but I don't know what to do about it.

go seek help...call the suicide prevention line and they will direct you.

Tootie, I really, really hope you feel better soon.

Like Irene suggested, maybe you should seek help from a psychiatrist or call the hotline?

Hey there Tootie,

First off, lemme just say how sorry I am you're feeling this way...I've been there myself many times and it's always hard to deal with, especially when you feel so alone and like nobody gives a crap.

But, truthfully, I've learned that suicide is definitely not the answer. There are people out there who care for you and would be sad if you were gone. I know that may not be what you want to hear, but it's true. I guess it's just hard to notice that when we're feeling so badly. Trust me, I've been there.

Anyway, please talk to someone--if friends/family can't help, try calling up a local hotline or arranging to meet with a therapist. It will help :)

:bighug:

1-800-SUICIDE

call it. don't do anything you'll regret.

You need to seek help immediately Tootie. Please call the suicide hotline. If you feel completely despondent, and there's nobody there to help you, just walk into the nearest hospital. They'll get you the help you need.

you have much more to live for. like everyone says, seek help, talk to someone you feel comfortable with and tell them how you feel. go ask TJL a question, i'm sure he can make ya feel a tad bit better. :hug:

Stop reading and PICK UP THE PHONE AND CALL.

you should talk to someone :( or call the hotline.

Welcome to my week.


Seriously, call a hotline. That's why they set them up.

I know that feeling. I have felt that way in the past. Please seek help and I will keep you in my prayers. That is not something you want to do Trust me and may God keep you.

i know how you feel, believe me. hang in there. talk to someone about it, write in a journal, do things you enjoy, or just take a nap. you'll feel better.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I was feeling pretty bad, and had some suicidal thoughts awhile back, so I have an idea of how you're feeling. Like others have said, you should call a suicide hotline. Praying is also good in times like these, so I strongly recommend doing that as well. Hope you feel better soon!!!

Call now. It's too late after you've pulled the plug on your life and found there was so much to live for and you could have made the choice. Telling us
about it shows you do care about what happens to you.

Tootie, please get yourself some help right now. You are a great person and deserve all the happiness that life can offer.

1-800-SUICIDE

please call the hot line and get some help

Not to be insensitive or anything, But isn't this your 3rd post about suicide???? I don't know if your doing this for attention or what. I've personally known a person who committed suicide and it's nothing to joke about or make random post about just to get attention.

Admit yourself to the hospital...that's what I did two months ago. It worked...

Admit yourself to the hospital...that's what I did two months ago. It worked...
yeah, i was put in the ER for suicidal threats and tendencies a few years ago. hospitals do treat the suicidal.

what is bothering me is they haven't had a post since the 14th when they posted this thread.

Not to be insensitive or anything, But isn't this your 3rd post about suicide???? I don't know if your doing this for attention or what. I've personally known a person who committed suicide and it's nothing to joke about or make random post about just to get attention.

I agree it shouldn't be joked about, but I don't think Tootie is doing that. I don't think this is a thread to get attention. There's no evidence either way, anyway, but I think Tootie means what she says.

I think the fact that she's posted quite a bit about it is probably a sign that she feels desperate and really wants some help.

what is bothering me is they haven't had a post since the 14th when they posted this thread.
I noticed that too. I only hope it means something positive. I'd hate to think that it takes so many posts on this thread before one decides to get help.

Not to be insensitive or anything, But isn't this your 3rd post about suicide???? I don't know if your doing this for attention or what. I've personally known a person who committed suicide and it's nothing to joke about or make random post about just to get attention.
i'm glad you still have an open mind about it but many people deal with suicidal thoughts by seeking attention to find help, and that is absolutely okay because when someone is about to kill their self, they NEED attention.

Tootie I hope you're doing okay. We're thinking about you and hoping you're getting the help you need. Everyone gave you some good serious advice here. Please take it.

I know that I don't know this person. She's not a close friend of mine but I'm honestly worried about her.


TOOTIE, IF YOUR READING THIS, POST SOMETHING SO THAT WE KNOW YOUR OK!!

I can't add anything to the great advice already given here, just know that I will be thinking about you. :bighug:

:nod: I hope that the fact that the person hasn't posted since then doesn't mean that he or she went through with it.
this poster made a thread today on the FULL HOUSE forum, so I guess that puts to rest the thought that had us worried. It would be nice to hear from this poster since they put this thread up and made people worry.

this poster made a thread today on the FULL HOUSE forum, so I guess that puts to rest the thought that had us worried. It would be nice to hear from this poster since they put this thread up and made people worry.

Oh, I'm glad they have posted but you are right I wish they would respond back to this one.

