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Nighthawk76

10-12-2005, 07:29 PM

Since the beginning of the summer I have been seriously considering leaving SO. I even did leave once or twice, but was talked back into returning by some friends. However, I have decided that it is time for me to leave. I have had some very bad experiences at SO over the past few months, and they have grown worse over the past week. I just feel the only way to put that hurt behind me is to move on.

I would like to thank all the people who have been nice to me in my almost thrree years here. I would like to offer special thanks to Jenny (Jen1978), Kate (Susan Norton), Cathy (dawsongirl), Sonny (DallasCowboysFanatic), Justin (Otter), Tara (Living In a '70's Dream), jernygrl, Cindy (musicrocksmyworld), John (BuffySlayer79) and Michael (HuntingtonM15).
Also to Janice and TJ. I know this isn't everyone, so thank you to everyone I didn't name. I'll miss you all.:)

Southern Hellraiser

10-12-2005, 07:32 PM

Mr. Television

10-12-2005, 07:42 PM

Penny Lane

10-12-2005, 07:42 PM

Goodbye Mike. :crying: :wave:

I am sorry to hear that! Please reconsider!:wave:

Cactus Jack

10-12-2005, 07:46 PM

Bye MIke :( :wave:

HuntingtonM15

10-12-2005, 07:51 PM

I hope you decide to come back, and maybe I'll see you around at Sara's board! :wave:

TJL

10-12-2005, 08:04 PM

Adios!

;)

TheGreatPretender

10-12-2005, 08:39 PM

Bye :( :wave:

*Pleasant Tomorrow*

10-12-2005, 09:11 PM

I didn't really ever talk to you, but I'm sorry to hear you're leaving...

Ireneparalegal

10-12-2005, 09:24 PM

Tuesday Weld

10-12-2005, 09:31 PM

Mike, I wish you wouldn't leave. :( But, you know what's best for you. Take Care and I hope I see you around. :bye:

robyrob

10-13-2005, 12:09 AM

Karen*

10-13-2005, 12:24 AM

I hope you reconsider staying on this board. I'm sorry that you've had some bad experiences here, but keep in mind that there are some great people in here that also think you're great and want you to stay! Please? :D

Stormtracker TF

10-13-2005, 12:37 AM

Living In a '70's Dream

10-13-2005, 12:47 AM

Mike..Please do not leave..you are one of the nicest members here at SO, and I am very glad that you and I became friends; but if you do choose to leave, please keep in touch. You are a very special person and I wish you the all the best, because you deserve it!!!:)

swedeace

10-13-2005, 01:10 AM

I have no idea what has happened/is happening, but I hate to see when people create threads of leaving a forum *because* of happenings on the forum. It's quite sad. I would say "the heck with those people" who were/are giving you a hard time for whatever reason. They do not control your life. I would just suggest to just ignore them. I mean, you have friends and fellow SOers who care about you. It's obvious with those who say "stay." :)

But... it's ultimately your decision, Jimmy Malone. You are the only person who knows what's best for you. Good luck in your decision.

Nighthawk76

10-13-2005, 03:22 AM

mike - you really dont need to leave; I dont know what happened to make you so upset but you really need to put things into perspective here and decide what is important to you - are you going to let some insignificant thing on an internet messageboard keep you from the good things here, your friends?

roby, my problems are quite a bit more serious then some "insignificant thing on an internet messageboard". I was really hurt by a fellow member of SO, one who I thought was my good friend. Coming here reminds me of this person and it is painful to be reminded.

You do make an an excellent point about leaving my "friends". Until I posted this thread I didn't even realize I even had that many friends on SO. I've always considered myself something of a loner around here. I never thought that anyone would even care if I left SO or not. Infact, I thought a few people would even be happy that I was leaving. After reading through all these posts, I guess I was wrong.

I want to thank everyone for their kind words. After reading this, I think I need to give more thought to if I really want to leave or not.

