I hate this so much, & I'm so embarrassed how everyone in high school is always talking about sex & drugs, NONSTOP & I've actually never had any kind of sexual intercourse before Every single time I hear one of my friends, some random person at school, or even my sisters talking about some freaking sexual intercourse they've had before, I just wanna shoot myself! It's like sex & drugs are the #1 thing people, at least at my school, talk about! I don't care about drugs that much, but I REALLY wish I could just feel normal & actually have sex....I don't want it just bc everyone else is, but because I want it too. I wanna feel loved too. There's a 10th grader at my school who's pregnant with her SECOND baby! It's embarrassing bc just about EVERYONE--and I mean literally everyone--I know has had SOME kind of sexual intercourse before, from just simply "touching" to whatever! Am I the only teenager or high schooler who feels so left out like this?? I don't get why guys don't like me or ask me to have sex w/ them....I mean, gosh, even my 10 year old sister gets asked to have it & I don't!! It seems like sex is the only thing people talk about now....or at least here where I am. Oh, and just to make things worse, I barely even have any guy friends!

Wow, I don't think I'd like it if someone just randomly walked up to me and said "Will you have sex with me?" I've only known one guy who said that to me. Around here, most guys are a lot more subtle.

Wow, I don't think I'd like it if someone just randomly walked up to me and said "Will you have sex with me?" I've only known one guy who said that to me. Around here, most guys are a lot more subtle.

Yea, it happens sometimes, even to my sister....some of the guys here are just dogs....all they want is sex! Geez....and I can't even have it! :(

Well, if you want it that bad I'm sure you can get it.

It's embarrassing bc just about EVERYONE--and I mean literally everyone--I know has had SOME kind of sexual intercourse before, from just simply "touching" to whatever! Am I the only teenager or high schooler who feels so left out like this??

No, you are FAR from being the only one. I didn't even have my first kiss until freshman year of college. And I'm still a virgin... and I'm not even a teenager anymore. Try not to feel too left out... in high school, everyone is really confused and uncertain, and a lot of kids seemed to deal with it by having a lot of sex/talking a lot about it.

I'm 100% sure that there are people out there who would have sex with you, but you don't want that. In the long run, it's going to be better if you wait for someone who is at least interested in you as a person. I'm not even saying it has to be love... but hopefully it will be something a little more than, "hey, you, wanna have sex?"

I wanna feel loved too.
That's a pretty universal feeling, I'd say. I want that too. But trust me, having sex with a guy isn't necessarily going to lead to feeling loved. I know totally how you feel, and your day really will come.

Well, if you want it that bad I'm sure you can get it.

Yea, but idk how....no guys like me & even if they did, my parents are really strict, so it'd be hard to hide it and all that.

teenagers should not be having sex. period.

No, you are FAR from being the only one. I didn't even have my first kiss until freshman year of college. And I'm still a virgin... and I'm not even a teenager anymore. Try not to feel too left out... in high school, everyone is really confused and uncertain, and a lot of kids seemed to deal with it by having a lot of sex/talking a lot about it.

I'm 100% sure that there are people out there who would have sex with you, but you don't want that. In the long run, it's going to be better if you wait for someone who is at least interested in you as a person. I'm not even saying it has to be love... but hopefully it will be something a little more than, "hey, you, wanna have sex?"


That's a pretty universal feeling, I'd say. I want that too. But trust me, having sex with a guy isn't necessarily going to lead to feeling loved. I know totally how you feel, and your day really will come.


Yea, that makes sense, but it's weird how everyone around me seems cool & happy about their life & "sex life"....there was this one girl I had in my child development class before who was always crying bc she was pregnant & getting engaged....it's so weird.

I hope your right about there really is someone out there that would have sex w/ me....I don't really care who, but I still prefer someone who truly loves me.

i really wouldnt worry about sex. you're 15, any 15 year old having sex will be looked at as a slut. and i doubt everyone is having sex, im sure a lot of people lie about it.

im in the same grade as you and while i know for a fact some kids aren't virgins, i'm pretty sure the majority of them are.

You're not the only one. People talk about that a lot here, too. But I have no intrest in sex right now.

Yea, that makes sense, but it's weird how everyone around me seems cool & happy about their life & "sex life"....there was this one girl I had in my child development class before who was always crying bc she was pregnant & getting engaged....it's so weird.

I hope your right about there really is someone out there that would have sex w/ me....I don't really care who, but I still prefer someone who truly loves me.

I swear, they may all SEEM cool & happy about their life/sex life, but I'm sure that's mostly just part of the image they are trying to project. For the most part, I would guess that they are all trying to convince THEMSELVES that they are "happy," but the more they talk about it, the less happy they probably are.

