Is age just a number? or not?

[littlebelle]

What's your opinion on age differences when dating? Honestly, I don't think it's that big of a deal. I know a lot of people don't agree with me on that (okay, most people don't agree with me on that! :)) but to me, I think love is blind. I'm not saying a 13 year old should date a 20 year old (puke:) but if the person is at least 18, I think it's okay.

[catlover79]

I agree with you. If the two people in question are consenting adults, than I don't see what's wrong with the differences like 25/45, or 30/50, etc. If you're really in love with each other, then who cares what anyone else thinks?

[beautifuldreamer]

I don't really know, to be honest... It's not something I really think about. If you are an adult, I think you should be able to make your own choices about who you date. I guess with more age difference, though, you start to have less in common maybe??? I'm talking about 20+ years difference.

My uncle and aunt have a 19 year age difference between them, and they've been married a year and a half, and they're such an awesome couple!

I don't know... I don't think it matters.
I'm going to quote Monika's pastor for the THIRD time today!: Women mature faster than men!:lol:

[Hollow]

no, it isn't. but it should only be a reason to break/prevent relationships. the idea that it's "just a number" isn't a legitimate reason to get into a relationship if the ages are incompatible.

[Furienna]

I think it depends... Just like Beautifuldreamer said, age shouldn't matter, as long as both are adults. But the bigger the age difference is, the less they might have in common. I think it all comes down to the couple themselves.

[PunkyP0WER]

well i'm 26 and my husband is 61. i met him when i was 22 and he 58 but it did not start off as a romantic relationship at all. i know its cliche but we were just friends.


i went through a bad break up and was still pining over my ex and marvin (my husband) was mourning his wife he was married to for 30 years when she died of lung cancer.


basically we looked at each other as someone to talk to. evetually after spending a lot of time together (we used to have marathon phone conversations or i'd go to his house and we'd sit on his couch watching nick at nite and eating ice cream)he began having more serious feelings for me.


i was like scarlett o'hara however still hung up on my ex but he would tempt me with gifts, he'd give me $200 at a time to buy dvds or clothes and swim in his pool and drive his corvette not to mention a 5ct diamond bracelet. i felt like a princess, i never had a guy dote on me before, my previous boyfriends were freeloaders.


after a while my feelings grew for him as i began to think less about my ex and more about marvin and we married and i moved in.

however when i moved in our age did clash at first as it was a whole different
ballgame to live with each other. we got into many, many intense arguments and he was intensely jealous and always thought i was cheating, and for a while it didn't look like things were going to work out.


but we worked through everything and its been bliss ever since.

[robyrob]

i don't really think its a big deal, but I've never been in any relationships with more than a few years difference

[catlover79]

I think it depends... Just like Beautifuldreamer said, age shouldn't matter, as long as both are adults. But the bigger the age difference is, the less they might have in common. I think it all comes down to the couple themselves.
Yep, every couple is different. I know someone who is going through this situation, and it very complex. So who knows??

[LuLu Rogers]

well i'm 26 and my husband is 61. i met him when i was 22 and he 58 but it did not start off as a romantic relationship at all. i know its cliche but we were just friends.


i went through a bad break up and was still pining over my ex and marvin (my husband) was mourning his wife he was married to for 30 years when she died of lung cancer.


basically we looked at each other as someone to talk to. evetually after spending a lot of time together (we used to have marathon phone conversations or i'd go to his house and we'd sit on his couch watching nick at nite and eating ice cream)he began having more serious feelings for me.


i was like scarlett o'hara however still hung up on my ex but he would tempt me with gifts, he'd give me $200 at a time to buy dvds or clothes and swim in his pool and drive his corvette not to mention a 5ct diamond bracelet. i felt like a princess, i never had a guy dote on me before, my previous boyfriends were freeloaders.


after a while my feelings grew for him as i began to think less about my ex and more about marvin and we married and i moved in.

however when i moved in our age did clash at first as it was a whole different
ballgame to live with each other. we got into many, many intense arguments and he was intensely jealous and always thought i was cheating, and for a while it didn't look like things were going to work out.


but we worked through everything and its been bliss ever since.


I think that's beautiful!! :)



I've always liked older guys. I'm almost 22 and I'd love to meet a good guy who's 35-40, maybe even older for the right guy. I just really enjoy being with guys who are older than me, who have good stable jobs and have a solid plan for their lives.

[JamesG]

Myself, I'm into older people. I don't think age matters.

I've been in relationships with people who were at least 10 years older than me. Of the two serious relationships I have had one time it was 26/18 and other one was 36/22.

[Hollywood Rock Chic]

Personally, in my opinion, I do not think age should be a major factor when it comes to be in a relationship. When I was younger, I was in a couple of serious relationships where the man I was involved with (was a lot older than I) As I mentioned in another thread, I was deeply involved with an individual whom was 19 years my senior. If the both of you are compatible, have a lot in common and there is a strong chemistry, who cares what the age differences are!!! Enjoy the person you are with:)

[TVFactFan]

What's your opinion on age differences when dating? Honestly, I don't think it's that big of a deal. I know a lot of people don't agree with me on that (okay, most people don't agree with me on that! :)) but to me, I think love is blind. I'm not saying a 13 year old should date a 20 year old (puke:) but if the person is at least 18, I think it's okay.


If both the man and women are 25 or over then yes age is just a number.

[Brad Russ]

I've never dated a woman that was younger than me. Not saying I wouldn't, I just find myself more attracted to older women usually. I think alot of it has to do with the fact that I seem to have more in common with older women. I've even been that way with friends growing up, my friends were almost always older. As far as women go though, the oldest I ever dated was 55. She was in beauty pageants at my age, and was even prettier at 55 I thought. My youngest girlfriend was 31, and in my one year relationship with Donna, she was also much older than me, as she's 40, and I'm 27. So to me, if you're mature for your age, and can relate with someone who's older, than yeah, age is definitely nothing but a number.

With all that said, I definitey am not opposed to dating women my own age, and have even been thinking about pursuing someone more in my age range as soon as I get some things worked out in my life. When it comes to the opposite sex, I think it's good to have options, and variety. I don't understand people who say I'd only date someone of this age, or of this race. I say broaden your horizons, and be open minded to different things. You only live one life, live it to the fullest!!

[TVFactFan]

I've never dated a woman that was younger than me. Not saying I wouldn't, I just find myself more attracted to older women usually. I think alot of it has to do with the fact that I seem to have more in common with older women. I've even been that way with friends growing up, my friends were almost always older. As far as women go though, the oldest I ever dated was 55. She was in beauty pageants at my age, and was even prettier at 55 I thought. My youngest girlfriend was 31, and in my one year relationship with Donna, she was also much older than me, as she's 40, and I'm 27. So to me, if you're mature for your age, and can relate with someone who's older, than yeah, age is definitely nothing but a number.

With all that said, I definitey am not opposed to dating women my own age, and have even been thinking about pursuing someone more in my age range as soon as I get some things worked out in my life. When it comes to the opposite sex, I think it's good to have options, and variety. I don't understand people who say I'd only date someone of this age, or of this race. I say broaden your horizons, and be open minded to different things. You only live one life, live it to the fullest!!



You are different than me, I don't go past 34 and I'm 33-lol I like younger women

[Brad Russ]

You are different than me, I don't go past 34 and I'm 33-lol I like younger women

That's cool, to each his own. We all have our preferances. I know alot of people like you who are into younger women, and I can respect that.

[Shine]

If he makes you happy, and you make him happy, then that is all that counts. :)

[PunkyP0WER]

I think that's beautiful!! :)



I've always liked older guys. I'm almost 22 and I'd love to meet a good guy who's 35-40, maybe even older for the right guy. I just really enjoy being with guys who are older than me, who have good stable jobs and have a solid plan for their lives.
thanks lauren. before i met him, the thought of a relationship with an older man was something i wouldn't even consider but there's a lot to be said for it. he's not into head games, he does not need me for any monetary aid, hes sowed his oats so to speak and its a much more stable lifestyle.

however, its not without sacrifice. he does not want children and thats always been my dream, but you can never say never.

we do have a lot in common...we both love old movies and we are both homebodies. and we've also exposed each other to differnt interests. i never liked sports but now i am an avid yankees fan and i introduced him to theatre. he never saw a play before but this may he'll be seeing his 3rd one. i also introduced him to ipods and text messaging (he textes more than a teenager now)

[TVFactFan]

thanks lauren. before i met him, the thought of a relationship with an older man was something i wouldn't even consider but there's a lot to be said for it. he's not into head games, he does not need me for any monetary aid, hes sowed his oats so to speak and its a much more stable lifestyle.

however, its not without sacrifice. he does not want children and thats always been my dream, but you can never say never.

we do have a lot in common...we both love old movies and we are both homebodies. and we've also exposed each other to differnt interests. i never liked sports but now i am an avid yankees fan and i introduced him to theatre. he never saw a play before but this may he'll be seeing his 3rd one. i also introduced him to ipods and text messaging (he textes more than a teenager now)



I been trying to find a homebody forever in Philly and never have-lol Lucky you sounds great. I don't think they exist in Philadelphia.

[PunkyP0WER]

you are a homebody sol? i couldn't imagine it. you have such a larger than life personality!

[TVFactFan]

you are a homebody sol? i couldn't imagine it. you have such a larger than life personality!


Yup, Never been into Clubs or Bars. I usually go out every once in a while to eat or to the movies. But for the most part I'm in 65% of the time and out 35% of the time.

[Brad Russ]

Yup, Never been into Clubs or Bars. I usually go out every once in a while to eat or to the movies. But for the most part I'm in 65% of the time and out 35% of the time.

You sound like me, I've always been a homebody. Like you, I'll go out to movies, out to eat, go on an occasional date, but that's pretty much the extent of my outdoor activities.

[Big C]

I really don't think it's a big deal.

I've met plenty of pretty girls who were older than me.

[PunkyP0WER]

i've always been a homebody and that was another reason it was hard to find someone my own age, they were all into the club or party scene.

my 1st b/f was 40 but honest to God I did not know it. he didn't look or act his age at all. but he was an egomaniac and the one b/f that was my age was a drug addict so.....thats been my experience with different ages

[Shine]

i've always been a homebody and that was another reason it was hard to find someone my own age, they were all into the club or party scene.

my 1st b/f was 40 but honest to God I did not know it. he didn't look or act his age at all. but he was an egomaniac and the one b/f that was my age was a drug addict so.....thats been my experience with different ages


At least you didn't go out on a date with a guy who brought his mother along. Ask Monika about that one. It's so priceless. :lol: I'm sure a cutie like you will find someone.

[Hollow]

If both the man and women are 25 or over then yes age is just a number.
yeah, pretty much. i don't think the age at which it's ok to date anyone older than you, regardless of how wide the gap, should be 18. 18-year-olds are still kids. they aren't at the same stage of mentality as 40-year-olds are.

[catlover79]

At least you didn't go out on a date with a guy who brought his mother along. Ask Monika about that one. It's so priceless. :lol: I'm sure a cutie like you will find someone.
Oh lord, I just wanted the floor to swallow me whole. I can laugh about it now (it happened back in 1998) but at the time it wasn't funny at all. :lol: Needless to say, I ditched all his calls after that. Ay carumba!!

[Shine]

Oh lord, I just wanted the floor to swallow me whole. I can laugh about it now (it happened back in 1998) but at the time it wasn't funny at all. :lol: Needless to say, I ditched all his calls after that. Ay carumba!!


:lol:

[PunkyP0WER]

At least you didn't go out on a date with a guy who brought his mother along. Ask Monika about that one. It's so priceless. :lol: I'm sure a cutie like you will find someone. that must have been a nightmare!!! (sounds like good sitcom fodder though) monika, do tell, sweetie!

[catlover79]

that must have been a nightmare!!! (sounds like good sitcom fodder though) monika, do tell, sweetie!
It would've made a great sitcom idea. Hey, any network/sitcom writer out there - I'm willing to let you make my experience into an episode ($$$$$$)!!

[dawsongirl]

I think it depends... Just like Beautifuldreamer said, age shouldn't matter, as long as both are adults. But the bigger the age difference is, the less they might have in common. I think it all comes down to the couple themselves.
Yeah...it really depends on the people. Some could do it, some couldn't. I have no experience in it myself (my bf is only 5 years younger than me...big deal. I act younger than he is anyway. lol)

[PunkyP0WER]

It would've made a great sitcom idea. Hey, any network/sitcom writer out there - I'm willing to let you make my experience into an episode ($$$$$$)!!
all joking aside monika, i'm glad you're able to laugh about it now, but i can't imagine how uncomfortable you must have felt in such an akward situation. you're such a knock-out beautiful girl you'll find your prince charming like i did

[catlover79]

all joking aside monika, i'm glad you're able to laugh about it now, but i can't imagine how uncomfortable you must have felt in such an akward situation. you're such a knock-out beautiful girl you'll find your prince charming like i did
Awww...thank you. :blush: Maybe someday my prince will come, but I'm in no hurry. I've had so many bad experiences the past 10+ years that I am much happier single.

