Does anyone get heat for being single?

[Darren J.]

Awhile ago, I was interested in my friend. Let's just say it didn't end well and we'll leave it at that. Recently, a friend and my mom's primary asked if I had a girlfriend. When I said no, it was almost as if I said something offensive. Now my friend is talking about setting me up with someone. My family doesn't even ask anymore. Honestly, why is it so bad to be single? Better yet, is my family(mainly my dad) trying to out me, thinking I'm gay?

[LuLu Rogers]

My family does that to me all the time. They expect me to get married and have kids and since I haven't had a boyfriend in about 4 years, some family members have asked me if I were gay and offered to get me counseling :rolleyes:

I just tell them to mind their own business. When I find a guy I like I'll date him, but I'm not going to start dating some ******* just so I won't be single.

[Darren J.]

My family does that to me all the time. They expect me to get married and have kids and since I haven't had a boyfriend in about 4 years, some family members have asked me if I were gay and offered to get me counseling :rolleyes:

I just tell them to mind their own business. When I find a guy I like I'll date him, but I'm not going to start dating some ******* just so I won't be single.


You're still ahead of me. I have never had a girlfriend and I just turned 21. As for the gay part, you're born that way. No one chooses that lifestyle. Problem is some people settle and that is the worst thing to do.

[phoebe7165]

My family does that to me all the time. They expect me to get married and have kids and since I haven't had a boyfriend in about 4 years, some family members have asked me if I were gay and offered to get me counseling :rolleyes:

I just tell them to mind their own business. When I find a guy I like I'll date him, but I'm not going to start dating some ******* just so I won't be single.

Great topic!! And right up my alley!!

Thankfully, my immediate family has always been supportive about the fact that I'm not married. I have been asked though from other rude a$$holes if I'm gay just because I haven't had a boyfriend in a while. After my last relationship, I decided I needed a break, and Ive been happier since I can remember!!

I'm not going to be one of those females who just has to have a man in her life. That's why it kills to me to see some of those stupid females on Judge Judy!!

I think the rudest thing somebody said to me was what have I been doing with my life, since I wasn't married. I was so taken aback by the question. Later I thought that what I should've said back was "Um, dating losers. That's what I've been doing"!! Then he said that he & some of his friends have already been married 2 or 3 times. OK, so what you're saying is that it's more acceptable to be divorced multiple times than to never be married at all??!!

Another incident was this lady was talking to me about her ex-husbands. She was saying that she had been married 5 times!! Now I'm no beauty but I have to say, I don't how the heck this lady got 5 guys to marry her. There was absolutely nothing attractive about her. So she was saying that she was looking for Husband #6. I said "You're looking for Husband #6, I'm still looking for Husband #1!! This guy who was sitting near us obviously heard everything that was said and he said to me "You're not married yet? Why not?" I answered back "Because I haven't found anybody yet who I want to marry!!"

You'd think with the divorce rate, he'd say something positive like "Well, it is so great that you aren't just jumping into marriage with the 1st guy you meet. So many couples get divorced a few years later by doing that".

[Marvo301]

Yeah I get bugged about being single sometimes. But I guess that goes with the territory when your almost 45 and still single. My philosophy has always been that I'm not going to get married just to be married. If that special woman comes along that I just can't live without that's when I will get married. So quit asking me about it already!!!! :lol:

[hippiechick60]

Yeah I get bugged about being single sometimes. But I guess that goes with the territory when your almost 45 and still single. My philosophy has always been that I'm not going to get married just to be married. If that special woman comes along that I just can't live without that's when I will get married. So quit asking me about it already!!!! :lol:
i'm married so....not me!

[ZeldaGilroy]

All the time! My family is always on me to find someone and get married. I am not against marriage. I would love to get married. I just haven't found anyone who is interested in me. I am not giving up hope though. ;) Unfortunately, at 33 I have been labeled the "Old Maid" of the family. I feel bad because my family acts like they pity me and like they think I am not a complete person since I haven't been married. It makes me want to cry. They refuse to see me as a whole person.

[Waterston_Fan]

I don't have that problem, luckily no one has asked me in the family.

Now my male cousin who lives in North Carolina on the other hand, he can't seem to keep a girl for more than 2 years..

He's a bartender and he seems to pick young ladies like in their 20's and my mom and sister kinda make fun of him a bit and I think my brother in law has suggested that he doesn't like it.

My cousin is like um.. 41 years old.

So sometimes I don't want to find a guy yet.. maybe when I get to NC or something.

[MickeyMac]

Not as much as I used to. From time to time people will ask me if I have a girlfriend and I say no, and then they always ask why. I tell people if you are that concerned about it go find me somebody.

[Shine]

Right now I am happy to be single. Monika has often posted that she doesn't mind being single and that she leaves matters of the heart in God's hands. I think this is a really mature additude and I've decided to do the samething. Besides, being single isn't such a bad thing. When one is single there is much more freedom than if one has a girlfriend or boyfriend.

[browneyes106]

A few of my friends give me heat for being single more than my relatives do.

[catlover79]

Sometimes. I'm almost 30 and have never been in a relationship, at least not a serious one. I've had so many bad dating experiences that I realized I was a lot happier being single. I figure if it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't, it doesn't. Plus, I have a full life with work, family, church activities, etc. So I don't think being single is such a bad thing - I'm not sad about it, and I don't really care what other people think about it.

[Darren J.]

Not as much as I used to. From time to time people will ask me if I have a girlfriend and I say no, and then they always ask why. I tell people if you are that concerned about it go find me somebody.


That's something I could never understand. Some people are so nosey and have to know every detail of your life.

[dawsongirl]

Yeah, I have family who think my life is over. They don't care that I already think that and their comments just push me closer to the edge where sanity and insanity meet.

[dawsongirl]

All the time! My family is always on me to find someone and get married. I am not against marriage. I would love to get married. I just haven't found anyone who is interested in me. I am not giving up hope though. ;) Unfortunately, at 33 I have been labeled the "Old Maid" of the family. I feel bad because my family acts like they pity me and like they think I am not a complete person since I haven't been married. It makes me want to cry. They refuse to see me as a whole person.
I'm on your heels...and I cry about it all the time. :(

But, I'm also sick of two-faced *******s.

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

I'm 20 and have never had a boyfriend, so I think my family just gave up asking. I don't get asked much, and I don't get any crap for not having one. In fact, when I'm asked and I tell them I don't, I mostly get answers like "Good, they're a waste of time" anyway. :lol:

I think a lot of people in my family just know me pretty well, so they understand that I'm a shy person with insecurities and all that, which is the primary reason I've never dated. I have another cousin who's 18 and has never dated, either, so I'm not alone. Another thing is that we're both still young, so it's not that strange that we're not dating. I guess give it a few years and then I'll see if I start getting crap for it.

[TVFactFan]

Tell your family your personal life is none of their business. My family knows they will get cursed out if they ever asked me about my personal business

[InspectorExstead]

I'm not single right now, but when I was...oh yes, definitely. My parents constantly wondered if something was wrong with me and people I met for the first time would always wonder as well. Don't listen to them-and don't rush. Don't do anything until you're ready. I didn't think I was ready or mature enough for a relationship until recently; plus, I never did meet anyone who I liked. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being single-I just wish more people understood that instead of giving others a hard time about it. Focus on yourself and within time, if it's meant to happen, it will happen.

[Darren J.]

I'm 20 and have never had a boyfriend, so I think my family just gave up asking. I don't get asked much, and I don't get any crap for not having one. In fact, when I'm asked and I tell them I don't, I mostly get answers like "Good, they're a waste of time" anyway. :lol:

I think a lot of people in my family just know me pretty well, so they understand that I'm a shy person with insecurities and all that, which is the primary reason I've never dated. I have another cousin who's 18 and has never dated, either, so I'm not alone. Another thing is that we're both still young, so it's not that strange that we're not dating. I guess give it a few years and then I'll see if I start getting crap for it.


My family doesn't bother either. My mom never asked to begin with.

[beautifuldreamer]

Sometimes. I'm almost 30 and have never been in a relationship, at least not a serious one. I've had so many bad dating experiences that I realized I was a lot happier being single. I figure if it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't, it doesn't. Plus, I have a full life with work, family, church activities, etc. So I don't think being single is such a bad thing - I'm not sad about it, and I don't really care what other people think about it.

Yes!!! My sentiments exactly, Monika... I'm actually really happy being single... I'm not sad by any means, and I don't care who is bothered by it. And I'm not gonna date just to date.... I'm not looking for a boyfriend, I'm looking for a husband, if that makes any sense. :lol:

[dawsongirl]

I'm not looking for a boyfriend, I'm looking for a husband, if that makes any sense. :lol:

Makes sense to me! I'm not the serial dating type. Lately dating without it going anywhere just seems like a waste of time or something. Never met anyone so far that I was like, OMG...I can SOOO see marrying you. Not that I'm pro-marriage in the first place, but hopefully you see what I mean. :crazy:

[beautifuldreamer]

Makes sense to me! I'm not the serial dating type. Lately dating without it going anywhere just seems like a waste of time or something. Never met anyone so far that I was like, OMG...I can SOOO see marrying you. Not that I'm pro-marriage in the first place, but hopefully you see what I mean. :crazy:

Right on! Going out with someone just to go out with them is seriously stupid... and I think it shows a lot of insecurity... like any woman who 'needs to be with her man' all the time!... I've met a guy that I was like, "I can SOOOO see marrying you!" But, unfortunately, we didn't see eye to eye on that concept.:( I'm only pro marriage if you are in it for life. ;)

[comedyfreak]

I get flack for still being single and a family member playing match maker. I'm getting use to it by now I'm 46 and don't plan on getting married. At present I don't have a girlfriend either, LOL.

[janet42]

None of my family members or friends gives me heat for being single. I'm told "If it's meant to be it will happen."

[PZelda]

I'm 24 and single. And that's just fine with me... I hang with guys and have fun with 'em in more ways than one, without being tied down. And I quite like it. :)

[catlover79]

Yes!!! My sentiments exactly, Monika... I'm actually really happy being single... I'm not sad by any means, and I don't care who is bothered by it. And I'm not gonna date just to date.... I'm not looking for a boyfriend, I'm looking for a husband, if that makes any sense. :lol:
That's me, too. :D

[dawsongirl]

That's me, too. :D
We should form a club. :D

[catlover79]

We should form a club. :D
OK! :lol:

[phoebe7165]

Adding to my other comments - I like to travel alot and quite often I'll travel to see concerts, among other things. Sometimes my sister(who is 4 years younger than me, and is also not married) will go with me. We don't ever tell our married friends(and they have kids, too) of our intentions at first, usually until we're up there, or until we get home. Alot of times they say to us "We can't keep up with you!!", and we get told often how envious they are that we can do whatever we want, come and go as we please, with no responsibilities.

Of course, deep down, I'm sure they also wouldn't trade anything for having a husband & kids!! They just don't say it.

[Scoobiedoo30]

yes I heat being Single

[Dragonflies]

Every so often, I get stuff like this and when I say I never want kids, people act like I tore wings off flies or kicked a puppy or something.

[MickeyMac]

The biggest shock that could hit this city is for people to see me with a woman whom I would be in a relationship with. The one person who would be shocked more than anyone else would be me.

[Retro4Life]

Every so often, I get stuff like this and when I say I never want kids, people act like I tore wings off flies or kicked a puppy or something.


So many people who have no business having children go right ahead and have them anyway, and end up making both themselves and their kids miserable; all out of some outdated belief that the only reason we are here is to procreate, or to placate worried relatives.

I think if you don't want kids, you shouldn't feel guilty about not having them. I'm 45, the same age my dad was when I was born, and I don't want kids. I am good with them and like (most of) them, but I'm not prepared for the upheaval and tremendous sacrifice that I know being a good parent entails. Not at my age, anyway.

To answer the original question, yes, I get it occasionally but I think a lot of people have kind of "given up" on me getting married, and ultimately that's a good thing for me. If it ever does happen, I can take comfort in the stunned looks on everyone's faces, and if it doesn't it won't be a huge change in the dynamic I share with others right now.

I guess the one regret I have is that if I ever get married, my family won't be there to see it, at least not my immediate family, since my parents and only brother have all passed on. I would have liked to have shared that moment with them.

[phoebe7165]

I guess the one regret I have is that if I ever get married, my family won't be there to see it, at least not my immediate family, since my parents and only brother have all passed on. I would have liked to have shared that moment with them.

I thought ths same thing, too, when my dad died, that he never got to walk me or my sister down the aisle. Or that none of his kids gave him grandchildren, especially when his brother's 6 kids are all married and 5 of those 6 have kids.

[beautifuldreamer]

The biggest shock that could hit this city is for people to see me with a woman whom I would be in a relationship with. The one person who would be shocked more than anyone else would be me.

Mic, I don't understand it! You seem like such a great guy! I would think you'd have a lot of opportunities in that dept. ;)

[JamesG]

Not really. My family, for the most part, tends to stay out of my personal life which I love.

I've been single for going on about two years and I'm not rushing anything.

[JamesG]

I'm 24 and single. And that's just fine with me... I hang with guys and have fun with 'em in more ways than one, without being tied down. And I quite like it. :)

You can have fun with guys in more ways than one being tied down. ;)

[catlover79]

You can have fun with guys in more ways than one being tied down. ;)
I'm not even going to comment on that one. :rolleyes: :lol:

[PZelda]

You can have fun with guys in more ways than one being tied down. ;)

JAMES! Shhhh. :lol:

[PlayOn]

I'm not single now, but when I was I didn't get heat for it. I did feel bad, though because almost everybody in my faily was with someone. I think the only ones who weren't, were the toddlers. lol. I hated Valentine's Day, too.

[MickeyMac]

Mic, I don't understand it! You seem like such a great guy! I would think you'd have a lot of opportunities in that dept. ;)



The fact that I am not a big talker creeps people out around here.

[LuLu Rogers]

JAMES! Shhhh. :lol:

She's bad ;) :lol:

[sunshinefizzy]

Here's the interesting thing about me, almost everyone around me is okay with me being single but I'm not!!! I feel like such a late bloomer and I'm one month away from being 20. My mom and grandma keep telling me that I'm going to look back and think oh, what was I concerned about, I was so lucky to only answer to myself. I'll let you know when I realize they were right. :lol:

[PlayOn]

The fact that I am not a big talker creeps people out around here.

Amen. Some people actually think I don't like them because I don't talk to them. I'm just not a big talker.

[catlover79]

Amen. Some people actually think I don't like them because I don't talk to them. I'm just not a big talker.
Make that three of us!

[Darren J.]

Make that three of us!


4

[Scoobiedoo30]

What does 4 Mean.

[Darren J.]

What does 4 Mean.


It means 4 of us.

[MickeyMac]

Looks like we got some shy people around here.

[dawsongirl]

4
5

[Marvo301]

5
make it 6 (I'm the strong silent type....well silent anyway.)

[catlover79]

make it 6 (I'm the strong silent type....well silent anyway.)
:lol:

[beautifuldreamer]

make it 6 (I'm the strong silent type....well silent anyway.)

Awwwh, Marv. :lol:

Make me #7... maybe that's why we're drawn to message boards, no direct communiation. :confused: :crazy:

[Marvo301]

Awwwh, Marv. :lol:

Make me #7... maybe that's why we're drawn to message boards, no direct communiation. :confused: :crazy:
I think your on to something Mattie!

[dawsongirl]

Awwwh, Marv. :lol:

Make me #7... maybe that's why we're drawn to message boards, no direct communiation. :confused: :crazy:
Yeah, I think it is. :nod: Admittedly, I can be chatty when I'm with people I know well, but I have to know you pretty well or I don't say much.

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

Yeah, I think it is. :nod: Admittedly, I can be chatty when I'm with people I know well, but I have to know you pretty well or I don't say much.
Same...so make it 8.

[Liza]

Really the only person who gives me a hard time about being single is my grandmother (especially since my younger sister got married this year). Everyone else minds their own business, thankfully.

And I was very shy... then I got a job as a trainer and have to speak in front of large groups every day. That does wonders for shyness ;)

[Retro4Life]

Same...so make it 8.

9, for sure.

[MickeyMac]

We're all so shy that if we all ever met in person we would probably just look at each other. :D :lol:

[*Pleasant Tomorrow*]

We're all so shy that if we all ever met in person we would probably just look at each other. :D :lol:
Most likely. Then I'd say something to break the ice because awkward silence makes me nervous...but I'd be nervous so whatever I say will end up making no sense, and then everyone will just stare some more out of confusion.

[Liza]

We're all so shy that if we all ever met in person we would probably just look at each other. :D :lol:

With all the love and friendships around this board, I doubt it :)

[ZeldaGilroy]

Amen. Some people actually think I don't like them because I don't talk to them. I'm just not a big talker.
That is exactly how I am Brandon. People are always asking me why I don't say anything and it is honestly because I have nothing worthwhile to say. I swear some people talk just because they like the sound of their own voice. :lol: I talk if I have something productive to say.

I am very shy though, like many people have mentioned on here, so maybe that is why I am destined to be single. Makes me sad though because I do want to get married and have children, it is just very hard to find anyone.

[catlover79]

We're all so shy that if we all ever met in person we would probably just look at each other. :D :lol:
No, we'd probably just all have our laptops along and just type out our thoughts instead. :crazy: :lol:

[Marvo301]

No, we'd probably just all have our laptops along and just type out our thoughts instead. :crazy: :lol:
:rofl::brent:crazy:

[catlover79]

:rofl::brent:crazy:
That's what I'd do, anyway. :lol:

[Marvo301]

That's what I'd do, anyway. :lol:
That would be difficult for those of us who use a PC!!

[catlover79]

That would be difficult for those of us who use a PC!!
True. :lol:

[dawsongirl]

We're all so shy that if we all ever met in person we would probably just look at each other. :D :lol:
:lol:

I could say something strange too, Ashlee. Then everybody would be confused...maybe they'd start laughing.

[dawsongirl]

No, we'd probably just all have our laptops along and just type out our thoughts instead. :crazy: :lol:
:lol: We could all text each other too.

[Family Ties Forever!]

Most people are together and there's nothing wrong with that. For those who are single, we can't and shouldn't blame those who are together, imo. Just as it's ok to be single, it's ok not to be single.

There have been times that I have been given a hard time because I'm single. The farthest back I remember is being given a hard time because I didn't have a boyfriend the summer after fifth grade when I was 12. I was accused of not being straight, even though I have always been straight.

[PlayOn]

Most people are together and there's nothing wrong with that. For those who are single, we can't and shouldn't blame those who are together, imo. Just as it's ok to be single, it's ok not to be single.

There have been times that I have been given a hard time because I'm single. The farthest back I remember is being given a hard time because I didn't have a boyfriend the summer after fifth grade when I was 12. I was accused of not being straight, even though I have always been straight.

People questioned your sexuality at 12 because you didn't have a boyfriend? :eek: Good Lord, next thing you know, if we don't have a date just hours after coming out of the womb, people will wonder, 'are they or aren't they?'
I hate HS because if you're a virgin and aren't sleeping around, your 'gay'. No. I just don't want to be father and/or have AIDS at a young age.

[Darren J.]

People questioned your sexuality at 12 because you didn't have a boyfriend? :eek: Good Lord, next thing you know, if we don't have a date just hours after coming out of the womb, people will wonder, 'are they or aren't they?'
I hate HS because if you're a virgin and aren't sleeping around, your 'gay'. No. I just don't want to be father and/or have AIDS at a young age.


12 is a bit harsh. I'm 21 and God knows what people think.

[MickeyMac]

Most likely. Then I'd say something to break the ice because awkward silence makes me nervous...but I'd be nervous so whatever I say will end up making no sense, and then everyone will just stare some more out of confusion.



That happens to me just about every time I open up my mouth.

[Brad Russ]

It's actually the opposite with me. Most people tell me that I probably shouldn't be getting into any kind of relationship anytime soon, as they don't think I'm at a place in my life where I'm ready for such a big committment. I actually agree with them. I need to move, get a driver's license, and a job before I can look in getting into any serious kind of relationship. I'm still amazed that I was able to have a relationship for nearly a year under my current life situation. Hell, if I can have a one year relationship under those circumstances, I'd likely be a stud if I had my life together. :lol: ;)

[dawsongirl]

12?! What kind of freaks did you go to school with, Jenny?? Geez...I don't think anyone thought that when I was 12 and we're about the same age. ohno: People.

[catlover79]

12?! What kind of freaks did you go to school with, Jenny?? Geez...I don't think anyone thought that when I was 12 and we're about the same age. ohno: People.
Sickening, isn't it?? :mad:

[dawsongirl]

Sickening, isn't it?? :mad:
If I ever heard any of the kids at my school spew garbage like that, I'd be so pissed.

[Darren J.]

Most people are together and there's nothing wrong with that. For those who are single, we can't and shouldn't blame those who are together, imo. Just as it's ok to be single, it's ok not to be single.

There have been times that I have been given a hard time because I'm single. The farthest back I remember is being given a hard time because I didn't have a boyfriend the summer after fifth grade when I was 12. I was accused of not being straight, even though I have always been straight.


Sad what society has become.

[catlover79]

Maybe it's just the hormones talking or maybe it's just turning 30, but I just feel more lonely than usual. I feel old, ugly, useless and worthless. Which guy in their right mind would stick around if he really knew me, anyway??? :(

[Darren J.]

Maybe it's just the hormones talking or maybe it's just turning 30, but I just feel more lonely than usual. I feel old, ugly, useless and worthless. Which guy in their right mind would stick around if he really knew me, anyway??? :(


Hush woman. You are not old, ugly, useless, or worthless. The only guys that wouldn't stick around are ones not deserving of a good woman like yourself. The problem with most guys is they are pretty shallow when it comes to looks. Believe me, I'll admit it. But, there are also plenty of guys that aren't shallow and want a good woman to settle down with.

[Retro4Life]

I hope its the hormones talking.

As Darren said, you are a VERY worthy person who is NOT any of the negative things you said.

I often look to the movies or TV for inspiration when I feel down, and it seems you are very down now, Monika. I think of the film "Castaway", where Tom Hanks talks about surviving in a place where he seems to have no real hope of ever getting home again or even living very long. Everything about his situation seems to scream "give up", but Hanks says he just kept thinking "keep breathing" because as long as he was breathing, 'something might wash ashore', such as the airplane wing he found and fashioned into a boat to sail off the island.

I think about that a lot. As tempting as it is to give up, if we do, we deny ourselves the possibility of knowing what might wash ashore tomorrow. And what that is might just be wonderful. :)

Hang in there, my friend.:yourock: :bighug:

[catlover79]

Thank you both for the words of encouragement. Another reason why I'm hurting is that I was rejected (rather harshly) by the man I've had a crush on the past few months. But what are you going to do?

[Dragonflies]

Maybe it's just the hormones talking or maybe it's just turning 30, but I just feel more lonely than usual. I feel old, ugly, useless and worthless. Which guy in their right mind would stick around if he really knew me, anyway???

*hugs* I feel like that every day :(

[catlover79]

*hugs* I feel like that every day :(
:bighug:

[Retro4Life]

I'm very sorry that happened. And I'm sorry your crush wasn't particularly gentle in his approach to you. :mad: (p.s. you want Darren J. and I to come by and teach him some manners? I'm not very big, but I can punch and run with the best of them! lol, jk).

I know it's a cliche and right now you are probably hurting so much you don't want to hear anything "logical", BUT...at least you know now that things wouldn't have worked out, that he didn't feel the same way, etc, rather than having the pain extend on longer.

And...this way you are now free for the lucky fella that is wise enough to see you for the catch that you truly are! :)

[Darren J.]

Thank you both for the words of encouragement. Another reason why I'm hurting is that I was rejected (rather harshly) by the man I've had a crush on the past few months. But what are you going to do?

Some men are a$$holes. I've seen it myself. If that's the way he truly is, you don't need him. You can and will do better.


I'm very sorry that happened. And I'm sorry your crush wasn't particularly gentle in his approach to you. (p.s. you want Darren J. and I to come by and teach him some manners? I'm not very big, but I can punch and run with the best of them! lol, jk).

Believe me, I'm more than capable of kicking someone's ass. That guy was a jerk and obviously has no empathy for others. If a girl approached me like Monika did, I'm not saying I would go out with her, but I'm not going to turn someone down like that either. It takes a lot of guts to approach someone, not knowing if they feel the same way.

[MickeyMac]

Thank you both for the words of encouragement. Another reason why I'm hurting is that I was rejected (rather harshly) by the man I've had a crush on the past few months. But what are you going to do?


You dont have to say anymore Monika, I can already tell that this cat wasnt worth your time. His loss.

[catlover79]

Thank you, guys. The hurt is still fresh but I'm trying to focus on other things (like finding a new job, my nephews, etc.). I appreciate your support!!

[Marvo301]

Thank you, guys. The hurt is still fresh but I'm trying to focus on other things (like finding a new job, my nephews, etc.). I appreciate your support!!
I agree with Mickey, Retro , and Darren. It's that guy's loss and he doesn't deserve you!

[catlover79]

I agree with Mickey, Retro , and Darren. It's that guy's loss and he doesn't deserve you!
Thank you, Marv. :)

[Retro4Life]

Thank you, guys. The hurt is still fresh but I'm trying to focus on other things (like finding a new job, my nephews, etc.). I appreciate your support!!

You're very welcome. I hope our support helps you cheer up; we need a cheery Monika to help us get through the day! :)

[catlover79]

You're very welcome. I hope our support helps you cheer up; we need a cheery Monika to help us get through the day! :)
I'll try, but I just don't have much to be cheery about these days. :(

[Retro4Life]

^I know. It seems like trouble comes in bunches. I'm glad you have the support of your family and your faith to help you through these tough times, and of course, your buddies here online. :wave:

I daresay you have been very kind and welcoming to a lot of us, hell, ALL of us here, so if we have to repay some of that kindness and support I think we're all glad to lend a hand! :)

[Marvo301]

^I know. It seems like trouble comes in bunches. I'm glad you have the support of your family and your faith to help you through these tough times, and of course, your buddies here online. :wave:

I daresay you have been very kind and welcoming to a lot of us, hell, ALL of us here, so if we have to repay some of that kindness and support I think we're all glad to lend a hand! :)
:yeahthat

[catlover79]

That is so sweet. :blush: I'm now blubbering even more than I was before!!

[Retro4Life]

That is so sweet. :blush: I'm now blubbering even more than I was before!!

Yes, but it's a "cheery" blubbering now, right? ;)

P.S. You're welcome!

[catlover79]

Yes, but it's a "cheery" blubbering now, right? ;)

P.S. You're welcome!
Actually, a combo of both. I just keep hearing the words "if you have any ideas of you and me getting together, it's not gonna happen" over and over in my head. Not good.

[Retro4Life]

Actually, a combo of both. I just keep hearing the words "if you have any ideas of you and me getting together, it's not gonna happen" over and over in my head. Not good.

Damn, that's harsh.

No offense, because we all see in others what we see, and we love who we love, but if that's the way this guy treated someone in an obviously vulnerable moment, I agree with Mickey; you may have dodged a bullet.

Onward and upward, my friend. The world is your oyster once again; here's hoping you find a pearl very soon! :)

[catlover79]

^ You know what's REALLY harsh? This all happened in church!!

[Shine]

Thank you both for the words of encouragement. Another reason why I'm hurting is that I was rejected (rather harshly) by the man I've had a crush on the past few months. But what are you going to do?

I'm sorry, Monika. :( Hang in there.

[Shine]

Actually, a combo of both. I just keep hearing the words "if you have any ideas of you and me getting together, it's not gonna happen" over and over in my head. Not good.

That's what he said!? What a jerk! :mad:

[catlover79]

When it rains, it pours. :( :mad:

[Shine]

When it rains, it pours. :( :mad:

I was turned down by someone that I went to high school with after we reconnected on FB. This was about a month ago. She turned me down for "being a guy"! :eek:

[Marvo301]

I was turned down by someone that I went to high school with after we reconnected on FB. This was about a month ago. She turned me down for "being a guy"! :eek:
They have an operation for that! :lol: (not that I'm recommending it!)

[Shine]

They have an operation for that! :lol: (not that I'm recommending it!)


:lol: She had been through a divorce and she doesn't trust guys anymore...any guys.

[Marvo301]

:lol: She had been through a divorce and she doesn't trust guys anymore...any guys.
I hate that there are men who treat women that badly. And it kinda of sucks that we all have to pay the price for it!

[Hollywood Rock Chic]

Thank you both for the words of encouragement. Another reason why I'm hurting is that I was rejected (rather harshly) by the man I've had a crush on the past few months. But what are you going to do?
Monika, you have a lot going for you. Every, single one of us, have been rejected; it sucks, it hurts, but it is also a part of life. Move on, sweetie. Focus on things that are important, not on some crush (who was not worthy of you to begin with). No one said, having feelings for someone was easy, it can be the most painful of emotions. Stay strong. :hug:

[catlover79]

They have an operation for that! :lol: (not that I'm recommending it!)
Another crush I had actually had that operation!! :eek: :eek: :eek: I have the most wonderful luck, don't I?

[catlover79]

Monika, you have a lot going for you. Every, single one of us, have been rejected; it sucks, it hurts, but it is also a part of life. Move on, sweetie. Focus on things that are important, not on some crush (who was not worthy of you to begin with). No one said, having feelings for someone was easy, it can be the most painful of emotions. Stay strong. :hug:
Thank you, sweetie. :bighug:

[MickeyMac]

Actually, a combo of both. I just keep hearing the words "if you have any ideas of you and me getting together, it's not gonna happen" over and over in my head. Not good.



To me this guy sounds like he is a piece of sh*t. He did you a favor Monika, I can tell this guy would have ended up breaking your heart.

[catlover79]

^ Thank you, Mickey - I'm keeping my distance from him from now on.

[Marvo301]

Another crush I had actually had that operation!! :eek: :eek: :eek: I have the most wonderful luck, don't I?
Apparantly your life story is a soap opera! I'm sorry you had to go through those experiences Monika but I know your a stronger and better person now because of it.

[MickeyMac]

My problem with dates is getting somebody to look at me. If this keeps up I am going to forget what to do on a date. :D

[APPLEI]

About 25% of the population is introverted.
I prefer a thoughtful introvert over some obnoxious extrovert any day
I'm not saying that all extroverts are obnoxious
All I'm saying is there's noting wrong with being an extrovert and there's noting wrong with being an introvert
Too each there Own
The world would a much better place if more people had that attitude
Amen. Some people actually think I don't like them because I don't talk to them. I'm just not a big talker.

[catlover79]

Apparantly your life story is a soap opera! I'm sorry you had to go through those experiences Monika but I know your a stronger and better person now because of it.
It is a soap opera - and a very BAD one. :eek: :lol: