What was the hardest decision you've ever had to make?

Deciding to have a child was a hard decision. We were married 14 years before I finally decided to go through with it. I'm glad I waited because we
got to do alot of things during those years that we probably wouldn't have
gotten to do otherwise. But it was a tough decision.

I have so many.

Having a child out of wedlock

Giving up a high paying Engineering job to go back to school for broadcasting.

Finally settling down and getting married.

Joining the Navy after high school.

Getting a divorce. I had to really really be able to come to the decision of doing this, knowing I tried 200 percent to save my marriage and know that I could go to sleep at night and sleep comfortably knowing I made the right decision. If I thought abt it at all at night or had hesitation, I knew it wasn't the right time.

The time came when I met a woman who was getting a divorce after 45 years of marriage. She was a client in our law office. I asked her why after all this time. She told me EVERYTHING. I asked her what was the thing that made you decide. She stated these words to me, words that I live by to this day: YOU DESERVE WHAT YOU TOLERATE. I soon realized that my own marriage problems were not by my own doing, it takes two people. If that one person couldn't commit to fixing it, why should I? Therefore, all that crap I was enduring, no matter how wrong it was, I was deserving of it simply because I TOLERATED IT. But it was also because of fear, fear for my physical health and mental well-being since I was in a domestic violence situation. No one deserves that.

I'm in the process of making it now.....