Ireneparalegal
07-16-2006, 11:14 PM
Read this article in my local newspaper today...very disturbing:
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Virgin Suicides' save Turks' 'honor'
By Dan Bilefsky International Herald Tribune
Published: July 12, 2006
BATMAN, Turkey For 17-year- old Derya, a waif-like woman, the order to kill herself came from an uncle and was delivered in a text message to her cellphone. "You have blackened our name," it read. "Kill yourself and clean our shame or we will kill you first."
Derya said her crime was to fall for a boy she met at school. She knew the risks: Her aunt had been killed by her grandfather for seeing a boy. But after being cloistered and veiled for most of her life, she said, she felt free for the first time and wanted to express her independence.
When news of the love affair spread to her family, she said, her mother warned her that her father would kill her. But she refused to listen. Then came the threatening text messages, sent by her brothers and uncles, sometimes 15 a day. Derya said they were the equivalent of a death sentence.
Consumed by shame and fearful for her life, she said, she decided to carry out her family's wishes. First, she said, she jumped into the Tigris River, but she survived. Next she tried hanging herself, but an uncle cut her down. Then she slashed her wrists with a kitchen knife.
"My family attacked my personality, and I felt I had committed the biggest sin in the world," she said from a women's shelter where she had traded in her veil for a T-shirt and jeans. She declined to give her last name for fear her family was still hunting her. "I felt I had no right to dishonor my family, that I have no right to be alive. So I decided to respect my family's desire and to die."
They call them the "virgin suicides."
Every few weeks in this Kurdish area of southeast Anatolia, which is poor, rural and deeply influenced by conservative Islam, a young woman tries to take her life. Others have been stoned to death, strangled, shot or buried alive. Their offenses ranged from stealing a glance at a boy to wearing a short skirt, wanting to go to the movies, being raped by a stranger or relative, or having consensual sex.
Hoping to join the European Union, Turkey has tightened the punishments for "honor crimes." But rather than such deaths being stopped, lives are being ended by a different means. Parents are trying to spare their sons from the harsh punishments associated with killing their sisters by pressing the daughters to take their own lives instead.
Women's groups here say the evidence suggests that a growing number of "dishonored" girls are being locked in a room for days with rat poison, a pistol or a rope, and told by their families that the only thing resting between their disgrace and redemption is death.
Batman is a grim and dusty city of 250,000 people where religion is clashing with Turkey's secularism.
The Turkish novelist Orhan Pamuk featured Batman in his last novel, "Snow," which chronicled a journalist's investigation of a suicide epidemic among teenage girls.
In the past six years, there have been 165 suicides or suicide attempts in Batman, 102 of them by women. As many as 36 women have killed themselves since the start of this year, according to a United Nations official's finding on violence against women. The UN estimates that 5,000 women are killed each year around the world by relatives who accuse them of bringing dishonor on their families; the majority of the killings are in the Middle East.
There have been so many unnatural deaths that the United Nations dispatched a special envoy to the region last month to investigate. After a fact- finding mission, the envoy, Yakin Erturk, concluded that while some suicides were authentic, others appeared to be "honor killings disguised as a suicide or an accident."
"The calls keep coming," said Mehtap Ceylan, a member of Batman's suicide prevention squad. Just hours before, Ceylan had received a call about a 16-year-old girl who had committed suicide, her family said, because they would not let her wear jeans. When Ceylan visited her house, the neighbors told her the girl had been a happy person and had been wearing jeans for years. Ceylan said she suspected some abuse within the family, possibly incest.
"The story just doesn't add up," Ceylan said. "The girl's family says their daughter was eating breakfast, walked into the next room and put a gun to her head. They were acting as if nothing had happened."
Psychologists here say social upheavals in a region rocked by terrorism have played a role in the suicides. Many of the suicide victims come from families in rural villages who have been displaced from the mountains to the cities because of warfare between Turkey and the Kurdistan Workers Party, a guerrilla group that wants an independent state in this southeastern region of Turkey.
Young women like Derya, who have previously led protected lives under the strict moral strictures of their families and Islam, are suddenly displaced into the modern Turkey of Internet dating and MTV. This can create dangerous tensions, sometimes lethal ones, between their families and the secular values of the republic that the young women seek to embrace.
Modernity can come at a heavy price. Once a woman is suspected of engaging in sexual relations out of wedlock, her male relatives convene a family council to decide her sentence. Once news of their shame has spread to the community, the family typically rules that it is only through death that their honor, or namus, can be restored.