Joe is right... 15 year olds should not be having sex. I don't mean that in a parental, this-is-what-you-should-do way (I'm only 20 myself), but just in the sense that most 15 yr olds don't have the emotional maturity necessary to be having an EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY sex life. I know at age 15, most people just want to be grown up, but trust me, enjoy being young while it lasts... you'll be grown up soon enough.

You don't have to have sex to be normal. You really need to stop comparing your life to everybody's elses. All you ever do is upset yourself, so you should quit it.

It may seem like everyone in your high school and around you is doing something sexually with others, but that is not always the case. To those who do have sex, they usually end up with consquences in one way or another - whether it's having a baby, getting a disease, had sex without actually loving the other person, being used, etc. Some friends and I have lately been reminiscing about all my old middle school and high school classmates. I do recall that my friends and I have been wondering about so-and-so person who got pregnant in school and wondering what they are up to these days. I bet you they felt like their childhood was cut short and envied others who didn't have kids as a result from those early sexually active consequences.

I also bet you that even some of those classmates/friends/your sisters might even just be making up stories about themelves having sex. Some of those people might be just doing that to get attention. Nothing more, nothing less. They want to be "cool" - whatever that means in school. In the longrun, there are consequences you deal with until you have a mature mind to be able to handle those situations.

you have to consider how many of them are probably lying about it so they don't feel left out like you do.

don't have sexual relations with anyone you don't deeply love, care about and are close to, or anyone who doesn't feel that way about you. when you're older, you WILL be glad you didn't. it seems like a good idea now to you and to them because you're teenagers and your minds haven't fully developed. teenagers who casually have sexual relations and whatnot usually become embarrassed about it as adults.

teenagers should not be having sex. period.
People in general shouldn't. We have enough ******** humans on this planet; we don't need any more.


And you know what happens to teens who have lots of sex and do lots of drugs? Early jail, welfare...you name it. Some get lucky, but a lot end up making the government take care of them because they couldn't keep their damn legs together.

So Niki, don't become a statistic. Wait. You'll be just fine.

I second these last 4-5 posts 100%. There are just soo many reasons why sex at such a young age is not a good idea, and I don't mean this to sound preachy - it just is the truth of the matter. Right now, just focus on being 15.

I'm sorry, but I find it really hard to believe that your 10 year old sister has been approached by men asking her if she wants to have sex. I think that people are feeding you blatant lies and you're taking everything as pure truth. Either that or grossly exaggerating.

I'm sorry, but I find it really hard to believe that your 10 year old sister has been approached by men asking her if she wants to have sex. I think that people are feeding you blatant lies and you're taking everything as pure truth. Either that or grossly exaggerating.
I have to agree there. 10 years old? Come on.

Nikki, not everyone in high school has sex. You may think so, but that's just not the case. Not everything is about sex. Just because you want to because "everyone else is doing it" does not make it right.

It's true in every highschool. Theres a very simple explanation. It is filled with a bunch horny teenagers. It's normal.

There's a 10th grader at my school who's pregnant with her SECOND baby!

That's one very good reason not to have sexual intercourse.

Girl, if you make it to college a virgin, consider yourself blessed! It would be the worst tragedy of your young life to lose your virginity to a loser!

Please, I implore you! Have patience! Your time will come. And when it does, please, make it mean something!

The last thing you should be doing is wanting to be like everybody else. It doesn't get you anywhere. Trust me.

I'm in college and I haven't done anything with a guy yet. I'm so cool.

I'm in college and I haven't done anything with a guy yet. I'm so cool.
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I'm in college and I haven't done anything with a guy yet. I'm so cool.

Nothin' wrong with that, that was me as well... :)

I'm in college and I haven't done anything with a guy yet. I'm so cool.

22 and still a virgin! Damn proud of it, too!

Although, it's starting to look less unique than I had thought.... There are more of us out there!

Makes me feel less special! :( :lol:

I'm 27! Doesn't bother me either. Well, no, it bothers me that it bothers others. That made no sense but to me. lol

But anyway, I'm not dead or dying from virginity, so I think all teens will be ok to.

22 and still a virgin! Damn proud of it, too!

Although, it's starting to look less unique than I had thought.... There are more of us out there!

Makes me feel less special! :( :lol:

Wow, I think it's more impressive when it's a guy (not that it SHOULD be... double standard!)... but I just know that the number of guy friends I have who are virgins is dwindling... :-/

I agree though... virgin-pride!! :D Yay, V-club!

Wow, I think it's more impressive when it's a guy (not that it SHOULD be... double standard!)... but I just know that the number of guy friends I have who are virgins is dwindling... :-/

I agree though... virgin-pride!! :D Yay, V-club!
wooo v-club!

It will happen, some things just take time. I know that I lost my virginity when I was 15 but that's just me. Were all different.