Superstar

10-13-2005, 03:27 AM

Bye Mike :( :bye:

Moonlight Lady

10-13-2005, 08:57 AM

Janice

10-13-2005, 10:27 AM

I'M THE MODERATOR AND YOU'RE NOT GOING ANYWHERE, AND THAT'S AN ORDER!

Seriously Mike, there's nothing that can't be worked out. If you need confidential help with an issue or just need to vent, please PM me.

There boards wouldn't be the same without you. :)

robyrob

10-13-2005, 12:02 PM

roby, my problems are quite a bit more serious then some "insignificant thing on an internet messageboard". I was really hurt by a fellow member of SO, one who I thought was my good friend. Coming here reminds me of this person and it is painful to be reminded.
i'm sorry if it sounded like I was making light of a situation that is obviously very serious to you, but my point is the same; something can only hurt you if you LET it hurt you.

I'm sure that everyone has been betrayed by a friend or someone close to them at some time or other but it doesnt have to be something that stays with YOU - THEY screwed up, THEY are the one that has lost your trust and friendship, and if that is the type of person they are, then YOU haven't lost anything at all. Stop undervaluing yourself and letting self-doubt cause you pain that you don't deserve. You are a good person with plenty of friends, you just need to convince yourself of it.

swedeace

10-13-2005, 12:08 PM

i'm sorry if it sounded like I was making light of a situation that is obviously very serious to you, but my point is the same; something can only hurt you if you LET it hurt you.
This is what I was trying to say in my post above. We have something that we call as "choices." We choose how we feel. Unfortunately, sometimes it's easier to "let" others make us feel a certain way by something they have said/done. It's a difficult process getting away from the notion of allowing others to control how we feel. Been there, done that myself. It takes a lot of willpower to just try and not let them get to us, especially when it comes to people we care about.

Sharop

10-13-2005, 01:53 PM

We've never spoken, Jimmy, but I agree with others who've said that it might be good if you'd reconsider. As you said yourself, you've realised just how many friends you have here and how many people like you. I understand that you're obviously very upset over whatever has happened, but maybe if you become encased in a friendly atmosphere here, then you can forget about all the bad stuff.

If you really want to leave, of course, it's entirely up to you - but would it really be the best thing? Maybe you want to leave now because the bad incidents are still fresh, but maybe later on you'll have forgotten them, or at least decided they don't matter any more.

The Chauffeur

10-13-2005, 02:15 PM

You sure have a lot of people her who would like you to stay, I'de say you may have more friends out of this than you thought you would. I haven't spoken to you much outside of a few posts here and there, but I'm here if you should change your mind :)

Holly

10-13-2005, 02:38 PM

Sorry to hear that your leaving us.... :( gl with everything..

dawsongirl

10-13-2005, 04:03 PM

Wow, what's going on??? I was PM twice last week from two posters who also were leaving because of "stuff" on this SO forums...I hate to see nice people leave...the wrong people are leaving

This site is soooo notorious for this. All the nice people leave because a few pricks are so unsufferable that they can't stick around anymore. It really pisses me off. I'm not even sure why I keep coming here, considering eventually all the nice people will be gone because there are these stupid *******s who can't keep their goddamn opinions to themselves or accept people and their opinions for what they are. **** them all. pissed:

I'm so sorry to see you leave, Mike. You're such a nice guy. :)

And whoever chased him and the others away can burn in hell.

dawsongirl

10-13-2005, 04:08 PM

Infact, I thought a few people would even be happy that I was leaving.

Oh, those people can go drink poison.

And yes, I do get very bitchy when people hurt people I like. :)

I have a friend who left here for a similar reason, so I understand. But her being forced to leave pissed me off at the time and so does this.

TVFactFan

10-13-2005, 04:14 PM

The Chauffeur

10-13-2005, 04:35 PM

I hate seeing this dumb threads. I see this on the sports boards. Why do people have to announce when they are leaving S.O. NOBODY CARES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Are you doing this to get attention? Do you want someone to BEG YOU TO STAY?? I can care less

If you could care less, why do you feel the need to post? If I don't like the title of a thread, I usually ignore it. :rolleyes:

dawsongirl

10-13-2005, 04:35 PM

pricks are so unsufferable

I'm sorry. By unsufferable pricks, I meant insensitive *******s.