Human rights groups say the recent trend of forced suicides is an unintended and sinister consequence of the European Union's pressure on Turkey to stiffen its punishments against so- called honor killings.
The European Union has warned Turkey that it is closely monitoring its progress on women's rights and that failure to make progress could impede its drive to enter the Union. Until recently, family members of a dishonored girl, usually a younger brother younger than 18, would carry out the death sentence and receive a short prison sentence because of his youth. Sentences also were reduced under the defense that a relative had been provoked to commit murder.
But in the past two years, Turkey has revamped its penal code and imposed life sentences for murders in the name of honor, regardless of whether they are committed by a minor. This has prompted some families to take other steps, such as forcing their daughters to commit suicide or killing them and disguising them as suicides.
"Families of disgraced girls are choosing between sacrificing a son to a life in prison by designating him to kill his sister or forcing their daughters to kill themselves," said Yilmaz Akinci, who works for a rural development group. "Rather than losing two children, most opt for the latter option."
In an effort to bring honor killings out from underground, Ka-Mer, a local women's group, has created a hotline for women who fear their lives are at risk. Ka-Mer finds shelter for the women and helps them to apply to the courts for restraining orders against relatives who have threatened them.
Ayten Tekay, a caseworker for Ka- Mer in Diyarbakir, the regional center, said that of the 104 women who had called Ka-Mer this year, more than half had been uneducated and illiterate. She said that in many cases the families had not wanted to kill their relatives but that the social pressure and incessant gossip had driven them to murder.
"We have to bring these killings out from the shadows and teach women about their rights," she said. "The laws have been changed, but the culture here will not change overnight."
Derya, fiercely articulate and newly invigorated after counseling, said she was determined to get on with her life. "This region is religious, and it is impossible to be yourself if you are a woman," she said. "You can either escape by leaving your family and moving to a town, or you can kill yourself."
Derya said the deep problem was inequality between the sexes, even though the Prophet Muhammad argued in favor of empowering women.
"In my village and in my father's tribe, boys are in the sky while girls are treated as if they are under the earth," she said. "As long as families do not trust their daughters, bad things will continue to happen."
__________________________________________________________
Virgin Suicides' save Turks' 'honor'
By Dan Bilefsky International Herald Tribune
Published: July 12, 2006
BATMAN, Turkey For 17-year- old Derya, a waif-like woman, the order to kill herself came from an uncle and was delivered in a text message to her cellphone. "You have blackened our name," it read. "Kill yourself and clean our shame or we will kill you first."
Derya said her crime was to fall for a boy she met at school. She knew the risks: Her aunt had been killed by her grandfather for seeing a boy. But after being cloistered and veiled for most of her life, she said, she felt free for the first time and wanted to express her independence.
When news of the love affair spread to her family, she said, her mother warned her that her father would kill her. But she refused to listen. Then came the threatening text messages, sent by her brothers and uncles, sometimes 15 a day. Derya said they were the equivalent of a death sentence.
Consumed by shame and fearful for her life, she said, she decided to carry out her family's wishes. First, she said, she jumped into the Tigris River, but she survived. Next she tried hanging herself, but an uncle cut her down. Then she slashed her wrists with a kitchen knife.
"My family attacked my personality, and I felt I had committed the biggest sin in the world," she said from a women's shelter where she had traded in her veil for a T-shirt and jeans. She declined to give her last name for fear her family was still hunting her. "I felt I had no right to dishonor my family, that I have no right to be alive. So I decided to respect my family's desire and to die."
They call them the "virgin suicides."
Every few weeks in this Kurdish area of southeast Anatolia, which is poor, rural and deeply influenced by conservative Islam, a young woman tries to take her life. Others have been stoned to death, strangled, shot or buried alive. Their offenses ranged from stealing a glance at a boy to wearing a short skirt, wanting to go to the movies, being raped by a stranger or relative, or having consensual sex.
Hoping to join the European Union, Turkey has tightened the punishments for "honor crimes." But rather than such deaths being stopped, lives are being ended by a different means. Parents are trying to spare their sons from the harsh punishments associated with killing their sisters by pressing the daughters to take their own lives instead.
Women's groups here say the evidence suggests that a growing number of "dishonored" girls are being locked in a room for days with rat poison, a pistol or a rope, and told by their families that the only thing resting between their disgrace and redemption is death.
Batman is a grim and dusty city of 250,000 people where religion is clashing with Turkey's secularism.
The Turkish novelist Orhan Pamuk featured Batman in his last novel, "Snow," which chronicled a journalist's investigation of a suicide epidemic among teenage girls.
In the past six years, there have been 165 suicides or suicide attempts in Batman, 102 of them by women. As many as 36 women have killed themselves since the start of this year, according to a United Nations official's finding on violence against women. The UN estimates that 5,000 women are killed each year around the world by relatives who accuse them of bringing dishonor on their families; the majority of the killings are in the Middle East.
There have been so many unnatural deaths that the United Nations dispatched a special envoy to the region last month to investigate. After a fact- finding mission, the envoy, Yakin Erturk, concluded that while some suicides were authentic, others appeared to be "honor killings disguised as a suicide or an accident."
"The calls keep coming," said Mehtap Ceylan, a member of Batman's suicide prevention squad. Just hours before, Ceylan had received a call about a 16-year-old girl who had committed suicide, her family said, because they would not let her wear jeans. When Ceylan visited her house, the neighbors told her the girl had been a happy person and had been wearing jeans for years. Ceylan said she suspected some abuse within the family, possibly incest.
"The story just doesn't add up," Ceylan said. "The girl's family says their daughter was eating breakfast, walked into the next room and put a gun to her head. They were acting as if nothing had happened."
Psychologists here say social upheavals in a region rocked by terrorism have played a role in the suicides. Many of the suicide victims come from families in rural villages who have been displaced from the mountains to the cities because of warfare between Turkey and the Kurdistan Workers Party, a guerrilla group that wants an independent state in this southeastern region of Turkey.
Young women like Derya, who have previously led protected lives under the strict moral strictures of their families and Islam, are suddenly displaced into the modern Turkey of Internet dating and MTV. This can create dangerous tensions, sometimes lethal ones, between their families and the secular values of the republic that the young women seek to embrace.
Modernity can come at a heavy price. Once a woman is suspected of engaging in sexual relations out of wedlock, her male relatives convene a family council to decide her sentence. Once news of their shame has spread to the community, the family typically rules that it is only through death that their honor, or namus, can be restored.
Human rights groups say the recent trend of forced suicides is an unintended and sinister consequence of the European Union's pressure on Turkey to stiffen its punishments against so- called honor killings.
The European Union has warned Turkey that it is closely monitoring its progress on women's rights and that failure to make progress could impede its drive to enter the Union. Until recently, family members of a dishonored girl, usually a younger brother younger than 18, would carry out the death sentence and receive a short prison sentence because of his youth. Sentences also were reduced under the defense that a relative had been provoked to commit murder.
But in the past two years, Turkey has revamped its penal code and imposed life sentences for murders in the name of honor, regardless of whether they are committed by a minor. This has prompted some families to take other steps, such as forcing their daughters to commit suicide or killing them and disguising them as suicides.
"Families of disgraced girls are choosing between sacrificing a son to a life in prison by designating him to kill his sister or forcing their daughters to kill themselves," said Yilmaz Akinci, who works for a rural development group. "Rather than losing two children, most opt for the latter option."
In an effort to bring honor killings out from underground, Ka-Mer, a local women's group, has created a hotline for women who fear their lives are at risk. Ka-Mer finds shelter for the women and helps them to apply to the courts for restraining orders against relatives who have threatened them.
Ayten Tekay, a caseworker for Ka- Mer in Diyarbakir, the regional center, said that of the 104 women who had called Ka-Mer this year, more than half had been uneducated and illiterate. She said that in many cases the families had not wanted to kill their relatives but that the social pressure and incessant gossip had driven them to murder.
"We have to bring these killings out from the shadows and teach women about their rights," she said. "The laws have been changed, but the culture here will not change overnight."
Derya, fiercely articulate and newly invigorated after counseling, said she was determined to get on with her life. "This region is religious, and it is impossible to be yourself if you are a woman," she said. "You can either escape by leaving your family and moving to a town, or you can kill yourself."
Derya said the deep problem was inequality between the sexes, even though the Prophet Muhammad argued in favor of empowering women.
"In my village and in my father's tribe, boys are in the sky while girls are treated as if they are under the earth," she said. "As long as families do not trust their daughters, bad things will continue to happen."