At what point in your relationship did you start talking about the possibility of marriage? This is just a curiosity thing.

At what point in your relationship did you start talking about the possibility of marriage? This is just a curiosity thing.
About six months into the relationship.

At what point in your relationship did you start talking about the possibility of marriage? This is just a curiosity thing.


First off, I hope you are not asking for yourself, because seeing the date of when you and your boyfriend got together, that is waaaaaay too early. I don't want to sound mean, but the reality is, you need time to see what your partner is really like.

Take it from me, I was engaged twice! The first was my high school sweetheart and we were with each other 24/7. Then, I went into the armed service and decided to pop the question after only a year of being with her. Later, I found out that she and her mother were stealing money out of my bank account when I was overseas. I dumped her after I found out and that was after we got gifts and money from an engagement party.

When I met my current wife, we dated on and a little off for nearly 5 years! It takes time to really know someone inside and out. You have to see the good AND the bad in a person and decide if you can live with the bad aspects of that person.

About six months into the relationship.
Keep in mind though, I was 32 years old...not a teen or a young adult.

At what point in your relationship did you start talking about the possibility of marriage? This is just a curiosity thing.
I'm not married or anything but I noticed the date you and your boyfriend got together. My sister and her boyfriend's first date was two days before yours lol. They are actually making wedding plans now. He has a ring for her but it waiting till sometime unexpected to pop the question, as he told my mother and uncle. I say, it all depends on what kind of relationship it is, how much you two really love each other. My sister's relationship hasn't been an easy one, they had to/still have to go through alot of disapporvements of the relationship, but they just care that they love each other. Good luck!:)

My friend who is eighteen is engaged to a guy she's known for two months. Not that this has anything to do with the original question but I just thought I'd share.

My friend who is eighteen is engaged to a guy she's known for two months. Not that this has anything to do with the original question but I just thought I'd share.


That's bad...IMO

My friend who is eighteen is engaged to a guy she's known for two months. Not that this has anything to do with the original question but I just thought I'd share.
:eek:

We started the marriage talk when I was 18 and he was 20, I was engaged at 20 and married at 21. I started young LOL

I know this really doesn't have anything to do with it but I find it weird how shocked some of the people are. The reason my sis and her boyfriend are recieving disapprovals is because she is 18 and he is 35. *Shrugs*

That's bad...IMO


I think so too. I mean, at eighteen, we barely know who we are. How the heck are we supposed to figure someone else out? I just don't get it. I think it's a crazy idea.

I know this really doesn't have anything to do with it but I find it weird how shocked some of the people are. The reason my sis and her boyfriend are recieving disapprovals is because she is 18 and he is 35. *Shrugs*
:eek:

Just to clear things up, no, I am not asking for myself. Believe me, the last thing on my mind right now is any thoughts of marriage. It was just something we were discussing in one of my classes, about people who rush into marriage vs people who wait, and I was just curious about it.

Just to clear things up, no, I am not asking for myself. Believe me, the last thing on my mind right now is any thoughts of marriage. It was just something we were discussing in one of my classes, about people who rush into marriage vs people who wait, and I was just curious about it.


I'm glad to hear it. I just think both the guy and the girl take time to know each other. Go to college, get an education, get a job, live life on their own for awhile and then get to know this person who they feel they want to spend the rest of their life with.

About 6 months after we officially met we got engaged and a few months after that we were married. We are both in our 30's and knew what we wanted. We are very happy and I don't regret anything but I had to kiss a lot of frogs before I found this prince.

I guess it depends on the couple. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months, and have already discussed some of these things. Just because we're talking about marriage, doesn't mean it will happen. We know that.

I wish I was married.

It's usually a good idea to wait and get to know a person before you commit to marriage. My husband and I caught on like a house on fire. We moved in together almost immediately, and were engaged within a year.

My husband's parents married six months after they met and were together for 56 years. My parents married within a year of meeting, and that lasted 50 years. I know President Bush met his wife Laura and married her three months later.

Still, courtship shouldn't be rushed.

Keep in mind, the old proverb....

"Marry in haste, repent at leisure."

we started talking marriage after 4 months.. but didn't actually get married until 4 years later. We started dating when I was 17.. and just got married and I'm 21.

About 6 months after we officially met we got engaged and a few months after that we were married. We are both in our 30's and knew what we wanted. We are very happy and I don't regret anything but I had to kiss a lot of frogs before I found this prince.
Good Answer!!!!!:lol:

We took our time. I got engaged after 3 years of being with him. At the 4th year we married.

During our courtship we spoke about what we both wanted in life (This is very important).

I have a friend who got engaged to a friend he grew up with they were together only a few months and she asked him to marry her and he said yes and they moved in together and then she said she needed some space and went to another state with her sister and told him she'd call him when she got there and never did, this was a year ago. You never know what someone is like until you live with them.

I have a friend who got engaged to a friend he grew up with they were together only a few months and she asked him to marry her and he said yes and they moved in together and then she said she needed some space and went to another state with her sister and told him she'd call him when she got there and never did, this was a year ago. You never know what someone is like until you live with them.
That seems kinda rude.

That seems kinda rude.

kinda rude isn't strong enough actually, you should have seen what it did to him. Shattered the poor guys self confidence big time.

I have a friend who got engaged to a friend he grew up with they were together only a few months and she asked him to marry her and he said yes and they moved in together and then she said she needed some space and went to another state with her sister and told him she'd call him when she got there and never did, this was a year ago. You never know what someone is like until you live with them.

That's horrible and a very cold-hearted thing to do.

We met in June of 1995. We started dating in August. We got engaged in October and we were married January 31st 1996. We have been married for 10 years.

That's horrible and a very cold-hearted thing to do.


my heart broke for him, one of the girls that we worked with had to keep telling him "she's not coming back" and she probably thinks she can waltz back into his life like she did nothing wrong. She told his mom that she might come back to MA and visit and he said "if she does I won't be here"

kinda rude isn't strong enough actually, you should have seen what it did to him. Shattered the poor guys self confidence big time.
:( That's sad. I hope he finds a girl who wouldn't even think to do that to him.

Some people.... ohno:

6 months or so.

We met in June of 1995. We started dating in August. We got engaged in October and we were married January 31st 1996. We have been married for 10 years.

Sounds like my dad after my parents split. My dad met my stepmom after my parents split, so about April 1995. They were engaged by July 1995 and they wed in March of 1996 -- their 10th wedding anniversary was nearly three weeks ago.

:( That's sad. I hope he finds a girl who wouldn't even think to do that to him.

Some people.... ohno:

he has found someone: me, he's just not willing to let me into his life like that, he calls me his friend but never comes around on his own and he always looks scared but he hugs me tightly and sometimes doesn't let go and he has given me the loving eyes look. I refuse to give up on him he just needs time.

he has found someone: me, he's just not willing to let me into his life like that, he calls me his friend but never comes around on his own and he always looks scared but he hugs me tightly and sometimes doesn't let go and he has given me the loving eyes look. I refuse to give up on him he just needs time.
Well that's good. :) I know some people who wouldn't be that patient.

Well that's good. :) I know some people who wouldn't be that patient.


It's not easy let me tell you! My mom and I get into big fights about him, she says I'm seeing what I wanna see and that I'm just setting myself up for a world of heartache. She first of all doesn't even really know him, she's never sat down with us or watched us interact she says hi to him and leaves the room. Alot of people think that just because he's a guy if he really wanted me he wouldn't reject me no matter how hurt he was. He may be a guy but he's not like most guys he's sensitive and caring, back in June he told me he does like me but he needs to be alone for a while which I respect. He was so sweet about the whole thing and really cared about my feelings, he could have easily made it the worst day of my life but he didn't.

I kind of agree with your Mom. I don't want to be the one to rain on anybody's parade, but it really does sound that you are setting yourself up for some big time hurt.

I kind of agree with your Mom. I don't want to be the one to rain on anybody's parade, but it really does sound that you are setting yourself up for some big time hurt.


nah I don't believe it for a second I just fell for him at the worst time that's all. He's not the type of guy to go from woman to woman even his mom said so. It's hard for people who don't know us to understand because they've never met him or seen us together. Nobody hugs like that without there being emotions involved. Even if we don't end up together I'll still be happy just being his friend. I just want him to be happy, he's a great guy. Any woman who ends up with him will be very lucky. His ex is a fool.

nah I don't believe it for a second I just fell for him at the worst time that's all. He's not the type of guy to go from woman to woman even his mom said so. It's hard for people who don't know us to understand because they've never met him or seen us together. Nobody hugs like that without there being emotions involved. Even if we don't end up together I'll still be happy just being his friend. I just want him to be happy, he's a great guy. Any woman who ends up with him will be very lucky. His ex is a fool.


I don't know your relationship, but I do know how a guy thinks and believe me, something might have happened already. He may be using you (unintentionally) to soften the blow about what happened to him with his girlfriend. I mean do you really want to be the rebound? Honestly, would you care if he chose you to be just his friend? It doesn't sound like that by the way you talk about him. Really, I could be wrong, but the way you gush over the guy is not good. You are setting yourself up for a hard fall.

He may be using you (unintentionally) to soften the blow about what happened to him with his girlfriend. I mean do you really want to be the rebound? Honestly, would you care if he chose you to be just his friend?


it's really not like that, I'm the one who pursued him, we used to work together and after his breakup he got more talkative with me and when he gave his notice to leave the job I suggested we start hanging out and we have ever since. He's just not ready to date and has told me so and I've always respected that and I've never tried to push him into a relationship. He has been having a hard time with depression lately so he's not very outgoing with his friends anymore it's been like this for a while but it's not just me. We even talked about it a few weeks ago and he apologized.