Beaches

10-13-2005, 04:46 PM

Hello Everyone...My first post:wave: Mike please don't go..I just got here, You have not even got to know me yet...I'll betcha we could be friends, and you will be glad you stayed...Come on Mike...Pretty please...

TVFactFan

10-13-2005, 04:52 PM

Mike Please don;t go-lol

Ireneparalegal

10-13-2005, 05:10 PM

I'm sorry. By unsufferable pricks, I meant insensitive *******s.
so true. forums are for discussion, not belittling people. like I said, too many nice people go and all the D***KS STAY. Those who are rude, crude and lewd know who they are. They are NOT posting here!!!! LMAO!!!!

don't jump all over me. not everyone WHO DOESN'T post here is a D**k, but i think those of us know pretty much who are some of those.

Mr. Television

10-13-2005, 05:17 PM

Wow, what's going on??? I was PM twice last week from two posters who also were leaving because of "stuff" on this SO forums...I hate to see nice people leave...the wrong people are leaving....Didn't get to know you very well, but sorry to see you go...wish u change your mind

Theirs always been a fair amount of drama on SO. I've got caught up in it too and sometimes its easier said then done to just forget things. I hope Mike decides to stay. I pondered leaving at one time but in the end I decided to stay because I had made a lot of friends here and I would miss them to much if I just left.Its the good people here on SO that makes me keep wanting to come back.

EmoJoe

10-13-2005, 05:32 PM

i'm sorry if it sounded like I was making light of a situation that is obviously very serious to you, but my point is the same; something can only hurt you if you LET it hurt you.

I'm sure that everyone has been betrayed by a friend or someone close to them at some time or other but it doesnt have to be something that stays with YOU - THEY screwed up, THEY are the one that has lost your trust and friendship, and if that is the type of person they are, then YOU haven't lost anything at all. Stop undervaluing yourself and letting self-doubt cause you pain that you don't deserve. You are a good person with plenty of friends, you just need to convince yourself of it.
Yeah a lot of things bad have happened to me here before, things where I considererd leaving, but you cant let those things get to you.

I dont know you that well, but I hope you change your mind. Bye :( :wave:

JeffRuss1972

10-13-2005, 05:34 PM

Mike Please don;t go-lol
:lol:

theshark8777

10-13-2005, 05:51 PM

If you could care less, why do you feel the need to post? If I don't like the title of a thread, I usually ignore it. :rolleyes:

For real, I wonder if you are part of the problem?

The Chauffeur

10-13-2005, 05:52 PM

For real, I wonder if you are part of the problem?

I was wondering the same thing.

Ireneparalegal

10-13-2005, 05:57 PM

For real, I wonder if you are part of the problem?
Oooooooooooooo:eek:

Sharop

10-13-2005, 06:10 PM

I hate seeing this dumb threads. I see this on the sports boards. Why do people have to announce when they are leaving S.O. NOBODY CARES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Are you doing this to get attention? Do you want someone to BEG YOU TO STAY?? I can care less

Hi Solomon :)

I honestly don't mean to be rude or offensive, but I think your post may have been a little hard on Jimmy Malone, or Mike. I can understand why you get sick of threads like this, but I don't think he was posting it to get attention. I think he just announced he was leaving so that the friends he knew he had made here would know, and therefore not wonder where he was if/when he didn't show up. It's possible that he may have subconsciously wanted advice on whether to stay or not, since he seems to be giving it more thought. To me, Jimmy Malone seems like a nice guy, and while I understand what you're saying, Solomon, I think your post could be interpreted to come across as a little abrasive. Believe me, I'm not trying to offend you or be rude, it's just the way some people may interpret it. Jimmy Malone came across as quite upset over what has happened previously in his posts in this thread; I don't think he made this thread just for attention.

Anyway, if you're still reading this thread, Mike, will you give it some more thought and maybe reconsider? In time, what happened in the past may very well be just a faint memory.

Hollow

10-13-2005, 06:27 PM

Theirs always been a fair amount of drama on SO.

heh, remember when everyone threw a tantrum and claimed they were going to leave the boards just because images were disabled in signatures?

(if this were "family guy", a flashback of everyone whining and yelling at TJ over the "deaths of their siggys" would appear, and there would be no exaggerations or extra satire thrown into the scene because it's hilarious enough as it is)

or the time a certain elizabeth montgomery fan left and said she was about to shoot herself and told another member that she wanted her dead all just because this 'villain' made an LJ and sort of role-played her?

(flashback of the two members speaking in their posts made towards each other during holly's last few days here, only this time there is a bit of exaggeration to the extent that would not have been surprising; in the background, the song "last resort" by papa roach is playing on holly's cd player and she is shown crying, mascara running down her face, and cutting her wrists with a chain saw, and next to her is a suicide note she had just written that reads: "to everyone on sitcomsonline.com chit chat message board - as i slide the chainsaw down my wrists, i become farther away from all of you stupid people and closer to liz, whom i've never had any interaction with whatsoever but love with all of my tortured heart more than anyone i actually know. i hate you." all while kristina is playing with a yo-yo and trying not to laugh)

the good old days.

Mr. Television

10-13-2005, 07:06 PM

heh, remember when everyone threw a tantrum and claimed they were going to leave the boards just because images were disabled in signatures?

(if this were "family guy", a flashback of everyone whining and yelling at TJ over the "deaths of their siggys" would appear, and there would be no exaggerations or extra satire thrown into the scene because it's hilarious enough as it is)

or the time a certain elizabeth montgomery fan left and said she was about to shoot herself and told another member that she wanted her dead all just because this 'villain' made an LJ and sort of role-played her?

(flashback of the two members speaking in their posts made towards each other during holly's last few days here, only this time there is a bit of exaggeration to the extent that would not have been surprising; in the background, the song "last resort" by papa roach is playing on holly's cd player and she is shown crying, mascara running down her face, and cutting her wrists with a chain saw, and next to her is a suicide note she had just written that reads: "to everyone on sitcomsonline.com chit chat message board - as i slide the chainsaw down my wrists, i become farther away from all of you stupid people and closer to liz, whom i've never had any interaction with whatsoever but love with all of my tortured heart more than anyone i actually know. i hate you." all while kristina is playing with a yo-yo and trying not to laugh)

the good old days.

Yea I remember all of that. Memories. :lol:

Bobby F.

10-13-2005, 07:14 PM

Hi Solomon :)

I honestly don't mean to be rude or offensive, but I think your post may have been a little hard on Jimmy Malone, or Mike. I can understand why you get sick of threads like this, but I don't think he was posting it to get attention. I think he just announced he was leaving so that the friends he knew he had made here would know, and therefore not wonder where he was if/when he didn't show up. It's possible that he may have subconsciously wanted advice on whether to stay or not, since he seems to be giving it more thought. To me, Jimmy Malone seems like a nice guy, and while I understand what you're saying, Solomon, I think your post could be interpreted to come across as a little abrasive. Believe me, I'm not trying to offend you or be rude, it's just the way some people may interpret it. Jimmy Malone came across as quite upset over what has happened previously in his posts in this thread; I don't think he made this thread just for attention.

Anyway, if you're still reading this thread, Mike, will you give it some more thought and maybe reconsider? In time, what happened in the past may very well be just a faint memory.

I can see RetroTVCollectors point though. If you're going to leave - then leave. Why annoce it to everyone. If you are having problems with a few people, announcing it just gives them another shot at aggrivating(?) you and makes them fell like they won because you are leaving. Just tell the friends that you've made on here that you're leaving in a PM or e-mail. Threads like these really do look like that person is fishing for complements. I don't know Jimmy Malone and he may be a great person but most of the time when you see a thread saying "I'm leaving" that person usually comes right back.

Sharop

10-13-2005, 07:20 PM

I can see RetroTVCollectors point though. If you're going to leave - then leave. Why annoce it to everyone. If you are having problems with a few people, announcing it just gives them another shot at aggrivating(?) you and makes them fell like they won because you are leaving. Just tell the friends that you've made on here that you're leaving in a PM or e-mail. Threads like these really do look like that person is fishing for complements. I don't know Jimmy Malone and he may be a great person but most of the time when you see a thread saying "I'm leaving" that person usually comes right back.

I can see Solomon's point too. I can see why it would get annoying. But I think that because other people have made quite a lot of threads like these in the past, then others may tend to think that it's the normal thing to do when you're going to leave and that it's generally accepted by everyone who comes here. Rather like when you see someone doing something at school, and you're not aware that other people disapprove of it, and you follow suit because you think it's what everybody does. I know it can seem like you're looking for attention by making threads like these, but I don't think Jimmy Malone was, because he seemed genuinely upset about the incidents he referred to in his posts, and I think he just wanted to get it off his chest.

spunkygirl

10-13-2005, 10:10 PM

Mike I hope you reconsider, don't give those jerks the power to chase you away, that's probably what they want. Show them they can't drive you away :)

Anyways I'll miss you :( :bye:

Zebra 3

10-14-2005, 03:20 PM

I'm sorry. By unsufferable pricks, I meant insensitive *******s.
Thanks for clearing that up.

Nighthawk76

10-14-2005, 06:29 PM

I've really missed all my freinds here, and after reading all the kind words that many of them posted, I decided that I could not leave. I know there are some people out there who are going to think I am an attention whore who was just trying to attract attention with this post. And if you wish to believe this, more power to you. The people who know me and are my friends know the truth. And for people who are not my friends, frankly, it really doesn't matter what you think of me anyway.

Jenny, Justin, Sonny, Tara, Cathy, Michael, Cindy, Jeremy, Jack, Janice, Penny Lane and everyone else who posted kind words about me, I just want you guys and girls to know that I think you all rock!:D :rock:

Sharop

10-14-2005, 06:36 PM

I'm glad to see you decided to stay, Jimmy. :) Try not to dwell upon whatever happened in the past. Just think of all the friends you have here (which apparently you've already done, since you've decided to stay.)

Mr. Television

10-14-2005, 06:47 PM

I'm glad you decided to stay Mike. You have a lot of friends here that really care for you. I know a lot of threads have been created like this just to draw attention but this one was not and anyone that knows you understands that. :)

Nighthawk76

10-14-2005, 06:56 PM

Southern Hellraiser

10-14-2005, 07:04 PM

Nighthawk76

10-14-2005, 07:16 PM

Thank you. :)

Anytime :)

swedeace

10-14-2005, 07:55 PM

Hollow

10-14-2005, 11:05 PM

glad you're staying.

Nighthawk76

10-14-2005, 11:11 PM

glad you're staying.

Thanks Sarah :)

TheGreatPretender

10-14-2005, 11:17 PM

Glad yer staying too. :wave:

swedeace

10-14-2005, 11:21 PM

Nighthawk76

10-14-2005, 11:22 PM

Glad yer staying too. :wave:

Thanks

Nighthawk76

10-14-2005, 11:26 PM

A bit of an insecurity comment, but....

Do ALL my above posts sound insulting or not as complimenting or something? I just wonder because I am trying to be helpful but have gotten no response from a certain individual. I don't mean to sound ungracious. I am just trying to sound realistic and helpful. Sorry if it sounded insulting. Didn't mean it.

Anyway.... *goes back to hide in her shell after this wee bit of insecurity happening*

No, your posts are not insulting at all. :) And you have been very helpful. In this whole ordeal I have been going through there have only really been two people who have been insulting and I think they know who they are. But they are two people I don't like to begin with, so who cares what they think.

Stormtracker TF

10-15-2005, 12:17 AM

Really glad to hear you're staying too.

The Chauffeur

10-15-2005, 12:28 AM

I'm glad too!:) :wave:

dawsongirl

10-15-2005, 01:46 AM

Thanks for clearing that up.

Always happy to help. :D

dawsongirl

10-15-2005, 01:47 AM