Adam + eHarmony = Depression

[Adamantium]

I'm a lonely guy. I've never had a girlfriend, though I've always wanted one. I'm just too shy in person to go up to a girl and start a conversation. So I never get the chance to, you know, marry any of them.

I finally decided to give eHarmony a chance. I spent a good hour answering all their questions. And I'm serious. It really took me an hour, maybe a tad longer. Anyways, when I was done, they told me that they can't find any matches for me. I'm in the 20% that they can't help find a partner. :rolleyes:

So now whenever I see an eHarmony commercial, it mocks me. ;)

Someone at work joked with me saying it's time I got a Mail Order Bride, lol.

[bandito]

I'm a lonely guy. I've never had a girlfriend, though I've always wanted one. I'm just too shy in person to go up to a girl and start a conversation. So I never get the chance to, you know, marry any of them.

I finally decided to give eHarmony a chance. I spent a good hour answering all their questions. And I'm serious. It really took me an hour, maybe a tad longer. Anyways, when I was done, they told me that they can't find any matches for me. I'm in the 20% that they can't help find a partner. :rolleyes:

So now whenever I see an eHarmony commercial, it mocks me. ;)

Someone at work joked with me saying it's time I got a Mail Order Bride, lol.Hang in there, Adam. Someone once told me there's a lid for every pot, you will find yours. :)

[MickeyMac]

I say never quit. Try another online dating service. There are several out there.

[MrCleveland]

I tried it too, but I'm STILL single!

To me...getting a girl is like Cleveland winning a Championship.

I'll be single forever! I'd like to have a girl, but I don't either.:(

[hippiechick60]

I'm a lonely guy. I've never had a girlfriend, though I've always wanted one. I'm just too shy in person to go up to a girl and start a conversation. So I never get the chance to, you know, marry any of them.

I finally decided to give eHarmony a chance. I spent a good hour answering all their questions. And I'm serious. It really took me an hour, maybe a tad longer. Anyways, when I was done, they told me that they can't find any matches for me. I'm in the 20% that they can't help find a partner. :rolleyes:

So now whenever I see an eHarmony commercial, it mocks me. ;)

Someone at work joked with me saying it's time I got a Mail Order Bride, lol.
yeah hang in there adam take it from us girls we sometimes like the shy kind!

[Darren J.]

I personally would never do online dating. The idea of online dating sounds degrading to me. I technically have never had a girlfriend either. You'll find someone eventually. I tell myself that regularly.

[ABlairican Pie]

THEY can't find you a match?? What in the world?? I'm with eHarmony. I would just like to know where they get that idea you're "unmatchable". ohno:
If there was some way you responded to the questions, etc., but wow, there are so many variables. I can't see why they'd say they can't match you up with anyone.

[Chocoholic]

Hang in there, Adam! You come across as a sweet, funny, likable guy. Heck, if you lived close to me, I'd be begging you to take me out on a date :)

[ponytail]

I was told, when you're looking you won't find that special person. It's when you're not looking.

[catlover79]

Hang in there, Adam. Someone once told me there's a lid for every pot, you will find yours. :)
:yeahthat Don't give up, Adam!

[dakert]

Adam--are you sure you like girls? I find it odd that anyone could be that shy. Maybe your standards are too high. When I was a kid I wanted to marry Elizabeth Montgomery (Samantha Stevens) or Penny Singleton (Blondie Bumstead) it didnt happen LOL

[InspectorExstead]

That is so odd that they can't match you. Ridiculous! Maybe you can try some other dating website, like match.com? Also, maybe you and a friend can try speed dating. Google it and see if your town has any special events coming up. I've heard that you have to pay because they provide drinks and food/snacks, but it might be worth checking out with someone-plus, you never know who you'll meet.

[dawsongirl]

Eh, I'm too something to have a boyfriend either (shy being one thing, but there are 100 other reasons). I'll be alone forever. :(

Not that makes you feel any better, but at least you're not the only one. I feel like I'm the only one a lot. I told my mom once that society expects people to partner off by a certain time and I've probably past that time. She went :p at me, but society is like that! Society also shuns the shy or the introverted. I'm both, so I'm screwed.

[Adamantium]

I personally would never do online dating. The idea of online dating sounds degrading to me.

