:confused: well i am 32 and am waiting to find mr right. i was left at the alter two years ago and boy did that leave a bad taste in my mouth. i have changed alot of aspects in my life. i only go out once a week vs five or six times a week. i left the negative people in my life that brought me down. i have focused on my parents job and education now.

i guess most people would call it being a normal adult. me i call it growing up. my best friend of 13 years live in the turks and caicous islands which is 537 mile south east of miami florida. she is a wedding planner for neely destinations. we talk via phone once per week and email a lot. she has always been my strenght and when she went to venture on the journey of life and get out of the cold state of wisconsin and small town of ripon (where i was raised) i was lost.

i have dated but, nothing has hit me where i go yup thats him. i am not ugly but no anna nicole either. i am attractive in a basic way. no one should settle for less than they want, but i am afraid if i don't i wont get married and be able to have the family i dream of.

does anyone feel this way or have they felt this way, that you are in a rut, or the small town that you love you will never find anyone, or people look at your age and wonder why are you not taken or married and become discouraged from you. i feel that is what i am going through, but as my best friend said to me, it is better to be a little lonely from time to time than to be with someone and be unhappy.:talk:

i am not ugly but no anna nicole either. i am attractive in a basic way. no one should settle for less than they want, but i am afraid if i don't i wont get married and be able to have the family i dream of.


I never found Anna Nicole attractive. I like to plain girls, more often than not. I don't think it's a big deal, looks.


But I can completely understand where you're coming from; as can most, I think. I think for me, I'm either afraid or just don't think to put myself out there. I'm pretty laid-back, to a fault. I get comfortable enough to stay where I am, and don't try to pursue other options.

It's also probably the fact that I was hurt early last year, and it seemed to take forever to heal from that. Perhaps I'm not healed. I have no feeling for the woman anymore, but I feel jaded, bitter and more than a little ashamed.

I too have lamented about the trials and tribulations of beong single on these boards, and i know what you guys are going through.

I know it sounds cliche, but hang in there.

Recently after a very long dry spell, I met a really nice woman at the bar I frequent.
Okay, I spend way too much time there...

We've hung out a few times since then and went to a movie last weekend. I don't know where things are going yet, but so far I like it.

So it can happen for anyone, even me.

;)

At this point I think we all need a group hug!

:bighug: :bighug:

I wasn't going to post anything, but I do understand how you feel. I was in a relationship and I got out of it because I settled. I don't think we single people should settle. I was miserable in my last relationship because I did just that, friends set me up with this guy, and my thought was okay I'll just fake it, and I hated every minute of it. People think because we are single we are lonely, me I am not lonely at all, I enjoy my life as a single person. Don't get me wrong, my life is not one big party, but I have done things as a single person that I would not have been able to do as someone who is married. Then I look at people who are married and all they do is complain about what their spouse doesn't do, and how they can't do certain things, and I think wow. Don't get me wrong I would love to find the person who I can spend the rest of my life with, but if it doesn't happen I am not going to be depressed about it.

Love yourselves and then when Mr./Ms. Right comes along it will be all the more better because you know who you are. Take this time until you find "The One" to get to know you, explore, get involved in things you enjoy and don't sit around having a pity party for yourself. :wave:

:confused: well i am 32 and am waiting to find mr right. i was left at the alter two years ago and boy did that leave a bad taste in my mouth. i have changed alot of aspects in my life. i only go out once a week vs five or six times a week. i left the negative people in my life that brought me down. i have focused on my parents job and education now.

i guess most people would call it being a normal adult. me i call it growing up. my best friend of 13 years live in the turks and caicous islands which is 537 mile south east of miami florida. she is a wedding planner for neely destinations. we talk via phone once per week and email a lot. she has always been my strenght and when she went to venture on the journey of life and get out of the cold state of wisconsin and small town of ripon (where i was raised) i was lost.

i have dated but, nothing has hit me where i go yup thats him. i am not ugly but no anna nicole either. i am attractive in a basic way. no one should settle for less than they want, but i am afraid if i don't i wont get married and be able to have the family i dream of.

does anyone feel this way or have they felt this way, that you are in a rut, or the small town that you love you will never find anyone, or people look at your age and wonder why are you not taken or married and become discouraged from you. i feel that is what i am going through, but as my best friend said to me, it is better to be a little lonely from time to time than to be with someone and be unhappy.:talk:



Being Single in a BIg City is even more annoying because it's more Competition. And yes, being in a relationship with someone who would not make you happy is very pointless.

I found a great way to deal with not having that SPECIAL SOMEONE

"SAFE ADULT FUN"

LOL-it gets my mind off of the dating irritatiions. So I believe in balancing things out

Hey, I know exactly how you feel. I just turned 36 in Feb. and I still haven't found Mr. Right either. At this point I question whether he even exists.

My mom recently told me she'd hate to be a single person today. "Back when I was dating" (she would start with), it was much easier to date and people weren't so into all the mental game-playing they are today. Men want to be pursued then when you do, they run and hide, etc. It's just a lot of silliness.

Hang in there. We have to send positive vibes out to each other! :D

Hey, I know exactly how you feel. I just turned 36 in Feb. and I still haven't found Mr. Right either. At this point I question whether he even exists.

My mom recently told me she'd hate to be a single person today. "Back when I was dating" (she would start with), it was much easier to date and people weren't so into all the mental game-playing they are today. Men want to be pursued then when you do, they run and hide, etc. It's just a lot of silliness.

Hang in there. We have to send positive vibes out to each other! :D



I think Ms. Right Exists, probably in a different city-lol

Im probably going to be single for the rest of my life. I want to be married more than anything, its my biggest dream, but I also refuse to settle.

Im probably going to be single for the rest of my life. I want to be married more than anything, its my biggest dream, but I also refuse to settle.


Settling is just like GIVING UP and I never plan to do that

I'm 18 and supposedly I live in an area where it's great to meet singles, but I went through my high school years without going on a single date. :lol: Hopefully that changes soon but I highly doubt it. =/

I'm 18 and supposedly I live in an area where it's great to meet singles, but I went through my high school years without going on a single date. :lol: Hopefully that changes soon but I highly doubt it. =/


You are way to YOUNG to be bothered by being single

You are way to YOUNG to be bothered by being single

You're right. It actually used to be bug me more before but now it's not as bad. However it does suck when your best friend has a boyfriend and you become a third wheel. :grr:

You're right. It actually used to be bug me more before but now it's not as bad. However it does suck when your best friend has a boyfriend and you become a third wheel. :grr:


Why would you put yourself in that situation? You are never supposed to be a 3rd Wheel. I would just let my best friend be with his or her campanion and do my own thing

Even worse than being single is being in love with someone who's already taken, like I am. A woman I know who lives in NYC seems to be the perfect woman for me. She's sweet, gentle, and warm. . . . She makes me want intimacy more than sex because she's so precious she would be so wonderful to cuddle and kiss tenderly. :) But alas, she has a boyfriend, and she might marry him soon, and I don't want to interfere, because I would rather just be friends with her. If competing with her boyfriend for her affections would only make her unhappy, I'd rather not do so - because I want her to be happy.

And when I realized how important her happiness was to me,. that's when I realized I loved her. :(

Why would you put yourself in that situation? You are never supposed to be a 3rd Wheel. I would just let my best friend be with his or her campanion and do my own thing

I don't put myself in that sitch. He just happens to show up everywhere my friend and I go. :mad:

I get comfortable enough to stay where I am, and don't try to pursue other options.

That's me too. Guess it's a lucky thing I found a guy that acts ok with that.

Even worse than being single is being in love with someone who's already taken, like I am. A woman I know who lives in NYC seems to be the perfect woman for me. She's sweet, gentle, and warm. . . . She makes me want intimacy more than sex because she's so precious she would be so wonderful to cuddle and kiss tenderly. :) But alas, she has a boyfriend, and she might marry him soon, and I don't want to interfere, because I would rather just be friends with her. If competing with her boyfriend for her affections would only make her unhappy, I'd rather not do so - because I want her to be happy.

And when I realized how important her happiness was to me,. that's when I realized I loved her. :(


Wow, I think you should tell her how you feel and let her decide. Maybe she'll change her mind and want you instead of the guy she's with!

Wow, I think you should tell her how you feel and let her decide. Maybe she'll change her mind and want you instead of the guy she's with!


Thanks for the advice. I was on the phone with her last night. She told me about all of her various plans for the coming spring and summer, and she never once mentioned her boyfriend or getting married. I'm beginning not only to suspect if she's getting married, I'm beginning to suspect she doesn't ave a boyfriend. (Maybe she's just trying to make me jealous!)

Thanks for the advice. I was on the phone with her last night. She told me about all of her various plans for the coming spring and summer, and she never once mentioned her boyfriend or getting married. I'm beginning not only to suspect if she's getting married, I'm beginning to suspect she doesn't ave a boyfriend. (Maybe she's just trying to make me jealous!)


It would be hard for me to have a platonic friendship with a girl I'm attracted to

It would be hard for me to have a platonic friendship with a girl I'm attracted to

It would be impossible for me not to have a platonic friendship with this woman. She means too much to me to give up entirely. :(