It really pisses me off. I hate seeing all of the TV commercials for ways to "honor your dad". My dad treats me like **** and expects me to stand there and take his insults and abuse. He doesn't realize that I have feelings too. He put my whole family through very much suffering and pain. Father's Day makes me sick.

And I hate the saying "Like father, like son". That's implying that the son should be an exact copy in all ways of his father. Some boys like me have a horrible father that they hate, so what good would it do to be like him? Plus father's day is just a day invented to sell greeting cards.

Sorry if I offended anyone, but thats how I feel.

Originally posted by BeaverFan5
It really pisses me off. I hate seeing all of the TV commercials for ways to "honor your dad". My dad treats me like **** and expects me to stand there and take his insults and abuse. He doesn't realize that I have feelings too. He put my whole family through very much suffering and pain. Father's Day makes me sick.



I feel the same way.

They don't make cards that say "Happy Father's Day. You emotionally and mentally abused me my entire life, you made me not trust men, lowered my self esteem and caused me more grief in my life than you will ever know (not that you care).

You are one in a million and boy I'm lucky to have you".

Yah I'm not a big fan of this day either.

And somewhere out there I wonder if my kid's father, who has never seen her or made one iota of an effort to be part of her life, wonders what kind of father he might have been. i know what kind he is now - non existant. But does he think of this day?

ugh whatever

[QUOTE]Originally posted by BeaverFan5
[B]It really pisses me off. I hate seeing all of the TV commercials for ways to "honor your dad". My dad treats me like **** and expects me to stand there and take his insults and abuse. He doesn't realize that I have feelings too. He put my whole family through very much suffering and pain. Father's Day makes me sick.

And I hate the saying "Like father, like son". That's implying that the son should be an exact copy in all ways of his father. Some boys like me have a horrible father that they hate, so what good would it do to be like him? Plus father

Originally posted by BeaverFan5
It really pisses me off. I hate seeing all of the TV commercials for ways to "honor your dad". My dad treats me like **** and expects me to stand there and take his insults and abuse. He doesn't realize that I have feelings too. He put my whole family through very much suffering and pain. Father's Day makes me sick.

And I hate the saying "Like father, like son". That's implying that the son should be an exact copy in all ways of his father. Some boys like me have a horrible father that they hate, so what good would it do to be like him? Plus father's day is just a day invented to sell greeting cards.

Sorry if I offended anyone, but thats how I feel.

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU 100%, but i did buy that jerk a card anyways:rolleyes:

Originally posted by peter may
I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU 100%, but i did buy that jerk a card anyways:rolleyes:

I didn't and I won't. I barely have the money to get by as it is. I'm not wasting what little I might have on something so fake and phony.

I will buy my dad a small card, nothing fancy, just enough so he won't tell his family what a disgrace to his side of the family I am:rolleyes: I will buy him the cheapest looking card at the store.

ok i understand now-edit

Originally posted by Rurry007
I dont think thats really nice.

Don't criticize someone for how they feel unless you've been through it.

I know how he feels and I would never tell him it's not nice. You can't help how you feel towards someone who treats you like crap your entire life.

Originally posted by Nanny Fine
Don't criticize someone for how they feel unless you've been through it.

I know how he feels and I would never tell him it's not nice. You can't help how you feel towards someone who treats you like crap your entire life.

I can see your point. I am lucky to have a good dad who is still with my mom, after 17 years of marriage(next week). :)

I didn't get my dad anything either.

Originally posted by Nanny Fine
Don't criticize someone for how they feel unless you've been through it.

I know how he feels and I would never tell him it's not nice. You can't help how you feel towards someone who treats you like crap your entire life.

You did the same thing.

http://www.sitcomsonline.com/boards/showthread.php?s=&threadid=105866&highlight=grandmother

Originally posted by Idol Fanatic
You did the same thing.

http://www.sitcomsonline.com/boards/showthread.php?s=&threadid=105866&highlight=grandmother

Bite my ass, it's a different situation.

And this Rurry person is what - 11?

I'm 33 years old. I've been around a bit more.

My grandmother and my father were mother and son. He treated me like **** my entire life, she treated me like I was gold. I miss her, I hate him.

Rurry is telling someone it's not nice to hate his dad. I think being a kid he has no idea what he's talking about. He doesn't know.

Originally posted by Nanny Fine
Bite my ass, it's a different situation.

And this Rurry person is what - 11?

I'm 33 years old. I've been around a bit more.

My grandmother and my father were mother and son. He treated me like **** my entire life, she treated me like I was gold. I miss her, I hate him.

Rurry is telling someone it's not nice to hate his dad. I think being a kid he has no idea what he's talking about. He doesn't know.

and that person was complaining about their grandmother being irritating and mean because she's old. I don't like my dad because he told me my entire life I was worthless, would never amount to anything and no man would ever want me. It has nothing to do with age. It's because he's a jackass.

Originally posted by Nanny Fine
Bite my ass, it's a different situation.

And this Rurry person is what - 11?

I'm 33 years old. I've been around a bit more.

My grandmother and my father were mother and son. He treated me like **** my entire life, she treated me like I was gold. I miss her, I hate him.

Rurry is telling someone it's not nice to hate his dad. I think being a kid he has no idea what he's talking about. He doesn't know.

You're completely contradicting yourself then. you didn't "know" their situation either.. you were just basing it off of your own experience. which is exactly what you're telling rurry not to do.

Originally posted by Idol Fanatic
You're completely contradicting yourself then. you didn't "know" their situation either.. you were just basing it off of your own experience. which is exactly what you're telling rurry not to do.

I'm not gonna argue with you and this will be my last response on it to you but to me it's completey different and there is no contradiction.

So :wave: to you and I'm done with it.

what I don't like about my dad is that he is only there when things are good. The second there is a problem though he wants nothing to do with it. To me, that is what being a parent is all about. He flips out about everything and hates whenever he's being "bothered." It's called being a parent.

http://www.sitcomsonline.com/boards/attachment.php?s=&postid=1823313

Originally posted by Nanny Fine
I'm not gonna argue with you and this will be my last response on it but to me it's complete different and there is no contradiction.

So :wave: to you and I'm done with it.

alrighty but maybe you should realize that other people have different situations too and that your experiences aren't what they should base their feelings on.

Originally posted by Brent88
http://www.sitcomsonline.com/boards/attachment.php?s=&postid=1823313
:lol: I love it Brent. I hope you don't mind it if I use it in the future to stop arguments.

Originally posted by Janice
:lol: I love it Brent. I hope you don't mind it if I use it in the future to stop arguments.

Actually, AKA first used it in the VCR thread spat last night. I love it too. :lol:

Beav, is your dad like really nasty to you, or does he just get aggrivated once in a while?

Originally posted by Nanny Fine
Don't criticize someone for how they feel unless you've been through it.

I know how he feels and I would never tell him it's not nice. You can't help how you feel towards someone who treats you like crap your entire life.

Beav is my age, 12, and he might be going through a stage or something.

Originally posted by Rurry007
Beav is my age, 12, and he might be going through a stage or something.

I was 9 when I started having feelings of dislike which eventually grew into hate with my dad.

That was almost 25 years ago.

Hmm. My dad treated me like I was worthless too. I've really had some problems with him in the last few years. My dad was like your dad Nanny Fine (Sorry I dont know what your real name is). But I somehow have been able to come over that feeling of hatred I had for him. I really dont know how. I cant say that absolutely adore my father because he has done things to me that are unforgiveable, but I do care for him. So yeah, me and my siblings got him a card, signed it and sent it to him. And that was it. Nothing extremely special.

Originally posted by consentida
Hmm. My dad treated me like I was worthless too. I've really had some problems with him in the last few years. My dad was like your dad Nanny Fine (Sorry I dont know what your real name is). But I somehow have been able to come over that feeling of hatred I had for him. I really dont know how. I cant say that absolutely adore my father because he has done things to me that are unforgiveable, but I do care for him. So yeah, me and my siblings got him a card, signed it and sent it to him. And that was it. Nothing extremely special.

I'm hoping as I am able to grow into a relationship with a man (I'm in the early stages of something now with a guy) that the resentment and anger I feel towards my dad will lessen. MANY of the issues I have had with guys throughout my early adult and adult life have stemmed from things he said/did as I was growing up. We'll see. It's like...a circle that needs completed first or something. I dont know how to explain it.

My name is Jamie, btw.

Originally posted by Brent88
http://www.sitcomsonline.com/boards/attachment.php?s=&postid=1823313


Apparently not Beaverfan and his father.

Originally posted by Cena637
Apparently not Beaverfan and his father.

The kind of thing BF5 and his dad has going cannot be simply solved with a "I'm sorry." because it doesn't work that way. His dad's been doing it for years and when this kind of stuff happens, you can never forgive your own dad for it.

I feel so alone on this thread. I love my father. He's hardly ever around though. He works late and he and his band play in local bars so I'm lucky I ever see him. When he is around he's playing video games or watching the history channl with my brother. For Father's Day, I gave him a hug and told him I loved him and asked him if he had to work tonight. He does.:(

Originally posted by Mrs. Ducky
I feel so alone on this thread. I love my father. He's hardly ever around though. He works late and he and his band play in local bars so I'm lucky I ever see him. When he is around he's playing video games or watching the history channl with my brother. For Father's Day, I gave him a hug and told him I loved him and asked him if he had to work tonight. He does.:(

You dont have to feel alone. It's good to have that relationship.

There is another thread about Father's Day though that is all positive stuff. You could post in that one :)

Originally posted by Mrs. Ducky
I feel so alone on this thread. I love my father. He's hardly ever around though. He works late and he and his band play in local bars so I'm lucky I ever see him. When he is around he's playing video games or watching the history channl with my brother. For Father's Day, I gave him a hug and told him I loved him and asked him if he had to work tonight. He does.:(

My dad works quite a lot too... 12 hour shifts, rotating between 7am and 7pm and 7pm and 7am. The pay is EXCELLENT though(he makes a ton). The good news is... he only works 4 days in a row and then gets a couple off and then once a month gets a week off, so it's not all bad. He's working nights right now, but is awake as I type, watching golf. :)

Originally posted by BeaverFan5
It really pisses me off. I hate seeing all of the TV commercials for ways to "honor your dad". My dad treats me like **** and expects me to stand there and take his insults and abuse. He doesn't realize that I have feelings too. He put my whole family through very much suffering and pain. Father's Day makes me sick.

And I hate the saying "Like father, like son". That's implying that the son should be an exact copy in all ways of his father. Some boys like me have a horrible father that they hate, so what good would it do to be like him? Plus father's day is just a day invented to sell greeting cards.

Sorry if I offended anyone, but thats how I feel.

I love my dad very much, he's the only parent I have cause I lost my mom when I was 4.

I'm sorry that your dad is like that. My dad isn't perfect but at least he'd never beat me, or abuse me in any way.

I don't see my dad very much these days he travels for his job, and I miss him alot. I know even if we don't say it very much, that he does love me.

I think my brother would feel the same way as you about our dad, he and my dad don't get along. I don't think he hates our dad, there's just some bad blood cause of our step mom.

I try to get my dad and brother to make up, my dad says he bears no ill will towards my brother but my brother just cannot let bygones be bygones. Which breaks my heart :(

Im glad I have my Dad.

****ty father's day, everyone. my dad sucks because i'm his own daughter and he doesn't take my problems with depression, anxiety and obsessive-compulsive behavior seriously. he makes fun of them and handles them totally wrong. who the hell contemplates sending someone to an insane asylum for threatening to kill themself? well he did. i also hate him for alot of other reasons that i'm not gonna bother expalining. hey, he could be member #3 of the official sarah haters club. :)

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sxsxssfsj

I don't much like my dad either. I mean, I was nice to him today and he was nice to me. Which is good. But usually, we just can't stop FIGHTING.

And in reply to this -

And I hate the saying "Like father, like son". That's implying that the son should be an exact copy in all ways of his father.

Yes, that phrase is evil. There's a song called "Like Father, Like Son" from the musical Aida and the father is really evil (he's the bad guy in the musical) and the son sings his part and the lyrics read -

Well, this may come as quite a shock
But I'm no chip off any block
I wouldn't wish those words on anyone
Like father, like son

I dunno, that just reminded me of it *shrug*

Originally posted by Kristina
My family actually put me in one. Not because of anything, just because they wanted to get rid of me. They even admitted that. :lol:
When i was 11 or 12 my parents wanted to send me to a bording school because they were sick of me. :lol: and yeah my dad yets mad over everything too. he yells at me if i spill something like juice. one time i forgot to bring home something from school and he threw a phone book at me. and the other night he asked me if i watch the simple life and i said "no, i don't like reality TV" and he started yelling at me about how i can't judge every reality show based on "one" i've seen. :lol:

I am so sorry for all of you who have bad fathers. But I love my dad who is now 81 and housebound due to Parkinson's disease. Thankfully he is still with us this year. Oh yes, I used to think that he was a total jerk when I was young but I appreciate him now. He was a faithful husband who had very high moral standards(which I of course rebelled against at times!);) But he was/is a good man. I know that there are a lot of irresponsible jerks out there and I am thankful that I have the good dad that I was blessed with! So I say...............


HOORAY FOR DADS!:clap:

Originally posted by Mrs. Ducky
I feel so alone on this thread. I love my father. He's hardly ever around though. He works late and he and his band play in local bars so I'm lucky I ever see him. When he is around he's playing video games or watching the history channl with my brother. For Father's Day, I gave him a hug and told him I loved him and asked him if he had to work tonight. He does.:(

I love my dad too. He's wonderful overall. We don't always agree, but then who expects to agree with everything someone says or does?

Too bad not everyone can have a great dad.

I do not agree with this topic. I love both Father's Day and my father very much. Granted, I don't have a verbally, physically, or emotionally abusive father so I don't know what the pain is like. I was lucky enough to have a father that loved me and my family, provides and cares for us well, taught us about responsibility, respect, and honor. Also, and most importantly, he brought me up in a Christian, God-fearing* home. I want to stress that BeaverFan5 and anyone else with bad parents, (Or, if you just think they're bad parents) find a local church to pray and talk with a Pastor about it.

*When you hear the words "God-fearing", it doesn't mean what it sounds like on the surface, lol.

Originally posted by ConservativeBalla
I do not agree with this topic. I love both Father's Day and my father very much. Granted, I don't have a verbally, physically, or emotionally abusive father so I don't know what the pain is like. I was lucky enough to have a father that loved me and my family, provides and cares for us well, taught us about responsibility, respect, and honor. Also, and most importantly, he brought me up in a Christian, God-fearing* home. I want to stress that BeaverFan5 and anyone else with bad parents, (Or, if you just think they're bad parents) find a local church to pray and talk with a Pastor about it.

*When you hear the words "God-fearing", it doesn't mean what it sounds like on the surface, lol.

You dont know what Beav goes through. He PMed me about it and now I agree.

I love my dad, too!:eyes: :heart: :biglove:

Originally posted by Rurry007
You dont know what Beav goes through. He PMed me about it and now I agree.
I do not agree with this topic. I love both Father's Day and my father very much. Granted, I don't have a verbally, physically, or emotionally abusive father so I don't know what the pain is like. I was lucky enough to have a father that loved me and my family, provides and cares for us well, taught us about responsibility, respect, and honor. Also, and most importantly, he brought me up in a Christian, God-fearing* home. I want to stress that BeaverFan5 and anyone else with bad parents, (Or, if you just think they're bad parents) find a local church to pray and talk with a Pastor about it.

Originally posted by Topanga
I love my dad very much, he's the only parent I have cause I lost my mom when I was 4.

:( I'm so sorry.

I love my dad, too, and I can't imagine what the people here with abusive parents must go through. :o

Originally posted by Rurry007
You dont know what Beav goes through. He PMed me about it and now I agree.

OK... good grief. :rolleyes:

Not all parents(mom's AND dad's are perfect, that's for sure, but you don't have to repeat it 100 times). We got it.

Originally posted by david&maddie4ever


I can't imagine what the people here with abusive parents must go through. :o

I'm in my mid 30's and I'm still scarred by the abuse. IT takes years to work through - I know and I'm not there yet.

Originally posted by david&maddie4ever
:( I'm so sorry.

I love my dad, too, and I can't imagine what the people here with abusive parents must go through. :o

1 parent is better than none. I would give anything to have my mother back, even if I don't remember much about her.

My grandfather was like a father to me also. I miss him dearly

Originally posted by Topanga
1 parent is better than none.

That's a great outlook. I'd never be able to be that optimistic in your sitiuation. Good for you! :)

Originally posted by david&maddie4ever
That's a great outlook. I'd never be able to be that optimistic in your sitiuation. Good for you! :)

:) The thought of my dad dying, just about breaks my heart. He travels constantly for business, and my family gets scared that his plane might get highjacked or something.

He means the world to me.

Originally posted by Topanga
:) The thought of my dad dying, just about breaks my heart. He travels constantly for business, and my family gets scared that his plane might get highjacked or something.

He means the world to me.

I guess having only one parent instead of two makes you appreciate the one you have even more. :)

Originally posted by Brent88
OK... good grief. :rolleyes:

Not all parents(mom's AND dad's are perfect, that's for sure, but you don't have to repeat it 100 times). We got it.

Brent, thats a terrible thing to say when you dont know some of the things that happened between Beav and his dad, so I think that is very uncalled for. At least show some symphany instead of sarcasam.

Originally posted by safety pin
I do not agree with this topic. I love both Father's Day and my father very much. Granted, I don't have a verbally, physically, or emotionally abusive father so I don't know what the pain is like. I was lucky enough to have a father that loved me and my family, provides and cares for us well, taught us about responsibility, respect, and honor. Also, and most importantly, he brought me up in a Christian, God-fearing* home. I want to stress that BeaverFan5 and anyone else with bad parents, (Or, if you just think they're bad parents) find a local church to pray and talk with a Pastor about it.

I know what he said, im not stupid :rolleyes:

Originally posted by Rurry007
Brent, thats a terrible thing to say when you dont know some of the things that happened between Beav and his dad, so I think that is very uncalled for. At least show some symphany instead of sarcasam.

I'm not being disrespectful to Beaver... I'm saying I'm sick of hearing the same thing over and over again. WE KNOW.

I love my father to death, even though we do not have the strongest relationship; I will always love him, because he is a good person, and is an excellent father...

Originally posted by Rurry007
I know what he said, im not stupid :rolleyes:
Then why did you tell him what he already knew?

I don't know what the pain [what beav goes though] is like

You dont know what Beav goes through

I hate those Jessica Simpson commercials. :mad:


And I ****ing hate my brother. He just told me to die because when i came in the house he was staring at me and i asked what the **** he was looking at. i'm going to stab him in his sleep.

what was this thread about again? oh yeah, who cares.

http://www.sitcomsonline.com/ubb/icons/icon8.gif btw thanks for using that pissed icon. i've always thought it just looked hilarious. look at it. and it has its head turned to the side.

http://img42.photobucket.com/albums/v130/pzelda_london/icon8.gif

Beav/Jamie:

I know EXACTLY how you guys feel! My god. I was actually thinking about this this morning. Thinking, "WHY in the world would ANYONE want to celebrate... FATHER'S day?!?" (Of course, this is my point of view, I understand others have different views.)

But anyhoo, my dad is very abusive as well--verbally, physically, and emotionally-- and he makes me feel like :censored:. He beats and harasses me DAILY, and does everything possible to make my life miserable and utterly intolerable. He scares and annoys the hell out of me. He is no doubt my biggest enemy. I can't WAIT until I'm old enough to move out of this dingy old apt here so that I'll never have to see him again!! Heck, it's no WONDER I'm depressed with an array of eating disorders. :rolleyes:

I can't even begin to describe the hatred I feel towards him. The things he has done, the pain he has caused, the sorrow and grief... and is STILL making me suffer today. The tears I've shed, and am STILL sheding at night because of HIM. That fudging :censored:!!! :wallbang

I didn't get him anything for father's day, by the way. He doesn't deserve anything and nor will he ever. :mad: :mad:

And Rurry -sigh- I wish you would stop trying SO hard to... how can I put this? To win the affection of others...? Enough with the agreeing with everyone-load. "He's my friend, and I understand yaddie yaddie yah." Do you REALLY? Or are you just saying that to... be on his side because he's your friend? It seems to me you're always "understanding" and apologizing. "Oh, now I know." It's getting old, dude... and not to mention rather annoying.

Originally posted by Rurry007
You dont know what Beav goes through. He PMed me about it and now I agree.


What does that have anything to do with it? All they said was that they have agood relationship with they're father and that anyone who has problems with their fathers should seek help.

Originally posted by Rurry007
I know what he said, im not stupid :rolleyes:

I think you did misunderstand it though. When he said "I do not agree with this topic" in the first line, I think you took that as "I don't agree with this topic, so it shouldn't even be here."

But he meant it as, "I don't agree with topic, because I like father's day--I have a good dad." It sounds like you just read that first line and didn't follow the rest, because the rest explains that he feels bad for those with bad fathers.

Just my thoughts. :wave:

I like Father's day. But, that's because I have a nice Dad. I guess I'm lucky. I didn't realize how lucky I was until I read this thread. I bought my dad a tool for father's day. He likes to build things and fix things around the house. He was absolutely delighted with my gift. :)