Actually, this thread Tootie started was latest post..The Full House forum thread Tootie started was made before this one; it was replied to on a later date. (I clicked on profile and then clicked on "find more posts by this user")
I hope things are OK... Hopefully maybe the poster just changed profile/identity and is still here with us.
Suicidal thoughts and behavior in people just hits me hard and troubles me...

:( i hope shes ok...she used to post in our random thread all the time and she hasn't in over a week.

we used to have a female trader from chicago on the trading post board (she is since been BANNED!) and she used to "threaten" suicide a whole lot

BUT she was NOT serious at all

SHE WOULD GET CAUGHT IN LIES or in ripping someone off or get caught doing something stupid and she would say

"WHAT DO U WANT ME TO DO, KILL MYSELF?" repeatedly
but again she was not serious (she is a nutcase, and needs help but not suicidal)

this person SOUNDS SERIOUS and i urge them to get help

i will say this

IF someone feels that way
THEY NEED TO GET HELP
suicide hotline
church or synagouge
parent-relative-friend anyone

dont just let those thoughts linger and grow

get help

For what it's worth, most articles state that most suicidal indivduals just do it ,and don't publicize it. The ones that talk are just looking for attention. At least, that's how I read it.

Harvey

I don't want to be rude, but I think this might have been a joke just to get attention.

I don't want to be rude, but I think this might have been a joke just to get attention.


I will speak in purely general terms, again wth no one in mind. Obviously I know nothing of the situation and can't comment on the validty of the situation.

The internet serves a great service by getting people of a common interest together. Some folks are shy, finding it difficult to make friends, some have disabilities which doesn't allow them to venture out and here they can do much of what a outgoing person can.

Now, there are some that have few friends, find it difficult to maintain friendships and in essence have not too exciting lives. They may be insecure, feel no one pays them any attnetion or recognizes them. They go home at the end of a work day, or school day and feel very lonely. Agsin low self esteem.

The internet allows them to get attention, you can say outragerous things, easy to get all the attention you desire and feel wanted and needed. The internet becomes your family, your friend, your everything. So sometimes things are said with the desire of just getting attention. Don't know if that's the case here, and I'm sure I will never know but it is a thought.

To me this site and all sites should be treated as a hobby, not a must situation, that if you miss a day, you get the shakes like a drug addict. Believe me, there are folks like that.

Harvey

Having known at least two people close to me who actually did attempt suicide, it is not a game to play with, especially on a board. I do hope that she took the advice and got some help. I am glad that if someone is feeling that way, they actually turned to someone, even if it is a board full of strangers...still, I would like to know how this person is doing.

Actually, this thread Tootie started was latest post..The Full House forum thread Tootie started was made before this one; it was replied to on a later date. (I clicked on profile and then clicked on "find more posts by this user")
I hope things are OK... Hopefully maybe the poster just changed profile/identity and is still here with us.
Suicidal thoughts and behavior in people just hits me hard and troubles me...
Yea you are right. I just checked her profile and this was her last post on SO. The Full House one was bumpted up. I just hope she's alright. I know she mentioned it once before on the FOL Board and I thought we made her feel better but you never know. She needs to get some help. I just hope she's okay.

For what it's worth, most articles state that most suicidal indivduals just do it ,and don't publicize it. The ones that talk are just looking for attention. At least, that's how I read it.

I see what you mean, but it's also possible that the poster was genuinely feeling depressed and was thinking of suicide, and this was his/her way of calling for help. People who are feeling depressed and thinking of suicide often cry out for help by either making a half-hearted suicide attempt, or telling people that they want to commit suicide.

I really hope this person has help.

I don't want to be rude, but I think this might have been a joke just to get attention.


I AGREE!!!!
This is her third post about suicide. It's all for attention and it's not funny at all.

It is kind of scary that if she did kill herself, we would have no way of knowing. (not trying to be overly morbid )

[B]It's all for attention and it's not funny at all.

It might not be for attention, though. I can see why you'd think it would be, but it's possible that Tootie really was feeling suicidal. No one can know for sure.

I AGREE!!!!
This is her third post about suicide. It's all for attention and it's not funny at all.
The thing is we have no way of knowing for sure.

Sorry I think it's all for attention. You don't make 2 post about suicide and have people tell you the same things over and over. And then make a 3rd post about suicide. Come on, get serious

I've known a person who killed themself. And most of the time when a person kills themself they don't announce it, they just go through with it. And they surly don't announce 3 times.

Sorry I think it's all for attention. You don't make 2 post about suicide and have people tell you the same things over and over. And then make a 3rd post about suicide. Come on, get serious

I've known a person who killed themself. And most of the time when a person kills themself they don't announce it, they just go through with it. And they surly don't announce 3 times.
I agree with you. Also, the fact that it shouldn't take over 3 threads for someone to be told the obvious answer...GET HELP. I mean, three threads could be by 3 different people, but the answer will always be the same: GET HELP.

