Does anyone know the defense mechanism where people try to cover up their own faults by pointing out everyone else's and making people feel bad about themselves, all while acting like they're faultless? I've been looking on this website, but I can't seem to find it, so I thought I'd ask if anyone knew it offhand.

As in the name for it? I just tend to call it "my dad"

As in the name for it? I just tend to call it "my dad"
Really, I call it "my Mom"

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Devaluation: The individual deals with emotional conflict or internal or external stressors by attributing exaggerated negative qualities to self or others.

Is that what I'm getting at?

Maybe this is better:

Projection: Attributing one's thoughts or impulses to another person. In common use, this is limited to unacceptable or undesirable impulses. Examples: (1) a man, unable to accept that he has competitive or hostile feelings about an acquaintance, says, “He doesn’t like me.” (2) a woman, denying to herself that she has sexual feelings about a co-worker, accuses him, without basis, of flirt and described him as a “wolf.”

It's projection.

It's projection.
Thanks!

It is also known in other circles as bullying.

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Devaluation: The individual deals with emotional conflict or internal or external stressors by attributing exaggerated negative qualities to self or others.

Is that what I'm getting at?
Oh, what the heck - to add to this list: my sister.... :lol:

Anyway....

I think you were looking for a specific term, correct, Cathy? (Is that spelled correctly?) I can't think of it, but I think some others did. What popped into my head when I first read your thread was like a comeback thing. I would say it would be to outwit the other person. You know, play their game and let them perish with it.

Oh, what the heck - to add to this list: my sister.... :lol:

Anyway....

I think you were looking for a specific term, correct, Cathy? (Is that spelled correctly?) I can't think of it, but I think some others did. What popped into my head when I first read your thread was like a comeback thing. I would say it would be to outwit the other person. You know, play their game and let them perish with it.

Sounds delightfully evil. :devil: :D