Ever been intimidated to reach out to someone here, only to find out that they were..

[Brad Russ]

An absolute sweetheart in real life? This has happened to me a few times, but the one that stands out the most to me is Sarah, (Safety Pin). I always felt a strong connection to her for some reason, but was always nervous about approaching her as friends. I think I was intimidated by her outspokeness on issues, her quick wit, and in the differences in many views that we had, particularly regarding Religion. I always wanted to say hi, but those reasons always kept me from doing it. Eventually it was her who actually reached out to me when I had been away from SO for over a year. She went so far as to contact my sister in-law on myspace, just to see if I was okay. When I heard that it was her that reached out, my eyes actually welled up in tears, because I was so touched that someone who I admired so much, had reached out to me. Now I consider her one of my best friends here, and have enjoyed getting to know her better. She is a sweetheart, and I'm glad she contacted my sister in-law. Had she not, I may not even be back here at S.O. today. So what about you all, have you ever been intimidated by anyone here, only to become good friends with them later?

[beautifuldreamer]

Sarah still scares me!! lol, I'm kidding, of course.

Absolutely, Brad... and still happens, when I first joined, I read a lot of the chit-chat posts, and it was really intimidating. Everyone knew everyone else's name, everyone had something funny to say, and I was like, "Geez, louise, they obviously don't need some new member horning in on the party." But in reality, you guys were really welcoming to me, I know some of you better than others, but I've only been here a few months (and even then I've been gone all of Lent). So yeah, I'm just taking it day by day, you guys are pretty cool.:D

[Hollow]

that brought tears to my eyes, brad. :hug: you're a very sweet person. thank you for posting this. i admit, sometimes i worry that the way i talk about some things turns people away and makes them think i'm completely antisocial or even bigoted. my myspace blog would be an absolute nightmare for any sane person who took everything i said seriously, lol. i guess i use a lot of obscure rhetoric and have an unusual sense of humor. i think most of the regular members here get the gist of me by now, but i hope those who don't yet can read your post and understand a little more about me.

i haven't had that experience here on the boards, but it's happened in real life. when i started high school, there was a guy in a few of my classes who was extremely sophisticated yet antisocial. the few times i heard him talk to anyone, he came off as very stewie griffin-esque. he had a reputation as being the evil future dictator of the world. i was really fascinated, but i was too intimidated by his personality to talk to him. i figured he wouldn't like me anyway because he constantly isolated himself from everyone and seemed like the kind of person who would just stare and tell me to go die if i said hi to him. in our junior year, i found him on myspace and added him just for the heck of it. a few months later he sent me a message regarding my suicidal blog entries and totally poured his heart out. he told me he'd always seen me in a different light and the world would be a completely different place without me. he went on to tell me secrets about his past that he'd never told anyone else before. i was so overwhelmed with emotion because i'd never had anyone show so much care for me and he was probably the last person i would have expected it from. long story short, we ended up being each other's first loves. we've broken up but we're still best friends and have feelings for each other. it's amazing to think of us five years ago and then think of the way things are between us now. there's really more than meets the eye with some people.

[PZelda]

Hmm, I'm not too sure about that. That is to say I can't think of anyone like that in particular. And I feel bad - I SUCK at keeping in contact with people I like from here. No ifs or buts about it. That's been going on for the last two years and I want to remedy that! Basically, if I don't have your phone # to text, I'm total crap at keeping in contact. Heh.

I'm sure there are people here who think I'm intimidating somehow... Heh. In what way, I don't know. I've been here since I was in my mid-/late teens, and I'm in my mid-20s now. ANYWAY. This place is definitely much better than it was in 2004 for sure.

[ekkostar]

This place is definitely much better than it was in 2004 for sure.

Really? I thought it was more active back in 2004. Maybe the slump in membership has to do with the fact that younger viewers hate shows with laugh tracks. :rolleyes: Oh the pretension and conformity of the internet...