I agree with you. Also, the fact that it shouldn't take over 3 threads for someone to be told the obvious answer...GET HELP. I mean, three threads could be by 3 different people, but the answer will always be the same: GET HELP.


There's aren't 3 people in this forum with the SN Tootie. Since it hit close to home, I just don't take it lightly.

There's aren't 3 people in this forum with the SN Tootie. Since it hit close to home, I just don't take it lightly.
I know what you mean. I posted earlier abt knowing two people close to me who wanted to kill themselves.

I didn't mean there are 3 people with the SN Tootie...i am just saying there have been at least three threads in several months where someone has posted they want to kill themselves. I think GET HELP would be the only common answer one would get from a board of strangers. I would hate to see someone out of spite post: GO AHEAD AND DO IT.
Also, seeing posts where people constantly mention I WANT TO DIE or words to that effect are also shameful because it can be taken lightly and it is not funny.

Sorry I think it's all for attention. You don't make 2 post about suicide and have people tell you the same things over and over. And then make a 3rd post about suicide. Come on, get serious

I've known a person who killed themself. And most of the time when a person kills themself they don't announce it, they just go through with it. And they surly don't announce 3 times.

I'm sorry you knew a person who killed himself. And you're probably right, most people probably don't announce they want to kill themselves.

But it may not be like that for everyone. This person could have posted this thread for attention, but she also could have really been feeling suicidal. No one can be 100% sure.

I know what you mean. I posted earlier abt knowing two people close to me who wanted to kill themselves.

I didn't mean there are 3 people with the SN Tootie...i am just saying there have been at least three threads in several months where someone has posted they want to kill themselves. I think GET HELP would be the only common answer one would get from a board of strangers. I would hate to see someone out of spite post: GO AHEAD AND DO IT.
Also, seeing posts where people constantly mention I WANT TO DIE or words to that effect are also shameful because it can be taken lightly and it is not funny.


I've known a person who went ahead and shot herself and she didn't say that she was suicidal at all. She was just her normal self (on the outside) until one morning she dailed 911 shot herself in the head. So that's why I get upset when it's so plain that a person is just making posts for attention.

But it may not be for attention in this case. How can anyone say for sure?

It may be very likely that the thread was created for attention? But how can anyone be completely certain? Some suicidal people may feel like shouting out for help. Maybe this person was feeling suicidal and kept posting about it because she wanted attention and help. Maybe she went to professionals and hasn't posted here again, for some reason.

We can just agree to disagree. I think she's doing it for attention, and you don't. I don't see our views changing.

We can just agree to disagree. I think she's doing it for attention, and you don't. I don't see our views changing.

I wasn't trying to convince you of otherwise. I was just saying that no one can know for sure. Conversely, I can't know for sure that she was definitely feeling suicidal. She may well have made this thread for attention. All I meant was, it is possible that she was genuine.

But it may not be for attention in this case. How can anyone say for sure?

It may be very likely that the thread was created for attention? But how can anyone be completely certain? Some suicidal people may feel like shouting out for help. Maybe this person was feeling suicidal and kept posting about it because she wanted attention and help. Maybe she went to professionals and hasn't posted here again, for some reason.
Their is no way anyone can no for sure. I was suicidal when I was in school. I was so unhappy. I never actually went through with it but I remember I would use scissors and scratch up my stomach and chest.. I remember I tied a rope in a noose because I thought about hanging myself. I did other small things. The only thing that stopped me was the thought of what it would do to my family. I loved them more then I hated myself. I used to say I was going to kill myself, but I always did it in a joking manner and nobody took me seriously. It is different with everybody.

Sorry I think it's all for attention. You don't make 2 post about suicide and have people tell you the same things over and over. And then make a 3rd post about suicide. Come on, get serious

I've known a person who killed themself. And most of the time when a person kills themself they don't announce it, they just go through with it. And they surly don't announce 3 times.
but have you ever been truly suicidal yourself? do you actually know how it feels? you have to really understand the mind of someone who is suicidal before you make judgments about their actions. they don't do things and handle it in ways people would think they do. the feeling of being suicidal, feeling empty inside, is a distinct and unique one; and the mind is very, VERY different while that feeling is being experienced. people who think it's just a matter of "god my life is annoying, i'll just end it" knows nothing about the matter. i was a suicidal maniac when i was 14, while i was a frequent poster on here. although i didn't make many threads about it, i CONTANTLY made posts about how much i wanted to die/kill myself, in both serious and silly manners, but always deeply meaning what i said. and although i didn't consciously realize it at the time, all of it (especially the "i wish i was dead!!1!!11 :birthday:" type of posts) was a cry for attention THAT I NEEDED BEFORE I ENDED UP KILLING MYSELF; not just a cry for unnecessary attention in general. no one in my offline life would help me, so i turned to this board for it. and wherever someone goes for help, they need attention, and they're likely going to do anything to get it. yes tootie COULD just be lying for attention; but any, ANY posts from someone about contemplating suicide need to be taken seriously. taking chances is NOT safe. if people don't take a suicidal person seriously, they'll be even more convinced that they're worthless and won't look to those people for help anymore. it could go on until their coping resources are running low or completely out.

