Questions...

[brownie87]

Why is it that in a relationship/marriage the woman is free to do what she wants and hang out with all of her girlfriends whenever she wants, yet the man always has to answer to her whenever he wants to do the same thing, or whenever he wants to hang out with his guy friends she doesn't let him? My girlfriend hangs out with her girlfriends anytime she wants. In fact, she hangs with them alot more than she spends time with me, and I'm okay with that. But every Valentine's Day since we first started dating, she always chooses to spend time with her girlfriends watching chick flicks. I even tried confronting her about it, in a nice and fair way, but she started screaming at me accusing me of being a "domineering male". Yet, she never lets me hang out with my guy friends. So, I often wind up spending time alone. I even ask her permission whenever I leave her side to go study. She insists she wants to have time to herself, but I'm not allowed to leave her side. In other words, she expects me to stay in my house whenever she hangs with her gal pals. As she sees it, women are free as birds, but men are slaves to their women and have to obey them at all times. Not both women AND men are equally free to do what we want.

Why is it that independence and strength in men is frowned upon while independence and strength in women is celebrated? How about celebrating equally strong and independent women AND men?

[MickeyMac]

The only thing I can suggest in your situation is to talk to your woman and let her know how you feel and where you stand on this issue.

[dakert]

Brownie, you are only a slave if you Allow it.
If anyoneone screamed at me they would be shown the door.

How long have you been dating?
Hope things work out for you :wave:

[Doodyville10019]

Men, unfortunately, come with a bad reputation. Sucks to say that, but that's just how it is. Throughout history, you always hear about men cheating on their wives more than you do about women cheating on their men. That's where the bad rep comes from. I'm not saying that ALL men cheat on their wives (thankfully, most of the men I know don't, my husband included) - it's just the perception that some women have, either from their own bad experiences of being cheated on or from what they've heard and read about in the media.

I suggest you sit your lady down and have a chat about it. Explain to her that you have no reason to break the bonds of trust and love you two share and she has no reason to not trust you. That's the vibe I'm getting from your post.