[PZelda]

Really? I thought it was more active back in 2004. Maybe the slump in membership has to do with the fact that younger viewers hate shows with laugh tracks. :rolleyes: Oh the pretension and conformity of the internet...
I dunno about the activity - it seems about the same to me. But I can tell you this for sure - board-wide fights have really decreased since 2004, and even 2003. I nearly got chased off here on two different occasions in 2004, and it takes a lot to make me want to leave. I even got a snail-mail letter from a member here (littleinsomniac, rarely posts now) asking me not to leave because the atmosphere here was soooooo tense then.

[Jonathan]

I'm sure there are people here who think I'm intimidating somehow... Heh. In what way, I don't know. I've been here since I was in my mid-/late teens, and I'm in my mid-20s now. ANYWAY. This place is definitely much better than it was in 2004 for sure.
You're not intimidating! :) Good luck at your job.

[PZelda]

You're not intimidating! :) Good luck at your job.
Thank you on both counts! And, much appreciated. :)

[dawsongirl]

idk...I'd be intimidated about meeting them in person, but online I think I was always okay.

I just don't answer emails and PMs like I should. And talking on the phone is scary and stressful.

[Jonathan]

Thank you on both counts! And, much appreciated. :)
Any idea if Walmart just hires over 18? I need a job soon. It's 11 more months before my 18th though.

[Big C]

When I first found out about Wreckless, it came during the Eagles' rough stretch of back-to-back losses against the Bears and Cowboys.

During those games, he had some profanity-laced threads, and I assumed he was another foul-mouthed fan.

Then, I got to see his pleasant side during the Philles run to a title.

[PZelda]

Any idea if Walmart just hires over 18? I need a job soon. It's 11 more months before my 18th though.
You'd be considered a minor, so you can't work past a certain time by law (10pm). Is this a job search for your first job? I'm gonna be on their overnight crew, and you have to be over 18 for that. As long as you find a job and your shifts end at 10pm or earlier, you should be gold. :)

[Jonathan]

You'd be considered a minor, so you can't work past a certain time by law (10pm). Is this a job search for your first job? I'm gonna be on their overnight crew, and you have to be over 18 for that. As long as you find a job and your shifts end at 10pm or earlier, you should be gold. :)
Yup, this is a first job search. There's not much choice in my city, but there's a Walmart about 15 minutes from here and another 20-25. I'm sort of picky and hope to not have to do fast food. It just doesn't seem like an atmosphere I could handle well. However, Walmart seems okay. I like their stores, at least those near me. I've heard horror stories about others. :lol:

[Jonathan]

I have nothing against fast food employees, either. I admire them for the crap they have to put up with. That's why I don't think I could handle it. ;)

[Shine]

I just don't answer emails and PMs like I should.


Tell me about it. :lol: ;)

[steevo]

No I can't say I was really intimidated by anyone. Maybe if I met some of them in person, it would be possible. :lol: I was more drawn than anything by the interests that have in common (sitcoms, TV shows ,hobbies and general outlook) with several other members on here. The way we all celebrate things like post count milestones, birthdays, ect. is just cool and family like.

[PZelda]

Yup, this is a first job search. There's not much choice in my city, but there's a Walmart about 15 minutes from here and another 20-25. I'm sort of picky and hope to not have to do fast food. It just doesn't seem like an atmosphere I could handle well. However, Walmart seems okay. I like their stores, at least those near me. I've heard horror stories about others. :lol:

Just take what you can. :) I actually applied there because I'd run out of ideas of places to apply - I didn't even know if they were hiring. Apparently they were. Ha.

...And it turns out I MAY be able to stay at the current job I'm at. Yay, two jobs and 50 hours/week. :crazy:

Whoops. Totally hijacked this thread...

[Jonathan]

Just take what you can. :) I actually applied there because I'd run out of ideas of places to apply - I didn't even know if they were hiring. Apparently they were. Ha.

...And it turns out I MAY be able to stay at the current job I'm at. Yay, two jobs and 50 hours/week. :crazy:

Whoops. Totally hijacked this thread...
Yeah, true. I guess I need to go get an application from there pretty soon.

50 hours is pretty good $, so I hope you can pull them. It sounds rough though, and I'm sure it'd be exhausting. But, like I said, good luck! :)

[Hollywood Rock Chic]

I have been told that I am intimidating (not on-line, but off) A lot of people, especially guys, initially think that I am an aloof bitch; but when they find out that I am someone who is totally down to earth and nice, they are shocked!

[Pus$y Galore]

I have been told that I am intimidating (not on-line, but off) A lot of people, especially guys, initially think that I am an aloof bitch; but when they find out that I am someone who is totally down to earth and nice, they are shocked!
I get it in person myself. It took me two months to convince Frank I wanted to go out with him. Even though he had other coworkers tell him that I was interested in him, he was afraid "he'd crash and burn".

I know if I'm not smiling, I can look rather stern, but I'm the most approachable person you'll ever meet.

[Hollywood Rock Chic]

I get it in person myself. It took me two months to convince Frank I wanted to go out with him. Even though he had other coworkers tell him that I was interested in him, he was afraid "he'd crash and burn".

I know if I'm not smiling, I can look rather stern, but I'm the most approachable person you'll ever meet.
I remember one time, this so-called friend of mine told me that a lot of people think I am a bitch. I am not, just very shy, and because I do not look like someone who is, I get labeled as arrogant or stuck up. I am not, I am totally unpretentious and non judgmental. I am somewhat reserve and tend to keep to myself; also, I do not smile a lot (it causes wrinkles);)

[Pus$y Galore]

I remember one time, this so-called friend of mine told me that a lot of people think I am a bitch. I am not, just very shy, and because I do not look like someone who is, I get labeled as arrogant or stuck up. I am not, I am totally unpretentious and non judgmental. I am somewhat reserve and tend to keep to myself; also, I do not smile a lot (it causes wrinkles);)
I got the exact same thing at work. I'm tall to begin with, and would wear high heels (4") and usually some leather or suede outfit (used to be my favourites and there's a fantastic Toronto company that designs the stuff). Anyway, I would usually have something on my mind and be walking down the halls quickly. I can see where they'd think that. Also, I used to be quite shy at first in person, especially to guys I found good looking. I'm not like that anymore and I think that's helped change my persona. I was told I looked like a "bitch" several times! LOL That's when I tried to work on it a bit.

Sorry Brad for going off topic a little bit here. ;)

[littlebelle]

Kyle (Wreckless), lol- you knew I was gonna say that, right? ;) Basically, we got into this BIG ass argument over the Seahawks/Eagles when I was talking about that special monday night eagles/hawks game. I started pretty much going on about the Lofa thing and Kyle tripped out lol (don't worry, I was trippin too). Honestly, at first, I thought Kyle was some rude, outspoken sports fan that just liked to argue with people- now, he's one of my best friends... not only on the site, but in real life too. In my mind, a friends a friend- no matter how you put. Even though I haven't met him in real life, I still consider him one of my good friends.

So it just goes to show you, a little **** talking never hurt anybody :lol:.

[PunkyP0WER]

no, not really. i usually keep to myself anyway. not that i'm antisocial or shy, i'm just more of an observer. but i'll reach out to anyone and am always glad when someone reaches out to me.

i used to feel like an outsider and sometimes i still do since there are very close knit tight circles of friends here, but i think that speaks volumes in regards to the camaraderie of the members and as time goes by i think i'm finding my groove.

[Pus$y Galore]

no, not really. i usually keep to myself anyway. not that i'm antisocial or shy, i'm just more of an observer. but i'll reach out to anyone and am always glad when someone reaches out to me.

i used to feel like an outsider and sometimes i still do since there are very close knit tight circles of friends here, but i think that speaks volumes in regards to the camaraderie of the members and as time goes by i think i'm finding my groove.


Don't worry Kim - you're in MY circle at least! (for what that's worth anyway :lol: )

[Faith]

To be quite honest, a lot of people here intimidate me.

[TVFactFan]

When I first found out about Wreckless, it came during the Eagles' rough stretch of back-to-back losses against the Bears and Cowboys.

During those games, he had some profanity-laced threads, and I assumed he was another foul-mouthed fan.

Then, I got to see his pleasant side during the Philles run to a title.


Everyone is PLEASANT when their is WINNING-lol

[Stuck In The '70's]

When I first got here, I think I was intimidated by everybody. :lol:

[Shine]

It's funny that I should be posting under Sonny since when I first met him nearly four years ago, I was very, very intimidated by him. When I think of the name Sonny I think of the character played by James Caan in The Godfather. If you've seen the movie, you will no doubt remember the scene when Sonny beats up his abusive brother-in-law, which includes beating him over the head with a garbage can. Also, Sonny is a huge football fan and his username was at the time Dallas Cowboys Fanatic. So with that combination I thought Sonny was this massive bad ass who shouldn't be messed with. :lol: Of course, Sonny is really a teriffic person and a true gentleman.

[catlover79]

Solomon!! But then I got to know him better, and his rants about fast food, sports, etc. never fail to get me :rofl:!! Keep it up, Sol!! :D

[PunkyP0WER]

Don't worry Kim - you're in MY circle at least! (for what that's worth anyway :lol: )
hey cathie, i just found this post. YOUR circle is the only circle I want to be in, and to me thats worth everything that you think of me enough to include me in it :hug:

[beautifuldreamer]

hey cathie, i just found this post. YOUR circle is the only circle I want to be in, and to me thats worth everything that you think of me enough to include me in it :hug:

lol, sorry, I'm not even involved in this conversation... but I just think you guys are so incredibly sweet. I'm circling round ya'll right now!:D

[PunkyP0WER]

lol, sorry, I'm not even involved in this conversation... but I just think you guys are so incredibly sweet. I'm circling round ya'll right now!:D
oh, girl, you're in the circle too, you're too sweet for words. group hug! :bighug::bighug: :bighug:

[Brad Russ]

Solomon!! But then I got to know him better, and his rants about fast food, sports, etc. never fail to get me :rofl:!! Keep it up, Sol!! :D

Surprisingly, I was never really intimidated by Solomon. Even with his crazy antics at times, I always liked him, and just thought he was funny as heck.

[beautifuldreamer]

oh, girl, you're in the circle too, you're too sweet for words. group hug! :bighug::bighug: :bighug:

*speechless* :bighug: :bighug: :bighug:

[Brad Russ]

that brought tears to my eyes, brad. :hug: you're a very sweet person. thank you for posting this. i admit, sometimes i worry that the way i talk about some things turns people away and makes them think i'm completely antisocial or even bigoted. my myspace blog would be an absolute nightmare for any sane person who took everything i said seriously, lol. i guess i use a lot of obscure rhetoric and have an unusual sense of humor. i think most of the regular members here get the gist of me by now, but i hope those who don't yet can read your post and understand a little more about me.

i haven't had that experience here on the boards, but it's happened in real life. when i started high school, there was a guy in a few of my classes who was extremely sophisticated yet antisocial. the few times i heard him talk to anyone, he came off as very stewie griffin-esque. he had a reputation as being the evil future dictator of the world. i was really fascinated, but i was too intimidated by his personality to talk to him. i figured he wouldn't like me anyway because he constantly isolated himself from everyone and seemed like the kind of person who would just stare and tell me to go die if i said hi to him. in our junior year, i found him on myspace and added him just for the heck of it. a few months later he sent me a message regarding my suicidal blog entries and totally poured his heart out. he told me he'd always seen me in a different light and the world would be a completely different place without me. he went on to tell me secrets about his past that he'd never told anyone else before. i was so overwhelmed with emotion because i'd never had anyone show so much care for me and he was probably the last person i would have expected it from. long story short, we ended up being each other's first loves. we've broken up but we're still best friends and have feelings for each other. it's amazing to think of us five years ago and then think of the way things are between us now. there's really more than meets the eye with some people.

I'm so glad my words touched you Sarah, because I truly meant every word of what I said. I can't really explain it, but there's just always been something that's drawn me to you, and made me want to get to know you better. I know you're a woman of few words, as you've admitted that before, but just so you know, your few words speak volumes, and have meant the world to me. You are also a very sweet human being, and I am truly honored to know you!!! :heart: :hug:

That was an absolutely beautiful story about that kid from school who always intimidated you, only for you two to become great friends, and eventually boyfriend and girlfriend. Reading the part about you being suicidal, and him reaching out to you and telling you that the world would be a completely different place without you, almost brought tears to my eyes. I concur with him on that, and I myself would be heart broken if you weren't here. :( I've told you this before, but I'll say it again, there's something different about you, you just seem to get it, and most people don't. I wish I could explain it better than that, but let me just close by saying you're definitely one of a kind, and I mean that in the nicest, and most complimentary way. The world would definitely be alot crappier without you!!! :heart:

:bighug:

[Shine]

lol, sorry, I'm not even involved in this conversation... but I just think you guys are so incredibly sweet. I'm circling round ya'll right now!:D

You're such a sweet kid, Mattie. Your posts always put a smile on my face. :)

[Pus$y Galore]

Surprisingly, I was never really intimidated by Solomon. Even with his crazy antics at times, I always liked him, and just thought he was funny as heck.


Same here. Actually, I thought he was a bit of a nut. I remember a post on the King of Queens board and thought it was strange. LOL I think I ragged on him about his opinion (just what he usually wants - to create a good discussion). He's good at it! I like him a lot.

Actually, if anyone intimidated me, it would have to be Sarah. It was obvious she had strong opinions and had a big following. In a sense, she reminded me of myself at her age. She's grown a lot since those days and I have a lot of admiration for her now.

[Darren J.]

Not here, but in real life, this has happened. A few people seemed unapproachable, but turned out to be cool people. I don't know the people here well enough and no one has yet to be intimidating to me.

[Stuck In The '70's]

It's funny that I should be posting under Sonny since when I first met him nearly four years ago, I was very, very intimidated by him. When I think of the name Sonny I think of the character played by James Caan in The Godfather. If you've seen the movie, you will no doubt remember the scene when Sonny beats up his abusive brother-in-law, which includes beating him over the head with a garbage can. Also, Sonny is a huge football fan and his username was at the time Dallas Cowboys Fanatic. So with that combination I thought Sonny was this massive bad ass who shouldn't be messed with. :lol: Of course, Sonny is really a teriffic person and a true gentleman.
I remember you told me that one time. I can't believe I intimidated you. :lol:

[catlover79]

I remember you told me that one time. I can't believe I intimidated you. :lol:
Sonny, I can't picture you intimidating anyone. You're a marshmallow!! :D

[dawsongirl]

i used to feel like an outsider and sometimes i still do since there are very close knit tight circles of friends here

I am an outsider. Have been all my life, off and online. Guess I was never meant to fit in anywhere.

[Brad Russ]

I am an outsider. Have been all my life, off and online. Guess I was never meant to fit in anywhere.

You fit in perfectly around here Cathy, I'm shocked to hear that you don't think you fit in. To say this place wouldn't be the same without you, would be the understatement of the century, it would downright suck, and be weird without you!!! I'm serious, I truly can't imagine S.O. without you, it would just be straight up weird!! You are awesome, and bring ALOT to this community!!! :)

[Shine]

You fit in perfectly around here Cathy, I'm shocked to hear that you don't think you fit in. To say this place wouldn't be the same without you, would be the understatement of the century, it would downright suck, and be weird without you!!! I'm serious, I truly can't imagine S.O. without you, it would just be straight up weird!! You are awesome, and bring ALOT to this community!!! :)

I agree, Brad. Cathy is one of the foundations this place is built on.

[catlover79]

You fit in perfectly around here Cathy, I'm shocked to hear that you don't think you fit in. To say this place wouldn't be the same without you, would be the understatement of the century, it would downright suck, and be weird without you!!! I'm serious, I truly can't imagine S.O. without you, it would just be straight up weird!! You are awesome, and bring ALOT to this community!!! :)
:yeahthat Cathy, you are gorgeous, smart and funny. You DEFINITELY belong here with us!! :D :bighug:

[beautifuldreamer]

You fit in perfectly around here Cathy, I'm shocked to hear that you don't think you fit in. To say this place wouldn't be the same without you, would be the understatement of the century, it would downright suck, and be weird without you!!! I'm serious, I truly can't imagine S.O. without you, it would just be straight up weird!! You are awesome, and bring ALOT to this community!!! :)

It's true... you are like, a legend around here, Cathy. You're really cool... it wouldn't be the same without you. :)

[beautifuldreamer]

You're such a sweet kid, Mattie. Your posts always put a smile on my face. :)

Awww, ditto, Mike! :)