this post hit me hard as well; not only did i have a classmate whom i knew well kill himself a few months ago, but my suicidal tendencies, thoughts and attempt scarred me for life. there has absolutely nothing humorous that even slightly involved suicide that i have been able to laugh at since then. any and every time i hear the word suicide, if even on a retaurant menu referring to the beverages, it reminds me of everything i went through. this thread IS incredibly offensive if it's merely for attention, but it's very dangerous to assume such a thing; it is a matter of life and death, and one would be surprised to learn how effective the smallest aspects are. there is NOTHING abnormal about making constant posts about suicide on a message board if it's something they're dealing with.

Sarah, I'm glad you never went through with your suicidal thoughts. You're an extremely intelligent person, and you clearly have a lot to offer the world. :)

but have you ever been truly suicidal yourself? you have to really understand the mind of someone who is suicidal before you make judgments about their actions. they don't do things and handle it in ways people would think they do. the mind is very different while experiencing the real feeling of being suicidal. i was a suicidal maniac when i was 14, while i was a frequent poster on here. although i didn't make many threads about it, i CONTANTLY made posts about how much i wanted to die/kill myself, in both serious and silly manners, but always deeply meaning what i said. and although i didn't consciously realize it at the time, all of it (especially the "i wish i was dead!!1!!11 :birthday:" type of posts) was a cry for attention THAT I NEEDED BEFORE I ENDED UP KILLING MYSELF; not just a cry for unnecessary attention in general. no one in my offline life would help me, so i turned to this board for it. and wherever someone goes for help, they need attention, and they're likely going to do anything to get it. yes tootie COULD just be lying for attention; but any, ANY posts from someone about contemplating suicide need to be taken seriously. taking chances is NOT safe. if people don't take a suicidal person seriously, they'll be even more convinced that they're worthless and won't look to those people for help anymore. it could go on until their coping resources are running low or completely out.

this post hit me hard as well; not only did i have a classmate i knew well kill himself a few years ago, but my suicidal tendencies, thoughts and attempt scarred me for life. there has absolutely nothing humorous that even slightly involved suicide that i have been able to laugh at since then. any and every time i hear the word suicide, if even on a retaurant menu referring to the beverages, it reminds me of everything i went through. this thread IS incredibly offensive if it's merely for attention, but it's very dangerous to assume such a thing. there is NOTHING abnormal about making constant posts about suicide on a message board if it's something they're dealing with.

I've come pretty close, Last year was a ROUGH year. My best friends in the whole world was killed last year. We were joined at the hip practically, Since I'm an only child she was like my sister, we would talk to each other on the phone 5-6 times a day. She was in the room with me and my husband when I had my two girls. After she was killed I was depressed because of that and I had Post-Partum Depression. So I know the feeling of just wanting to end it all. I stayed like that for a long time.

Their is no way anyone can no for sure. I was suicidal when I was in school. I was so unhappy. I never actually went through with it but I remember I would use scissors and scratch up my stomach and chest.. I remember I tied a rope in a noose because I thought about hanging myself. I did other small things. The only thing that stopped me was the thought of what it would do to my family. I loved them more then I hated myself. I used to say I was going to kill myself, but I always did it in a joking manner and nobody took me seriously. It is different with everybody.


I'm sorry to hear this, Sonny. :( I'm glad that you are still with us.

I'm glad none of you guys went thru with it.

All this job rejection has sent me to my dark, suicidal world several times, because I thought the cycle was endless and no one would take me seriously. And for someone who is a psycho perfectionist, all this was like, 1000000x worse on me than a normal person. And then I'd think about all the people who would care if I died...and I could only think of 3, so that made it even worse because no one seemed to care if I was alive or dead. I still think that way a lot (I wonder sometimes why I keep coming on the internet because it'll make me feel that way too), but like Sonny said, I guess I love those 3 people more than I hate myself.

Great, now I'm gonna start crying. But anyway, for all that's it's probably worth, all you guys have made a positive impact on the board, so I'm glad you beat your suicidal thoughts.

don't do it call a hot line get help. sucide gets you no where. just wait maybe life will get better. plus lots of people care look at how much people posted on this including me. get better soon.

best of luck:wave: