View Full Version : Does a 12 year-old needs his mother to walk him to school everyday?
GARFIELDKOOL 12-16-2005, 09:37 PM My 12 year-old nephew gets walked to school and picked up by his mother everyday. Not only that, the school is 2 blocks south of the street they live on! Something is wrong with that picture. My sister has always been overprotective to her kids. I want to yell at her to tell her to stop doing that. He's not going to be independent and he's not going to grow up to be a man. I started walking to school by myself at 8, and at that age, I wouldn't dare want my mother taking me to school at that age. When I was 12, I walked with my classmates and other friends to school. Who agrees, a 12 year-old does NOT need his mother to walk him to school everyday?
Crimson and Clover 12-16-2005, 10:09 PM if you were a mother maybe youd understand
Dutabi84 12-16-2005, 10:09 PM No. Even if she's concerned about crime or something like that being an issue, the chances are a 12 year-old boy will be able to outrun/outfight anyone more effectively than his mom.
GARFIELDKOOL 12-16-2005, 10:16 PM if you were a mother maybe youd understand
I know mothers are more sensitive to these things, but come on now, my nephew does not have a disability, he's just pampered, spoiled, and sorry! my sister needs to let go! Like I said before, the school is just two blocks away.
Ireneparalegal 12-16-2005, 10:17 PM My 12 year-old nephew gets walked to school and picked up by his mother everyday. Not only that, the school is 2 blocks south of the street they live on! Something is wrong with that picture. My sister has always been overprotective to her kids. I want to yell at her to tell her to stop doing that. He's not going to be independent and he's not going to grow up to be a man. I started walking to school by myself at 8, and at that age, I wouldn't dare want my mother taking me to school at that age. When I was 12, I walked with my classmates and other friends to school. Who agrees, a 12 year-old does NOT need his mother to walk him to school everyday?
hmmm, being a mother I can understand abt the "evils" that lurk in our society...at the age of twelve I was walking alone. Hell, at age seven, I was walking with my friend or by myself. I think each situation is different. Does she do it cuz she fears the area? Is there alot of crime? Is she worried he may do "bad" things? Need more info Kool...:wave:
James"Thunder"Early 12-16-2005, 10:19 PM It's not really necessary. I can see parents driving their kids to school, as a lot of people like a ride, but walking them at age 12 is a bit much.
GARFIELDKOOL 12-16-2005, 10:27 PM hmmm, being a mother I can understand abt the "evils" that lurk in our society...at the age of twelve I was walking alone. Hell, at age seven, I was walking with my friend or by myself. I think each situation is different. Does she do it cuz she fears the area? Is there alot of crime? Is she worried he may do "bad" things? Need more info Kool...:wave:
I will be the first to admit the neighborhood is bad. But it's beyond that. I grew up in this neighborhood myself, and never felt unsafe walking to school. There are other kids who walk by themselves in that neighborhood, and it has nothing to do with parents not caring. My sister is just programmed this way. She treats this boy like he's a baby.
dawsongirl 12-16-2005, 10:37 PM I walked home with friends when I was 12. Doesn't he have any friends in the neighborhood to walk with? If she's worried about him being confronted by drug dealers or other weirdos, she needs to sit him down and talk to him about saying NO.
InspectorExstead 12-17-2005, 03:36 AM One of my high school friends walked to school every morning with her mom (and they lived close by). Whenever I saw them walking, I could tell they had a special connection, not just a mother-daughter one, but more like a friend-friend thing. I think walking to school with her mom brought them both closer together and she really loved the fact that her mom cared enough to walk her. Does your nephew despise being walked to school? Sometimes it may be the only time for a parent to really talk to their kid, before they come home from school loaded with homework and before they want to hang out with their friends. Maybe your sister just wants to feel like she still is a big part of her son's life, especially since he's going to be going through his "awkward teenage years."
Mijada 12-17-2005, 08:55 AM Looking back to when I was 12 there is no way in heck that I would have wanted my mom to walk me to school/bus stop. I started walking to the bus stop by my self in the second grade but I would meet up with friends on the way. We also lived in a safe suburban area. Had we lived in the middle of a big city with a lot of traffic my mom most likely would have accompanied me to school. Doesn't your nephew make a fuss about his mom coming with him? I see nothing wrong with letting him walk to and from school with a friend but if the neighborhood is really bad I can understand why your sister won't let him go by himself. With these kids getting kidnapped left and right these days, even in safe neighborhoods, I can't really blame your sis for being concerned. Especially since I'm now a mother myself. When Spence starts school I'll probably be paranoid too.
cablejockey 12-17-2005, 09:46 AM I can only ask the author of this thread, 'How does this affect you?'. If your nephew asked you to intervene then I can see your plight. Otherwise how your sister deals with her son is her business as long as she's not breaking any laws.
MsOrange 12-17-2005, 10:30 AM Looking back to when I was 12 there is no way in heck that I would have wanted my mom to walk me to school/bus stop. I started walking to the bus stop by my self in the second grade but I would meet up with friends on the way. We also lived in a safe suburban area. Had we lived in the middle of a big city with a lot of traffic my mom most likely would have accompanied me to school. Doesn't your nephew make a fuss about his mom coming with him? I see nothing wrong with letting him walk to and from school with a friend but if the neighborhood is really bad I can understand why your sister won't let him go by himself. With these kids getting kidnapped left and right these days, even in safe neighborhoods, I can't really blame your sis for being concerned. Especially since I'm now a mother myself. When Spence starts school I'll probably be paranoid too.
i agree... minus the mother part, i'm not there yet.
robyrob 12-17-2005, 12:01 PM my mom would sometimes chase me to school, maybe even until I was 15 or so, after that she gave up because I could outrun her, but she'd still throw things sometimes.
I was walking to school by myself when I was 9 and I was quite the troublemaker. I think at 12, you can walk to school by yourself. As some people have said, it is possible that 7AM or 8AM is the only time your sister can talk to her son. Back to the topic, two blocks is nothing and you can walk it in less than 5 minutes. When I was 9 and walking to school, I had to walk about 4 blocks, then walk through the local park. Is your sister overprotective? I really can't give a yes or no answer simply because I don't know your sister.
Brian Damage 12-17-2005, 12:55 PM I started walking to school with my older brother when I was in kindergarten.(He was in the 3rd grade) However, that was a much different time. I know kids want to be independant, but with all the kidnappings and pedophiles out there, I'd walk my child to school too. Better to have peace of mind, than anything else.
GARFIELDKOOL 12-17-2005, 02:11 PM One of my high school friends walked to school every morning with her mom (and they lived close by). Whenever I saw them walking, I could tell they had a special connection, not just a mother-daughter one, but more like a friend-friend thing. I think walking to school with her mom brought them both closer together and she really loved the fact that her mom cared enough to walk her. Does your nephew despise being walked to school? Sometimes it may be the only time for a parent to really talk to their kid, before they come home from school loaded with homework and before they want to hang out with their friends. Maybe your sister just wants to feel like she still is a big part of her son's life, especially since he's going to be going through his "awkward teenage years."
I don't know if he despises being walked to school, because I'm not around them all the time. Like I mentioned earlier, my sister is just programmed to treat all her children like babies.
Courtnee 12-17-2005, 02:39 PM I started walking by myself in 4th grade (about 9 or so) BEST. YEAR. EVAAAH!
EmoJoe 12-17-2005, 02:57 PM No. My friend started walking to school alone when he was 10. Unless its a really dangerous neighborhood or something.
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