as some of you know, my dad and i don't get along, at all. well a few months ago, he got a girlfriend. and the problem is that i CAN'T STAND HER. she's always prying into my business and asking me questions i don't want to answer. i don't feel comfortable around her and she doesn't do anything to help that. and the worst part is, today i have to eat dinner with her family and my dad.

a few months ago, my dad had band practice (he goes to a church with a band and all and he's part of it). i said i didn't want to go and she said "why?" i said "because i don't want to go." she said "that's not a good enough answer, i expect a real answer and explanation". and she wouldn't drop it until i told her to get over it and shut up. she then accused my mom of stopping me from seeing my dad and it turned into a fight and i ended up upset and miserable. she does this ALL THE TIME. ugh.

how do i tell her i don't feel comfortable around her and tell her i expect to be treated better? i did once and my dad got pissed at me and it turned into a fight. i hate all these problems now. :(

Tell her to **** off and mind her own bussiness. And tell her you hate her guts, and such. Make her feel terrible.

i did that to her daughter and my dad defended her, not me. i've considered doing that for her though. once i told her that my dad was being a jackass to me and then she made me repeat it to his face and he got pissed. :rolleyes:

Talk to you mom about it and maybe she and your dad can figure something out. You shouldn't be stuck in the middle like that and you shouldn't be forced to be in this womans company if it makes you feel uncomfortable. On the other hand maybe this woman is just trying to be friendly and trying to get to know you better by asking all these questions. She may be just as uncomfortable in this situation as you are. I know because a few years ago I was in a relationship with a man who had 2 teenage children and I sometimes felt like I was on the outside looking in. Fortunately for me the fellow I used to date had two really great boys who were accepting of me and gave me a chance and tried to make me as comfortable as possible.

I think you should talk to your mom about it, maybe your mom can tell your dad for his girlfriend to lay off or something. If that doesn't work, then you should either ignore her completely or just tell her to screw herself. If I were you, I'd tell her to screw herself.

god almighty i hate people like that. speak your mind to her, straight up. tell her she's a bitch. tell her she's making you miserable. not the most respectful solution, but she's asking for it.

It might be a good idea to try a gentler approach at first - that's probably the coward in me talking, but if you get angry and are rude to her, it's likely to only make matters worse. What kind of things does she ask you?

Maybe you could try explaining to her that privacy is important to you and you feel uncomfortable with some of the stuff she says. Don't outrightly say it's her that makes you feel uncomfortable, as that could cause some upset, but perhaps you could imply that some of the things she says/does unnerve you.

You could put it across as politely as possible, or, if you don't want to speak to her, you could say the same thing to your Dad, again, as politely as possible, or speak to your Mum. But it might be a good idea to get your Dad's girlfriend alone and speak with her and try to sort things out. Maybe you could look for some common interests the two of you might share, and see if you can relate to each other that way. But if she or her daughter get too annoying, my advice is to remain as polite, friendly and calm as you possibly can, no matter how angry you feel. If you keep your cool, not only will you avoid a fight, but you should come out of the situation feeling better about yourself for not caving into your feelings. It takes a lot of work, but you can do it.

Tell her in a nice way how you feel. Maybe you guys can work things out.

I agree with what everyone else said. If it were me, I would start screaming and going off on her, because that's how I deal with people who piss me off. You should talk to your mom about it too, and she could talk to your dad. Good luck ;)

as some of you know, my dad and i don't get along, at all. well a few months ago, he got a girlfriend. and the problem is that i CAN'T STAND HER. she's always prying into my business and asking me questions i don't want to answer. i don't feel comfortable around her and she doesn't do anything to help that. and the worst part is, today i have to eat dinner with her family and my dad.

a few months ago, my dad had band practice (he goes to a church with a band and all and he's part of it). i said i didn't want to go and she said "why?" i said "because i don't want to go." she said "that's not a good enough answer, i expect a real answer and explanation". and she wouldn't drop it until i told her to get over it and shut up. she then accused my mom of stopping me from seeing my dad and it turned into a fight and i ended up upset and miserable. she does this ALL THE TIME. ugh.

how do i tell her i don't feel comfortable around her and tell her i expect to be treated better? i did once and my dad got pissed at me and it turned into a fight. i hate all these problems now. :(

TALK TO YOUR MOM!!!!!!!!!!

Sounds like she was asking some reasonable questions to me. Maybe she wanted to find out your feelings and why you didn't want to go so she could address them. I don't know what the whole story is, but is it possible your not giving her respect and therefore she isn't giving it to you either?

kill her

as some of you know, my dad and i don't get along, at all. well a few months ago, he got a girlfriend. and the problem is that i CAN'T STAND HER. she's always prying into my business and asking me questions i don't want to answer. i don't feel comfortable around her and she doesn't do anything to help that. and the worst part is, today i have to eat dinner with her family and my dad.

a few months ago, my dad had band practice (he goes to a church with a band and all and he's part of it). i said i didn't want to go and she said "why?" i said "because i don't want to go." she said "that's not a good enough answer, i expect a real answer and explanation". and she wouldn't drop it until i told her to get over it and shut up. she then accused my mom of stopping me from seeing my dad and it turned into a fight and i ended up upset and miserable. she does this ALL THE TIME. ugh.

how do i tell her i don't feel comfortable around her and tell her i expect to be treated better? i did once and my dad got pissed at me and it turned into a fight. i hate all these problems now. :(

Oh god...I hate people who are all like, That's not a good enough excuse! Why the hell not?! I don't feel like going, plain and simple. What a bitch. She sounds like, if you said, I find band practice to be deathly dull, and I don't feel like dying today, she'd get pissed anyway. I'd stay as far away from her as possible. She's not your mom but she's trying to act all like she is. I'm sure your mom wouldn't appreciate that either.

Just tell her you dont feel comfortable around her yet, and if she wants to make things easier, she has to respect your privacy until YOU decide when you want to accept her.

Please see a family therapist.

I had/have the same problem with my Mum's boyfriend.He sh*ts me to tears to put it simply.All he does is put down my father who I dont see very often,and try to boss everyone around.I've had a few run ins with him,but I dont give a sh*t really.I love my Mum though,so I try and keep the peace.I just dont talk to him,and if he talks to me,I give him very short,brief answers.I think he gets the picture.

What the hell, how long have her and your dad been going out? She doesn't have a right to talk to you like that yet.