
I agree. I do think it would have been appropriate to wait a year to marry, out of respect for Tammy. Who knows, but I don't get the feeling that they were not together as a couple while Tammy was alive.

Back in the old days, a widower was encouraged to marry his wife's sister. I don't know the logic behind it all, but I know that one reason was to prevent traditional stepfamily issues. For example, if a man marries his sister-in-law, his kids are her nieces and nephews, and she already loves them. Sounds too close for comfort for me though, lol. I knew a guy whose mother died when we were in high school, and his father married his aunt, and the marriage worked.

I don't like to see anyone alone, who doesn't want to be alone. Love is hard to find, so I say get it while you can, with who you can, as long as the person is unattached and nobody gets hurt.

I saw a tv movie once where a wife was terminally ill, and she chose her husband's next wife. She brought her into the home, had her bond with the kids and all that. I can't, for the life of me, remember the actors. I just remember that it was very sad, yet uplifting. It was set in sort of a "Little House on The Prairie" setting. I think it was one of those Hallmark movies. Does anyone remember this movie?

Good for them.

The only problem I have is that he asked her to marry him on their first date. What is the rush? Is she pregnant? :lol:

If he began dating her right after the memorial service then KUDOS TO BOTH OF THEM. :thumbsup: But I think they both should have waited for a decent amount of time to pass. It only makes it look like they did something BEFORE Tammy died.

I think it's just coldhearted period. This is just my opinion, but you do not mess with your best friend ex's or widow. It's just plain wrong in my book, and like others have said, it's tacky.

The only problem I have is that he asked her to marry him on their first date. What is the rush? Is she pregnant? :lol:

If he began dating her right after the memorial service then KUDOS TO BOTH OF THEM. :thumbsup: But I think they both should have waited for a decent amount of time to pass. It only makes it look like they did something BEFORE Tammy died.
Pregnant? :lol: First date proposal. Some people work fast. I know that President Bush married Laura three months after he met her. I knew the minute I met my husband that he was the guy for me. From our first date, he moved in, and that was that. I worked with him for a year before that, and we were good friends.

I remember when my friend's father married the family friend, there were some raised eyebrows, wondering if something had gone on while his wife was still alive. They just shrugged it off, and as I said, were married for 30 years. As this thread shows, most people don't look down on people for marrying their wife's friend. Like Rich stated, life is for the living.

I knew the first month I met my boyfriend that I loved him. His feelings took longer. :lol:

But you and I are not people who had a spouse on their deathbed. I can't imagine marrying someone so fast after my spouse died. That's just me. I guess how it appears to Rowe and his new wife is something they didn't seem to care abt. Which is their perogative of course. Life is indeed for the living. I am old school though, I believe there is a period of time one should wait before marrying. Like I said, had he and she just dated right after the memorial, then, what is the problem? He proposed on the FIRST DATE and they MARRIED ON THAT DATE? :faint: That is what I find hard to imagine, not just for Rowe either. Danny Bonaduce did the same thing with his now ex-wife.

I knew the first month I met my boyfriend that I loved him. His feelings took longer. :lol:

But you and I are not people who had a spouse on their deathbed. I can't imagine marrying someone so fast after my spouse died. That's just me. I guess how it appears to Rowe and his new wife is something they didn't seem to care abt. Which is their perogative of course. Life is indeed for the living. I am old school though, I believe there is a period of time one should wait before marrying. Like I said, had he and she just dated right after the memorial, then, what is the problem? He proposed on the FIRST DATE and they MARRIED ON THAT DATE? :faint: That is what I find hard to imagine, not just for Rowe either. Danny Bonaduce did the same thing with his now ex-wife.

Great to see you on the bds! Feeling better (I hope!)

But you and I are not people who had a spouse on their deathbed. I can't imagine marrying someone so fast after my spouse died. That's just me. I guess how it appears to Rowe and his new wife is something they didn't seem to care abt. Which is their perogative of course. Life is indeed for the living. I am old school though, I believe there is a period of time one should wait before marrying. Like I said, had he and she just dated right after the memorial, then, what is the problem? He proposed on the FIRST DATE and they MARRIED ON THAT DATE? :faint: That is what I find hard to imagine, not just for Rowe either. Danny Bonaduce did the same thing with his now ex-wife.
Four months is too soon, for them. I posted that in my second post. I think out of respect for Tammy, they should have waited a year. For other couples, that's their personal decision, and I couldn't care less when other adults marry. My husband's parents married seven months after they met, and were married for 59 years. Had he not died in a car accident 11 years ago, they'd be married for 70 years now, as she's still alive at 86. Some people just know when the time is right.

Exactly, respect is the issue bottom line.

What is the big hurry, I mean, they seem healthy, they could have waited a decent amount of time. This was a man whose wife just died. If he had been a single man on the dating scene when these two came upon each other and he met and married her on the first day, I wouldn't scratch my head. :lol:

Exactly, respect is the issue bottom line.

What is the big hurry, I mean, they seem healthy, they could have waited a decent amount of time. This was a man whose wife just died. If he had been a single man on the dating scene when these two came upon each other and he met and married her on the first day, I wouldn't scratch my head. :lol:
Irene, please help me figure out what movie it was, that I described in post #11.


IRENNNNEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D

I saw a tv movie once where a wife was terminally ill, and she chose her husband's next wife. She brought her into the home, had her bond with the kids and all that. I can't, for the life of me, remember the actors. I just remember that it was very sad, yet uplifting. It was set in sort of a "Little House on The Prairie" setting. I think it was one of those Hallmark movies. Does anyone remember this movie?

I haven't a clue Janice!!!!!!!:eek: Although I seem to recollect a movie with that premise, but not in a LHOTP setting. Sorry. :( I tried researching the net to no avail.

I haven't a clue Janice!!!!!!!:eek: Although I seem to recollect a movie with that premise, but not in a LHOTP setting. Sorry. :( I tried researching the net to no avail.
Thanks Irene, but I found it! It's called, The Substitute Wife, a 1994 tv movie with Farrah Fawcett. Here's some info.

Also, in my research, I found a book called, Wife Seeking Wife, dealing with the same topic.

http://www.amazon.com/Wife-Seeking-Official-ABNA-Entrant/dp/B0011G9Y1S

http://www.netflix.com/Movie/The_Substitute_Wife/60026018?trkid=222336&lnkctr=srchrd-sr&strkid=1383551607_0_0

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0111304/usercomments

http://ia.imdb.com/media/imdb/01/M/==/QM/yA/DN/xQ/zN/wc/TZ/tF/kX/nB/na/B5/lM/B5/1N/5A/jN/3E/zM/zM/TM/B5/VM._SY400_SX600_.jpg

Thanks Irene, but I found it! It's called, The Substitute Wife, a 1994 tv movie with Farrah Fawcett. Here's some info.

Also, in my research, I found a book called, Wife Seeking Wife, dealing with the same topic.

http://www.amazon.com/Wife-Seeking-Official-ABNA-Entrant/dp/B0011G9Y1S

http://www.netflix.com/Movie/The_Substitute_Wife/60026018?trkid=222336&lnkctr=srchrd-sr&strkid=1383551607_0_0

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0111304/usercomments

http://ia.imdb.com/media/imdb/01/M/==/QM/yA/DN/xQ/zN/wc/TZ/tF/kX/nB/na/B5/lM/B5/1N/5A/jN/3E/zM/zM/TM/B5/VM._SY400_SX600_.jpg
Oh ok. I remember seeing a part of that movie. Thanx for finding it. I had a heck of a time trying to find it myself. Good job! :thumbsup: