Unrequited Love

[Chocoholic]

Has anyone here loved someone, but that person didn't love you back, or vice versa?

I remember back in middle school, I had this huge crush on this kid, Jesse. He was such a funny guy and I was nice to him and even hinted a few times that I liked him. I later found out that he thought I was ugly and retarded :crying: I've had similar experiences since then. I feel that I'll never find a guy who loves me, that I'll die alone.

[Brandon]

there's a certain someone at my school who doesn't know that i love that person. i don't think that person loves me (unless if that person secretly loves me, like i secretly love that person)

[julian bozo]

There was a person in high school I really really cared about. I still have feelings for them, I just don't see us together though.:(

[Mossopp]

Originally posted by Snoopy
Has anyone here loved someone, but that person didn't love you back?

Yeah, everyone I've ever had feelings for! :( I dunno what's wrong with me - I keep falling for straight women!
Most of the time I don't really care - they're just crushes and I'm used to my feelings not being reciprocated. I think if a women actually did return my feelings I wouldn't believe her cos I'm so used to being ignored.

Originally posted by Snoopy
I feel that I'll never find a guy who loves me, that I'll die alone.

I feel like I'll probably be alone for the rest of my life aswell. I certainly have no hope of entering into a serious relationship while I'm still living at home with my parents.
Even when I move out and get a place of my own in the city I still can imagine myself with a girlfriend. I guess I'm just so accustomed to being alone I can't actually imagine anything else.

[Titania]

Originally posted by Snoopy
I feel that I'll never find a guy who loves me, that I'll die alone.
join the club ;) sometimes i doubt anyone will be able to stand me long enough.
but as one of my friends tells me, "someday you'll find your scum" (not too comforting maybe, but it says it all..lol) and you will too.


Originally posted by Snoopy
Has anyone here loved someone, but that person didn't love you back, or vice versa?

with my friends it seems im constantly having one in love w/ me who i just like as a friend or wanting one to love me but instead i get to be the friend (or worse "one of the guys") who he talks about the girl he does like w/.

[ABlairican Pie]

Originally posted by Snoopy
Has anyone here loved someone, but that person didn't love you back, or vice versa?

I remember back in middle school, I had this huge crush on this kid, Jesse. He was such a funny guy and I was nice to him and even hinted a few times that I liked him. I later found out that he thought I was ugly and retarded :crying: I've had similar experiences since then. I feel that I'll never find a guy who loves me, that I'll die alone.

Gee, funny how the song "Creep" by Radiohead is on the radio right now...

That punk Jesse wasn't even worth the Doublemint gum stuck to your shoe. The hell with all of those dirtbags.:mad: You'll find that special someone.

Having said that, I'm still waiting...................it's been a looooooong while since I had that problem in junior high......

and I'm at the Big Four-Oh, now....:( I wish I had learned to accept rejection and not let it cripple me in the pursuit of the Ever-Available Female...but it was just too traumatizing...

[Mysty Eyes]

Unrequited Love: My Life Story

I never seem to succeed at love. I'm 48 and still waiting. To top if all off, I recently met a man that I fell head-over-heals for, only to find out that he's gay!

Yep! My life story.

:(

[*GoodMorningCalgary*]

Yeah a few times. one time I really liked this girl at school, Like ALOT and this crush lasted for over 2 years (I was pretty good friends with her at that time) and I wanted her to know so I got her a Boquet of Roses and I wrote her a poem and I left it on her door step. The next day I got a Note from her and she shut me down faster than a Mcdonalds in India. So from now on whenever I like her a girl I just don't bother anymore cause I know I'll get shut down.

[Liza]

I think it's happened to everyone at some point - that you've cared for someone and they didn't feel the same. But you can't dwell on it - so this person's not the one - there will be others. My friend who got married last summer gave me the advice: you'll never be happy with someone else until you're happy with yourself. I believe it.

I'm pretty happy with myself. 20 years old, single, havin' a grand old time. I've dated guys, but I don't think I'd say I've ever been *in love* before. As we say over here, Eines Tages kommt meinen Prinz. :wave:

[Kay Scarpetta]

Originally posted by Mossopp


Yeah, everyone I've ever had feelings for!

That's what's hapening to me now. I tell them I like them, and they all give me that bull$hit of "Oh, well, you're a really good friend, but". Yeah.... but nothing. What makes it even worse? Half of them like my 'friend' in school, and she loves every minute of it. Screw them. I'm alone in everything else in life, I might as well be alone in love.

[DetectiveGriffin]

When I first started university i was infatuated with a premed student. Im not one to really have relationships, though. They dont interest me much at all. He was really smart and really handsome. He used to come to the microbiology lab when i was in class and i'd look at him for a minute. One day, he came in and announced he was getting married soon. I was really happy for him.
I think a lot of people feel like they will be alone "forever". I know i would rather be than to waste years of my life with someone who turns out not to be the one. Im just real skiddish about that kind of stuff, though. I bet most folks are. I dont just want a boyfriend - anybody can get one of those. I want to be thick as thieves with someone and have a good time. Ive had no luck finding someone as uptight as i am. <G>

[AnaheimPMWitch]

Heck I'm 30 and STILL looking for the right guy
I ALWAYS fall for guys that dont love me back or dont know I exsist its my special Gift I guess I guess someday My Handsome Prince will show up though

[Mossopp]

Originally posted by Liza
My friend who got married last summer gave me the advice: you'll never be happy with someone else until you're happy with yourself. I believe it.


My friend tells me that all the time aswell.
It's easy for her to say! She's out of the closet, has a girlfriend, loads of friends, great social life and her parents love her no matter what. I wish I was that lucky!
Yeah, she always says "You've got to be comfortable and love yourself before anyone else can love you, Lorna". :rolleyes:
The sad thing is I don't think I ever will be comfortable with myself. Where does that leave me?

Originally posted by Miss Karly
That's what's hapening to me now. I tell them I like them, and they all give me that bull$hit of "Oh, well, you're a really good friend, but". Yeah.... but nothing. What makes it even worse? Half of them like my 'friend' in school, and she loves every minute of it. Screw them. I'm alone in everything else in life, I might as well be alone in love.

Yeah - "I like you as a friend, but...." - possibly the 7 most painful words in the English language.
At least you have the guts to tell people that you like them Karly - I don't even have the balls to do that! It's more difficult when you're gay. Some women get extremely freaked out if they think another woman finds them attractive. I just try to hide my feelings for fear of upsetting the woman in question. I'd rather just be friends with her and have it go no further than have her freaked out by the thought of being around me and never want to see me again.

[Polniaczek033]

omg yes yes yes yes yes
2 many times 2 many times 2 many times

but dayum ****!! i am happy with the realationship i am in now, it is kewl ****!

[Georgia's on my Mind]

yeah, this would be my problem aswell... all the people i like i can never tell if they would want to go further in a relationship so i just stay as friends and it makes things less complicated... and usually the people who like me, i dont like at all....

[*PinkLady*]

Yes, yes, yes. All of my crushes have been unrequited. Most of the time, they know me and hate me, but I've had a lot of crushes on way-old celebrities that I'll never meet.

(I just got a reminder of how unrequited my longest-running crush is...I saw him yesterday at a school event and he was constantly talking about his prom date. Good thing I'm not going; I couldn't stand to see them together. OMG, I just wanted to kick him in the nuts the whole time so he'd shut up!)

[Titania]

Originally posted by Georgia's on my Mind
yeah, this would be my problem aswell

and i almost forgot..theres this guy, lets just call him taco, and hes like in love w/ me but ew...he just wont go away. hes so weird w/ all that talking about gone with the wind and vivien leigh...whatever.

:p (sorry, couldnt resist it...thats for being mean before)

[Georgia's on my Mind]

Originally posted by Titania


and i almost forgot..theres this guy, lets just call him taco, and hes like in love w/ me but ew...he just wont go away. hes so weird w/ all that talking about gone with the wind and vivien leigh...whatever.

:p (sorry, couldnt resist it...thats for being mean before)

i guess i deserve it, but ill get you back slutty statue....i will.

[Titania]

o just try... lol

[brownsocks]

i love a girl who happens to be my best friend. she knows how i feel and knows more about me than almost anyone but won't give me a chance. i guess i can understand why though i mean i have problems at school. people try and push me around and i make enimies in a hury. ah well i can live being alone

[dawsongirl]

Originally posted by Snoopy
I feel that I'll never find a guy who loves me, that I'll die alone.

I feel that way everyday. Maybe we should throw ourselves a party.

Anyway, yeah...there was Brian. I had a crush on him from 7th grade thru...I dunno...my sophomore year of college. I wasted 8 years of my life being in love with this JERK!!!! He was an egomaniac who only dated skinny bitches. I hate his guts now. Hear that Brian!!!!!! YOU'RE AN ASS!!!!!!

[dawsongirl]

Originally posted by jimmiegirl48
but I've had a lot of crushes on way-old celebrities that I'll never meet.


I'm pretty good at that myself. Sad, really. :crying:

[Titania]

Originally posted by jimmiegirl48
but I've had a lot of crushes on way-old celebrities that I'll never meet.


the celebs i have crushes on are dead....


beat that :lol: :(

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

Oh, yes definately. For one thing, no one knows I exist because I'm shy and blah...and then every guy I even meet usually ALWAYS has a crush on my "friends". I don't know what's wrong with me, really I don't.

[¤I Love Clay Aiken¤]

Yes! ive had well over 40 crushes -:eek:-, but only one love. We were friends in class and stuff.. but thats it. Oh well. The way I see it, is if they dont like you dont waste your time. Ive learned to follow that.

[MandieR1980]

From 7th grade all through HS I had a major MAJOR crush on this guy Danny and my best friend talked me into writing him a letter telling him how I feel, BIG MISTAKE! He showed it to EVERYONE! I'm having weight loss surgery hopefully in a few months and my HS reunion will be in 2009 and I'm planning on stunning everyone when I walk in the room and I hope Danny hits on me or asks me out just so I can tell him to go to hell!

[¤I Love Clay Aiken¤]

Originally posted by MandieR1980
From 7th grade all through HS I had a major MAJOR crush on this guy Danny and my best friend talked me into writing him a letter telling him how I feel, BIG MISTAKE! He showed it to EVERYONE! I'm having weight loss surgery hopefully in a few months and my HS reunion will be in 2009 and I'm planning on stunning everyone when I walk in the room and I hope Danny hits on me or asks me out just so I can tell him to go to hell! :cool: Good for you!! I wish you luck with the surgery.. and I hope he regrets not being with you when he had the chance!

[dawsongirl]

Originally posted by MandieR1980
From 7th grade all through HS I had a major MAJOR crush on this guy Danny and my best friend talked me into writing him a letter telling him how I feel, BIG MISTAKE! He showed it to EVERYONE! I'm having weight loss surgery hopefully in a few months and my HS reunion will be in 2009 and I'm planning on stunning everyone when I walk in the room and I hope Danny hits on me or asks me out just so I can tell him to go to hell!

:D That's awesome. I want to do the same thing with Brian.

[*PinkLady*]

Originally posted by Titania
the celebs i have crushes on are dead....


beat that :lol: :(

I can't, but I can match it. One of my recent crushes (I'd rather not say who because I don't like him anymore and it's really bizarre) died four years before I was born. Definitely not a match made in heaven...

[MonarC]

i had a crush on this really cute shy guy when i was in 7th grade then when i got to high school he had a crush on me... but by then i wasn't interested anymore..

[Kay Scarpetta]

Originally posted by *A TV People*
then every guy I even meet usually ALWAYS has a crush on my "friends". I don't know what's wrong with me, really I don't.
Yep. Same here... I mean honestly, am I that bad of a person? Do I look that ugly? God... I feel like $hit. WHAT IS WRONG WITH MEEEEEE?!?! *rips hair out*

[dawsongirl]

Originally posted by Miss Karly

Yep. Same here... I mean honestly, am I that bad of a person? Do I look that ugly? God... I feel like $hit. WHAT IS WRONG WITH MEEEEEE?!?! *rips hair out*

Maybe it's the same thing that's wrong with me. We're either nuts or too good for losers. I prefer to think the latter.

