Holidays Sometimes Brings A Sad Feeling.Inside

[MikeL]

holidays are hard losing a family member so close to christmas i just came home from shopping with my sister n 7 year old neice walked n door i smelled the food he use to cook and everything i yelled for my daddy

then rememberd he is not here il never see him again i hate this feeling i really do only thing mom said when i told her this aint fair she said nothing is fair.

oh well just how i feel anyway anyone else feel same way when it comes to holidays

[Stuck In The '70's]

That's pretty much how I feel. My Mom died in 2002 and the Holidays have never been the same since. I'm sorry that you are going through all this. It's true...life isn't fair.

[MikeL]

it sad i never went through this before and hard part is mom working grandma here she cant hear anything i say another cousin n the garage bedroom

aint that cool anyway it hard being here hearign stuff i never heard before and i cant tell him about it and my long time friend kenzie gone to i miss her

with all my heart way my mom said nothing fair sounded like am she did not care what i was talking about now im here nearly alone missing my daddy so much

and cant ask him what he getting me for christmas or what he want for christmas or if he need anything.i hate this feeling so not fair.

im sorry u lost your mama id die if i lost mine we so close if i ever lost my mama i never be able celebrate holidays i know i kid round saying id be living with pretty girls n everything to my family.

but if i lost both id have no reason celebrate holidays anymore or anything else i love my mama n family and stil i feel alone

[Schmoopie]

It's always hard to lose a loved one but especially around the holidays. My dad died on Dec 3, 1992, and every year on that day I can't help but remember how horrible it was to lose him.

[comedyfreak]

holidays are hard losing a family member so close to christmas i just came home from shopping with my sister n 7 year old neice walked n door i smelled the food he use to cook and everything i yelled for my daddy

then rememberd he is not here il never see him again i hate this feeling i really do only thing mom said when i told her this aint fair she said nothing is fair.

oh well just how i feel anyway anyone else feel same way when it comes to holidays

I feel the same way...Wednesday I felt bad as I was driving to go eat it was a sad feeling. My Dad died between my Mom's and my birthday back in '81 and she passed last Dec 5, so it will be three years since my mom died. It's always hardest right before the holidays especially when everyone else seems so happy.

[Janice]

holidays are hard losing a family member so close to christmas i just came home from shopping with my sister n 7 year old neice walked n door i smelled the food he use to cook and everything i yelled for my daddy

then rememberd he is not here il never see him again i hate this feeling i really do only thing mom said when i told her this aint fair she said nothing is fair.

oh well just how i feel anyway anyone else feel same way when it comes to holidays
It's a sad feeling. I haven't truly enjoyed a holiday since 2000. I go through the motions, but my heart's not it. I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Many here know how you feel.

[catlover79]

It's a sad feeling. I haven't truly enjoyed a holiday since 2000. I go through the motions, but my heart's not it. I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Many here know how you feel.
The holidays haven't been the same to me since my grandparents have all passed away (my dad's dad was the last of them to go, in 2002). Plus with my depression/anxiety and the fact that I don't have a job, my heart just feels like someone dragged it all the way down to my feet. I'll scrape together all I can for my nephews. If Christmas truly WAS just about the birth of Christ, I would be happy. But it's not - and greed just seems to come through more and more (like the Wal Mart employee who got trampled to death last year on Black Friday). Forgive me if I sound too morbid.

[Pitooey]

I'm sorry for all the losses here. My own father died in 2002. I miss him.

[MikeL]

yeah i heard about that it was so sad mean old guy just came to shop for his loving family and end up with worst ending anyone could imagine life is not fair and so unpridactable

my mom went to walmart during day before black friday im wondering how the day came to be anyway we get to that some other time.

and all went fine just was way to busy she worked 14 straight hours bless her heart anyway back to subject at hand

i cant afford loose anymore family members i hate this first christmas without my daddy and i want him back most inportand holiday ever it just not fair nobody ever talks to me about it so i like alone in this.

listening to christmas music kind of helps but not enough nobody gets over losing a family member espically when he passed

day before mothers day and after my sisters birthday and month before mine it wasnt a surprise but sure shocked me i miss my daddy

i got his pics on my space so i got memories of how he use to be happy im sorry for your losses really am guess we all in this together

hope it came out right

[Lee]

I always try to look at the pleasant side of the holiday season. It helps
that I am a Christian with a deep faith in god and his son Jesus and that
I know that everything will be peace and love one day in Heaven.

[Retro4Life]

I understand how many of you feel.

My father died in 1992 and my mom in 2005. She loved Xmas and was really the "spark" for me for years, when I would often have just either forgotten about it or at least not honored a lot of the traditions, particularly after my dad died. She loved the lights and the presents and the tree, and most of all, she knew what the holiday was about and was the most generous, caring person I've ever known.

Since then, I've basically "gotten through" the holidays. I don't begrudge anyone who loves and gets excited about them, particularly the children. That's how it should be. But honestly, I mostly feel empty and "out of it" on holidays and am glad when they are past.

Then to top it off, my only brother died on Christmas Eve 2006 (also his daughter's birthday).

I"m glad others are here that understand. In honor of my mom, I do put up a small tree and get a few presents and cards for those I care about. But in general, I think Christmas is never like it was for us as children, and it was like that for every generation. I just wish we didn't all have to feel the pressure of feeling giddy and joyous for two months. Linus said it 44 years ago that the true meaning of Christmas has nothing to do with any of the "stuff" the media pushes at us; it's about rebirth and hope and love. It's just too bad we don't hear much about that anymore, or if we do it's drowned out by the incessant yammering about "Black Friday" and "Cyber Monday" and "Ruby Tuesday" (ok, so I made that one up) and whatever other materialistic landmarks the media come up with.

[MickeyMac]

I always say the best thing about Christmas is December 26th.

[catlover79]

I always try to look at the pleasant side of the holiday season. It helps
that I am a Christian with a deep faith in god and his son Jesus and that
I know that everything will be peace and love one day in Heaven.
That's the RIGHT way to look at Christmas - and what I'm trying to focus more and more on.

[MikeL]

i love kitty cats to im trying also look on bright side of christmas but so much drama cahos comes my way and wil not stop i love holidays but so many bad appels try ruin it for the hole bunch.

[TheGreatPretender]

It's a sad feeling. I haven't truly enjoyed a holiday since 2000. I go through the motions, but my heart's not it. I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Many here know how you feel.


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I hope God will send you a nice heartwarming Christmas :hug:


Same for everyone :bighug:

[Janice]

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I hope God will send you a nice heartwarming Christmas :hug:
That's very kind of you. Thanks. :hug:

[comedyfreak]

So you see MikeL You're not alone here.

[catlover79]

:(

I hope God will send you a nice heartwarming Christmas :hug:


Same for everyone :bighug:
Thank you - you, too. :bighug:

[Stuck In The '70's]

:(

I hope God will send you a nice heartwarming Christmas :hug:


Same for everyone :bighug:
Thank you so much. :)

[Retro4Life]

:(

I hope God will send you a nice heartwarming Christmas :hug:


Same for everyone :bighug:

I really appreciate that. Thanks, and may you receive the same gift. :)

[tv star collector]

I lost my dad in December 1983. Probably the saddest Christmas I had
known ... until my older sister passed away, in October 2001. Fortunately,
in both cases, I had other relatives to help pull me through it. My mother
died on my parents' wedding anniversary, in 1979. So, that was also a very
sad occasion. Grief is always hard to deal with, but holidays put even more
emphasis upon it. Remember: as long as you remember your loved ones,
they live forever in your heart. :wave:

[catlover79]

^ That is so sweet.

[MikeL]

yeah it is sorry to hear bout all your losses must have had lot of strenght pull yourselves out of it which is real good to hear

[Retro4Life]

Grief is always hard to deal with, but holidays put even more emphasis upon it. Remember: as long as you remember your loved ones, they live forever in your heart. :wave:

Amen to that, brother. Amen indeed. :wave:

[MikeL]

i cant walk worth a damm right now right ankel issues sorry for my lauange i agree to all u said amen