That's how I've felt all these years. And that's why I started this thread by stating that I'm lonely. So because of that and my inability to go up and actually talk to girls, I figured I'd go for it. Actually it was a friend's suggestion, but my reasons for going are still the same.

[Adamantium]

I find it odd that anyone could be that shy. Maybe your standards are too high.

That's why I like the episode of Taxi where Latka can't get that woman at Mario's to go out with him. He goes on vacation and comes back with a completely new personality, Vic Ferrari. Maybe, I should try that, lol.

As for my standards, that's a possibility. I mean lonely or not I don't want to go out with just anybody.

[Adamantium]

THEY can't find you a match?? What in the world?? I'm with eHarmony. I would just like to know where they get that idea you're "unmatchable". ohno:

I had to read it over again. At first I thought they meant they didn't have any matches right now, but would get back to me. Then as a re-read it, I realized, no, they're telling me that now so I can move on to something else because they simply don't have a match for me.

If there was some way you responded to the questions, etc., but wow, there are so many variables. I can't see why they'd say they can't match you up with anyone.

I did mention that I love to watch TV and that I have a TV on DVD collection. Maybe that's a turn-off to women. :lol:

[Adamantium]

Hang in there, Adam! You come across as a sweet, funny, likable guy. Heck, if you lived close to me, I'd be begging you to take me out on a date :)

Thanks.

I'm starting to feel like Antonio Scarpacci. I have to watch myself or I'll slip into an Italian accent. ;)

And thanks to everyone who responded to this thread. :)

[phoebe7165]

I did mention that I love to watch TV and that I have a TV on DVD collection. Maybe that's a turn-off to women. :lol:

It wouldn't be for me!! I'm beginning to think there is nobody out there who shares my interests, that is concerts & travelling, but if I saw the TV bit in somebody's profile, I'd be salivating!!:D

Especially somebody who's into Wings!:rock:

[beautifuldreamer]

Oh Adam ;) ... it's normal to feel lonely, and want a girlfriend... and trust me, you'll find the right woman for you, no matter what eHarmony says, which, by the way I had no idea the claimed some people 'unmatchable'.. that's just stupid of them. You gotta put yourself out there in the real world, and you'll definitely get more attention from the opposite sex. I had NO idea at all that you were shy. You're so witty, clever, and funny here on the boards. I guess I just thought you were more of an outgoing guy in real life. :D

[SBTB Geek]

How sad. Go to the TV DVD section at Borders, B&N or Best Buy and wail until girl picks out a show you are into, start a conversation and ease your way in. Conversationally not physically (yet) of course.

[dawsongirl]

I did mention that I love to watch TV and that I have a TV on DVD collection. Maybe that's a turn-off to women. :lol:

I have a TV on DVD collection too and TV has always been a big part of my life. I'd be more turned off by a guy who spends all his free time at a bar or something.

[beautifuldreamer]

I have a TV on DVD collection too and TV has always been a big part of my life. I'd be more turned off by a guy who spends all his free time at a bar or something.

Or playng golf. puke:

[LuLu Rogers]

Adam--are you sure you like girls? I find it odd that anyone could be that shy.

A little harsh, don't you think? :rolleyes:


Adam, Eharmony couldn't match me either, so don't feel bad. We just need to get out more and meet new people. I'm a little shy myself when I first meet people, so I can relate. Sometimes I think my standards are too high, but I dunno. You have a lot to offer a girl, so be confident and go for it! :)

[Schmoopie]

THEY can't find you a match?? What in the world?? I'm with eHarmony. I would just like to know where they get that idea you're "unmatchable". ohno:
If there was some way you responded to the questions, etc., but wow, there are so many variables. I can't see why they'd say they can't match you up with anyone.

That's a terrible thing to "tell" someone, that they are "unmatchable"! Man, talk about a self esteem deflater! :rolleyes: I wouldn't really trust those dating things anyway. I met my husband at church and my mom met my stepdad at a Valentine's Day dance.

Andrea

[Hollywood Rock Chic]

I personally would never do online dating. The idea of online dating sounds degrading to me. I technically have never had a girlfriend either. You'll find someone eventually. I tell myself that regularly.
Actually, a lot of people are finding dates online nowadays; it is not as degrading as picking up someone at a bar or a club; and besides that, a lot of people do not have a ton of options to find a mate.