[ABlairican Pie]

Originally posted by Miss Karly

Yep. Same here... I mean honestly, am I that bad of a person? Do I look that ugly? God... I feel like $hit. WHAT IS WRONG WITH MEEEEEE?!?! *rips hair out*

Well, it reminds me of what Blair said in that one episode:

:dance: "There's always...tomorrow..."

Oh wait, I'm thinking of what that girl reindeer sang on Rudolf the
the Red-Nosed Reindeer.... :rednose:

:lol:

Btw, if it makes you feel better, "Crazy Train" is on the radio right now...:D

[LucyFan]

No . . . at least not yet.

You see . . . I have this huge crush on a guy at the school I am attending. Please keep in mind that it is a Catholic school and they do look down on homosexuality. Also, I don't know if I am a homosexual or not but I really don't want to be one though. I am not willing to take the risk or even give my crush hints that I like him because I am afraid he will either think of me as a weirdo or just plain reject me. Also, the word will be spread around the school if I tell him and the school staff will probably find out and who knows what will happen after that. Aww, I hate my life.

[Kay Scarpetta]

Originally posted by dawsongirl


Maybe it's the same thing that's wrong with me. We're either nuts or too good for losers. I prefer to think the latter.

I'd LOVE to think it was the latter one...

[Mossopp]

Originally posted by LucyFan
. . . I have this huge crush on a guy at the school I am attending. Please keep in mind that it is a Catholic school and they do look down on homosexuality. Also, I don't know if I am a homosexual or not but I really don't want to be one though. I am not willing to take the risk or even give my crush hints that I like him because I am afraid he will either think of me as a weirdo or just plain reject me. Also, the word will be spread around the school if I tell him and the school staff will probably find out and who knows what will happen after that. Aww, I hate my life.

Listen mate, I know it's tough but don't beat yourself up over this. You feel the way you feel and there's nothing you can do about it. The heart rules the head sometimes - that's just life.
Maybe you are gay and maybe you aren't. I understand that feeling of confusion - that point in time where you don't know who you are or what you want. I think everyone goes through that at some stage in their life and that's ok. Everything will make sense in time.
For the time being though I would advise you to confide in a close friend about your feelings. Talking about things always helps. If you don't think there is anyone you can talk to then people here are always willing to listen and offer advice.
I hope things resolve themselves soon.
Mossopp
x x x

[Adamantium]

No girl I have ever liked has liked me back. Currently there's this girl I like at work, and yesterday, while I was gathering carts (I'm a bagger at Kroger:( ) she was outside sitting on a bench with her boyfriend. Another girl I liked turned out to be a lesbian. And she would bring in her girlfriend to work all the time. I act kind of weird sometimes. I'm not insane or anything. I just try to make people laugh, which is sometimes at my expense. Maybe that's why I don't have a girlfriend. Maybe I'm just a great actor and they think I really am weird. I'm modest too.:D

[dawsongirl]

Originally posted by TVAdam
I act kind of weird sometimes. I'm not insane or anything. I just try to make people laugh, which is sometimes at my expense. Maybe that's why I don't have a girlfriend. Maybe I'm just a great actor and they think I really am weird. I'm modest too.:D

There's nothing wrong with making people laugh. I like guys with a sense of humor. Hell, I live with one of the weirdest guys in the world (my dad) and if I can handle him, anyone else is a piece of cake.

I think 3/4 of the world has lost its sense of humor. :(

[C Doody]

Originally posted by TVAdam
I act kind of weird sometimes. I'm not insane or anything. I just try to make people laugh, which is sometimes at my expense. Maybe that's why I don't have a girlfriend. Maybe I'm just a great actor and they think I really am weird.

I Do the same thing. Sometimes i get shy around people, But instead of acting shy i end up acting Really Weird. I Got laughs out of people alot of times, But Girls werent exactly crazy about it :(

I Had a Crush on a girl from 6th Grade til Last Year and i could never come to say anything. I Did tell a Friend in 8th Grade (Ok, I Know he wasnt much of a friend and i hated him for a week, But He changed a little bit over the years and hes still my best friend today) About it and he told the entire class. I Dont think anybody believed it though, They just thought he was joking around. That was a close call.

[JDS84]

Yes. There was this guy in 7th grade who had the biggest crush on me. He would give me love letters that said he loved me and that I was hot. So one day he asked me out and I said no that I wouldn't go out with him if he was the last man on earth. I took all of those letter that he wrote me and ripped them up and threw them in his face. I made him cry by doing that.

[ABlairican Pie]

Originally posted by JDS84
Yes. There was this guy in 7th grade who had the biggest crush on me. He would give me love letters that said he loved me and that I was hot. So one day he asked me out and I said no that I wouldn't go out with him if he was the last man on earth. I took all of those letter that he wrote me and ripped them up and threw them in his face. I made him cry by doing that.

Seventh graders are worse than Hitler and Stalin for the way they treat people who like them.:mad:

[ABlairican Pie]

Originally posted by Miss Karly


I'd LOVE to think it was the latter one...

Btw, I hope everyone remembers here NOT TO BE DOWN ON YOURSELF AND TELL YOURSELF YOU'RE UGLY OR STUPID OR LOUSY OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT.

JUST REMEMBER IF YOU ACT OUT YOUR LOW SELF-ESTEEM, THE CHANCES ARE THAT YOU WILL ATTRACT OTHERS WHO ARE ALSO LACKING SELF-ESTEEM. CHANCES ARE GOOD THAT LATER IN LIFE
YOU WILL FALL FOR A GUY/GIRL WHO WILL BERATE YOU AND BELITTLE YOU ("Damn it, bitch, you are so stupid," etc.) AND INSTEAD OF FINDING THE MOTIVATION TO GET OUT OF AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP, YOU WILL BE TOO AFRAID--AND EVEN FEEL THAT YOU "NEED" TO HAVE YOUR PARTNER "KEEP YOU IN LINE." IT WILL BE WHERE YOU FIND YOUR "SELF-WORTH"--IN BEING THE WHIPPING POST FOR AN ABUSIVE PARTNER.

[TJL]

You're talking to the guy who wrote the book on unrequited love!

I sucks when you give your heart to someone and they don't reciprocate. Take my advice people, do not wait around, hoping they'll see the light and fall in love with you. It leads to more heartache, and a lot of wasted time.

You can't move forward if you keep looking back.

[~LadyJess~]

Originally posted by Mossopp
Yeah, everyone I've ever had feelings for! I dunno what's wrong with me - I keep falling for straight women!
Most of the time I don't really care - they're just crushes and I'm used to my feelings not being reciprocated. I think if a women actually did return my feelings I wouldn't believe her cos I'm so used to being ignored.

Same thing here but with guys. Of all the guys I've liked, I've only told 4 of them and they all shot me down. The hardest one was the first one because I later found out that he was telling people he thought I was ugly. Sure we were only in 6th grade at the time but it still hurts.

Also, I think if a guy even acted like he cared about me and liked me I wouldn't believe him because guys have never done that around me. I'm so used to being alone and ignored by guys I don't think I would even let in someone who does care. :(

[*PinkLady*]

Originally posted by ~LadyJess~
Also, I think if a guy even acted like he cared about me and liked me I wouldn't believe him because guys have never done that around me. I'm so used to being alone and ignored by guys I don't think I would even let in someone who does care. :(

I couldn't have said it any better myself.

I have never even attempted to tell guys I liked how I felt; I didn't want to be rejected by them, because it always ends up that way anyway. Why not delay the inevitable?
There's one guy I've liked on-and-off since sixth grade. I know I could confess my feelings for him and he'd be really nice about letting me down, but I have yet to get up the courage to be cast aside by yet another male person.