[Brad Russ]

Awww...thank you. :blush: Maybe someday my prince will come, but I'm in no hurry. I've had so many bad experiences the past 10+ years that I am much happier single.

I sure wish I had your outlook Monika. I loved being in a relationship, and am miserable being single. :( Hopefully my princess will come soon.

[JamesG]

yeah, pretty much. i don't think the age at which it's ok to date anyone older than you, regardless of how wide the gap, should be 18. 18-year-olds are still kids. they aren't at the same stage of mentality as 40-year-olds are.

Probaby why mine didn't turn out that great.

Although our relationship wasn't really a "standard relationship" ours was more of a D/s one.

[PunkyP0WER]

brad, someone as handsome with a wonderful persoanlity as you won't be single for long.

[Brad Russ]

brad, someone as handsome with a wonderful persoanlity as you won't be single for long.

Thanks Kim, that's sweet of you. :) I sure hope you're right.

[Pus$y Galore]

It would've made a great sitcom idea. Hey, any network/sitcom writer out there - I'm willing to let you make my experience into an episode ($$$$$$)!!

Actually, sorry Monika, but it's already been done! (What hasn't on a sitcom?):lol:

If you've ever seen the Dick Van Dyke show, Sally had a boyfriend, Herman Glimpshire - he was a big mama's boy and dragged mom along on his dates with Sally! They played it up good on that show. Funny stuff!

You're dating history sounds a lot like mine. I've seen just about everything too.

I've usually dated older guys - but not by much, 13 years was the most (when I was 22) and it didn't seem like there was any age difference. Course, I grew up with 2 older brothers so that helped.

Apparently it's a natural thing for females to want to date older guys. And it is because they're usually more stable, both emotionally and financially (let's face it, finances do play into it ladies).

I'd be open to dating any age - younger or older right now. I've actually been hit on by a lot of younger guys lately. Got to admit, it's a really nice feeling.

[Shine]

Awww...thank you. :blush: Maybe someday my prince will come, but I'm in no hurry. I've had so many bad experiences the past 10+ years that I am much happier single.


I know how you feel, Monika. I think society puts pressure on people to be in relationships, that if you are not in a relationship then there must be something wrong with you. And that simply isn't true. One of the things that I have come to terms with over the last couple of months is that it is okay to be single. And right now, I am much happier being single too. :)

[Shine]

thanks lauren. before i met him, the thought of a relationship with an older man was something i wouldn't even consider but there's a lot to be said for it. he's not into head games, he does not need me for any monetary aid, hes sowed his oats so to speak and its a much more stable lifestyle.

however, its not without sacrifice. he does not want children and thats always been my dream, but you can never say never.

we do have a lot in common...we both love old movies and we are both homebodies. and we've also exposed each other to differnt interests. i never liked sports but now i am an avid yankees fan and i introduced him to theatre. he never saw a play before but this may he'll be seeing his 3rd one. i also introduced him to ipods and text messaging (he textes more than a teenager now)

I'm happy to hear that things are working out so well between you and him. :)

[Shine]

I sure wish I had your outlook Monika. I loved being in a relationship, and am miserable being single. :( Hopefully my princess will come soon.

You're a gentleman, Brad, and there is no dout in my mind that there is a special young lady out there for you. In the mean time, try to enjoy being single. Enjoy the freedom. :)

[LuLu Rogers]

I sure wish I had your outlook Monika. I loved being in a relationship, and am miserable being single. :( Hopefully my princess will come soon.

Move to Alabama and you won't have that problem ;) :blush:

[Shine]

Move to Alabama and you won't have that problem ;) :blush:

Ohhhhh....:lol: ;)

[TeeVeeCloset]

Can't believe I'm joining in on this thread because I'm slightly bitter.....lol....also hate to get personal on these boards.....BUT..... being 46 now...I've had 4 serious relationships, the longest being 9 years and we were both the same age.....I'm single now......I have no problem with age differences and had two experiances......the last being about a year ago, she was 27, the other one was when I was about 40 and she was 23.....long story short, I am one of those guys who are the attentive ones, spoil women, never cheat, surprise presents, trips, flowers for no reason, little gifts, etc. We got along great and yes I felt much younger and we both taught eachother something......the downside at least for me, is that I found when a woman is younger than a man (and she is not a gold digger), it usually is just a new novelty. I fell in love with both women in a reasonable time, and was open to marriage, children, etc..which they both said they wanted from the man they were dating...but for some women being with a older secure well off financially guy is most likely YES A CRUSH .....and crushes can fade as soon as they can begin.....SO BEWARE......as eventually both of these younger women lost interest as the novelty of telling all their friends was over......they didn't play me...I'm very generous, but have good instincts if she is just after me for my money....it was just like they had their crush and the next day, it's over........but I have some great memories, because yes guys can be "dogs" I'm not one of them...I respect women and have found the nicer you treat them the less they respect you in the long run, the challenge is over for them, but I cannot change who I am!

Let me lastly add, I am located in the NY/NJ area, its a dating nightmare here but anyone looking for a "nice guy" who proudly admits has watched "General Hospital" for 29 years.........feel free to send a pm!.............lol

[browneyes106]

What's your opinion on age differences when dating? Honestly, I don't think it's that big of a deal. I know a lot of people don't agree with me on that (okay, most people don't agree with me on that! :)) but to me, I think love is blind. I'm not saying a 13 year old should date a 20 year old (puke:) but if the person is at least 18, I think it's okay.

I agree as long as both people over the age of 18. A few years at my old workplace one of my coworkers was upset that her 19-year old son was dating a 23 your old woman. After awhile she got used to it.

[catlover79]

Move to Alabama and you won't have that problem ;) :blush:
:rofl:

[Pus$y Galore]

Can't believe I'm joining in on this thread because I'm slightly bitter.....lol....also hate to get personal on these boards.....BUT..... being 46 now...I've had 4 serious relationships, the longest being 9 years and we were both the same age.....I'm single now......I have no problem with age differences and had two experiances......the last being about a year ago, she was 27, the other one was when I was about 40 and she was 23.....long story short, I am one of those guys who are the attentive ones, spoil women, never cheat, surprise presents, trips, flowers for no reason, little gifts, etc. We got along great and yes I felt much younger and we both taught eachother something......the downside at least for me, is that I found when a woman is younger than a man (and she is not a gold digger), it usually is just a new novelty. I fell in love with both women in a reasonable time, and was open to marriage, children, etc..which they both said they wanted from the man they were dating...but for some women being with a older secure well off financially guy is most likely YES A CRUSH .....and crushes can fade as soon as they can begin.....SO BEWARE......as eventually both of these younger women lost interest as the novelty of telling all their friends was over......they didn't play me...I'm very generous, but have good instincts if she is just after me for my money....it was just like they had their crush and the next day, it's over........but I have some great memories, because yes guys can be "dogs" I'm not one of them...I respect women and have found the nicer you treat them the less they respect you in the long run, the challenge is over for them, but I cannot change who I am!

Let me lastly add, I am located in the NY/NJ area, its a dating nightmare here but anyone looking for a "nice guy" who proudly admits has watched "General Hospital" for 29 years.........feel free to send a pm!.............lol
I think what you said has a lot of truth to it. My ex is currently dating a girl much younger than him who's dated lawyers etc. in the past. I've been positive all along that its just been a novelty for both and now it's wearing off (with both). I also know she's the type that would dump him in a minute should a younger, richer guy come along.

I was only into General Hospital for a couple of years in the early 80s, but I like a man who's comfortable enough in his masculinity to admit to that. ;)

I'm only a couple of years OLDER than you, but if you're open to "foreigners" hehe, post yer pic and we'll see where it might go from there! :lol: ;) (NY/NJ isn't THAT far away from me).

[MickeyMac]

If two people dig each other and are happy I dont think age is a big thing.

I actually pefer women who are older than me, but I will settle for somebody around my age if they were the right person.

That said I wouldnt want to date anyone that was 7 years or more younger than me. I would feel uncomfortable dating somebody who I had 10 years on.

[MickeyMac]

Oh lord, I just wanted the floor to swallow me whole. I can laugh about it now (it happened back in 1998) but at the time it wasn't funny at all. :lol: Needless to say, I ditched all his calls after that. Ay carumba!!



That guy forgot the first rule of dating. Never take dating tips from your mother.

[Pus$y Galore]

Now I aint saying she a gold digger....but she aint messin' with no-


? Who's not a gold digger? I'm confused with your post Kyle.

[Number 9 Dream]

As long as it's legal and everyone is consenting, I don't see a problem with it. IMHO, you fall in love with a PERSON, not a gender, race, age, whathaveyou. I'm falling head over heels for someone who is WAY older than me. I've always preferred older guys, although I will date someone around my age (26). I say, to each his own! If we are lucky to meet our soulmate, why let age be a factor in determining if we date them or not? Give it a try and then see if it's an issue :)

[catlover79]

That guy forgot the first rule of dating. Never take dating tips from your mother.
You could tell which two phrases were running through her head - "daughter-in-law" and "grandchildren". :eek: :seeya:

[catlover79]

As long as it's legal and everyone is consenting, I don't see a problem with it. IMHO, you fall in love with a PERSON, not a gender, race, age, whathaveyou. I'm falling head over heels for someone who is WAY older than me. I've always preferred older guys, although I will date someone around my age (26). I say, to each his own! If we are lucky to meet our soulmate, why let age be a factor in determining if we date them or not? Give it a try and then see if it's an issue :)
That is EXACTLY how I feel, Kristel!! :clap

[beautifuldreamer]

You could tell which two phrases were running through her head - "daughter-in-law" and "grandchildren". :eek: :seeya:

Oh my.... ugh... oh my!!!:barf: You poor thing!:eek:

[ekkostar]

I've always been attracted to older guys and I'll probably end up with an older man. I certainly eyed the one in a suit I met (he had to be about 40 something) as I was coming out of Barnes & Noble this afternoon. We had a few seconds glance! :)

[Doodyville10019]

Age was never a big deal with my family.

My mom and dad were 18 and 23 respectively when they married, and they stayed married for 50 years until my dad passed away.

My sister and her late husband were 23 and 31 respectively when they married, and they stayed married for 30 years until he passed away.

My husband and I were 32 and 42 respectively when we married seven years ago this coiming May. Our marriage is still going VERY strong. And neither one of us act our ages!

[catlover79]

Oh my.... ugh... oh my!!!:barf: You poor thing!:eek:
My sister was at home with me when he picked me up. She just stood there and laughed at me! :mad: :lol:

[catlover79]

I've always been attracted to older guys and I'll probably end up with an older man. I certainly eyed the one in a suit I met (he had to be about 40 something) as I was coming out of Barnes & Noble this afternoon. We had a few seconds glance! :)
You know, once I saw a gentleman at the library who looked a lot like your man John. Same tall build, silver hair, etc.

[beautifuldreamer]

My sister was at home with me when he picked me up. She just stood there and laughed at me! :mad: :lol:

:rofl:

[PunkyP0WER]

You know, once I saw a gentleman at the library who looked a lot like your man John. Same tall build, silver hair, etc.
i had the biggest crush on john larroquette a few years ago. i still think hes hot. i love the sophistication of older men.


i think bill kurtis is super hot too! i can listen to his voice all day. he makes everything he says sound like shakespeare. i love the new att&t commercials hes been in lately. its nice to see he doesn't take himself so seriously. he seems like a nice guy in real life. i wish he'd get a new show!

[Brad Russ]

Another thing I love about older women, is that they have more experience, and know what they're doing romantically, if you know what I mean. ;) I heard that guys reach their sexual peak in their mid 20's, while women reach theirs in there 40's, or 50's, so with that in mind, I think young men with older women goes together like peanut butter goes with jelly.

[Shine]

i had the biggest crush on john larroquette a few years ago. i still think hes hot. i love the sophistication of older men.


i think bill kurtis is super hot too! i can listen to his voice all day. he makes everything he says sound like shakespeare. i love the new att&t commercials hes been in lately. its nice to see he doesn't take himself so seriously. he seems like a nice guy in real life. i wish he'd get a new show!

Here's a picture of John Larroquette from Star Trek III.

[TeeVeeCloset]

As long as it's legal and everyone is consenting, I don't see a problem with it. IMHO, you fall in love with a PERSON, not a gender, race, age, whathaveyou. I'm falling head over heels for someone who is WAY older than me. I've always preferred older guys, although I will date someone around my age (26). I say, to each his own! If we are lucky to meet our soulmate, why let age be a factor in determining if we date them or not? Give it a try and then see if it's an issue :)

This is to the above poster and the other poster who said she always falls for older guys.....First could you please read my other longer post in this thread about "crushes". also #9 BTW love your screenname, being a Beatles fan all my life, and yes my first concert was John Lennon in 1972 when I was 9, but I digress...lol.....since I have been involved with two women being 17 and 20 years younger then me....I ask sincerely when you quote "I've always preferred older guys"...How long does it last? obviously there are many reasons why relationships end....but from my expierances.....I am fairly attractive, its hard to examine yourself, I'm not muscular, thin, have all my short hair...lol....never been told by any woman that it didn't work out because of looks, obviously if they weren't attracted to me, we wouldn't have gone out in the first place! I have worked in television for 29 straight years, am financially secure, not a player, respect women, and never had a woman complain about not being "satisfied" if you get my drift...lol.....but both of the younger women I was with ended it because I saw them change, because I felt the novelty wore off after about a year or shorter and the crush ended. I would really like your opinion, since yes I am attracted to younger women, not all the time, but at age 46, and I would like a family eventually, I am almost forced to date a woman not past age 35 or so because I feel you should have at least a year of "fun dating" which includes traveling, etc and really getting to know eachother before you talk marriage, children....you should both discuss what your goals are, meaning if one person doesn't want marriage, children, etc.....but I have had many friends that marry after 6 months of dating and it turns out to be a disaster. thanks for some thoughts in advance!

[MickeyMac]

Another thing I love about older women, is that they have more experience, and know what they're doing romantically, if you know what I mean. ;) I heard that guys reach their sexual peak in their mid 20's, while women reach theirs in there 40's, or 50's, so with that in mind, I think young men with older women goes together like peanut butter goes with jelly.



Why do you think I dig older women. :happyface

[catlover79]

Monika's IDEAL older man:

[MickeyMac]

Monika's IDEAL older man:




I never would have guessed :D

[Janice]

There's more to it than, "Age is just a number", to my anyway. I married a man almost 18 years my senior. I love him more now than I did when we got together 26 years ago. Would I do it again? Not so sure, reason being because I love him so much. If we don't die by accident or an illness when we're not old, I'll probably get to spend the last 15 or 20 years of my life alone. The thought of that scares me more now because we're getting older. Please, I don't need to be reminded that I can get hit by a bus and die today. I realize that. I just can't even imagine life without my husband. Really, it's hard to tell where he leaves off and I begin. Sounds corny, but we're almost like one person.

It's a person choice, of course, but if celebrating your 60th wedding anniversary means anything to you, marry a person in your age group, if at all possible. Thing is, when love strikes, all logical thinking goes out the window. It's true, the heart wants what the heart wants. When my husband and I met, we caught on like a house on fire. He moved in immediately. Nothing could have kept us apart. I guess I should be happy for the time we've had, for the time we're having together now, and for the time we'll have in the future. It's just that sometimes, I wish he was my age, or that I was his age. I'd even take that. I honestly would.

[TeeVeeCloset]

There's more to it than, "Age is just a number", to my anyway. I married a man almost 18 years my senior. I love him more now than I did when we got together 26 years ago. Would I do it again? Not so sure, reason being because I love him so much. If we don't die by accident or an illness when we're not old, I'll probably get to spend the last 15 or 20 years of my life alone. The thought of that scares me more now because we're getting older. Please, I don't need to be reminded that I can get hit by a bus and die today. I realize that. I just can't even imagine life without my husband. Really, it's hard to tell where he leaves off and I begin. Sounds corny, but we're almost like one person.

It's a person choice, of course, but if celebrating your 60th wedding anniversary means anything to you, marry a person in your age group, if at all possible. Thing is, when love strikes, all logical thinking goes out the window. It's true, the heart wants what the heart wants. When my husband and I met, we caught on like a house on fire. He moved in immediately. Nothing could have kept us apart. I guess I should be happy for the time we've had, for the time we're having together now, and for the time we'll have in the future. It's just that sometimes, I wish he was my age, or that I was his age. I'd even take that. I honestly would.

You come off so sincere, yet I'm shocked that you would even question "would you do it again?" but in the same paragraph you describe having 26 years of wonderful happiness...yes odds are he will pass before you, but you already have those 26+++ years of happiness....and as they say...it is better to have one day of happiness, than a lifetime of misery....you are already way ahead of most of us.......read all my posts in this thread if you need more info regarding what I mean.

[Janice]

You come off so sincere, yet I'm shocked that you would even question "would you do it again?" but in the same paragraph you describe having 26 years of wonderful happiness...yes odds are he will pass before you, but you already have those 26+++ years of happiness....and as they say...it is better to have one day of happiness, than a lifetime of misery....you are already way ahead of most of us.......read all my posts in this thread if you need more info regarding what I mean.
I wouldn't have known. I know people go their entire lives without finding true love. One of my closest friends is my age, and has never found love, just jerks. I know my post may come off confusing, even to me, lol. I just don't know if I'll be able to handle the emotional devastation and the loneliness that will follow, if/when he dies before me. I do hope he dies before me, as I don't want him to take that hit. I think he'd take it even worse than I would. I just think it's wiser to marry a person closer in age, if it's possible. That's my opinion, for what it's worth.

[TeeVeeCloset]

I wouldn't have known. I know people go their entire lives without finding true love. One of my closest friends is my age, and has never found love, just jerks. I know my post may come off confusing, even to me, lol. I just don't know if I'll be able to handle the emotional devastation and the loneliness that will follow, if/when he dies before me. I do hope he dies before me, as I don't want him to take that hit. I think he'd take it even worse than I would. I just think it's wiser to marry a person closer in age, if it's possible. That's my opinion, for what it's worth.

When you say "I wouldn't have known" do you mean if you never met, you would have never known the possible pain of loss or lonelyness that you could eventually face??? So you would give up the 26+ years of wonderful happiness you've already had??? I hope not because again you seem really full of contradictions....I'm not being mean.....but I subscribe to the theory of love that if I could have even 10 years of perfect happiness and have it suddenly end, which actually did happen to me...she left without a single word of warning....I don't regret a single day even though most men would consider her a b**ch, yet we were happy for those 10 years and I will always treasure them.

Yes studies have proven that men do mostly die before their wives even when close in age, studies have further proven regarding of age, if a man survives his wife, men have a much harder time excepting and living life again....remember no matter what happens with your situation, nothing will ever change or take away the 26+++ years you will already have had.

[PunkyP0WER]

There's more to it than, "Age is just a number", to my anyway. I married a man almost 18 years my senior. I love him more now than I did when we got together 26 years ago. Would I do it again? Not so sure, reason being because I love him so much. If we don't die by accident or an illness when we're not old, I'll probably get to spend the last 15 or 20 years of my life alone. The thought of that scares me more now because we're getting older. Please, I don't need to be reminded that I can get hit by a bus and die today. I realize that. I just can't even imagine life without my husband. Really, it's hard to tell where he leaves off and I begin. Sounds corny, but we're almost like one person.

It's a person choice, of course, but if celebrating your 60th wedding anniversary means anything to you, marry a person in your age group, if at all possible. Thing is, when love strikes, all logical thinking goes out the window. It's true, the heart wants what the heart wants. When my husband and I met, we caught on like a house on fire. He moved in immediately. Nothing could have kept us apart. I guess I should be happy for the time we've had, for the time we're having together now, and for the time we'll have in the future. It's just that sometimes, I wish he was my age, or that I was his age. I'd even take that. I honestly would.
janice that was so beautiful it brought me to tears. that is exactly how i feel. i sometimes dwell on the fact that i will most likely outlive my husband and it scares me that we might only have 15 "good" years left (more i hope) and i might be alone and i can't imagine life without him. luckily (aside from his cancer) he is active and vital and in good shape, but as you get older health becomes fickle.

he's very young at heart and he says i keep him young. he actually doesn't have one gray hair on his head. we try to enjoy the time we have together and not dwell about the future but its always in the back of my mind .

[TeeVeeCloset]

janice that was so beautiful it brought me to tears. that is exactly how i feel. i sometimes dwell on the fact that i will most likely outlive my husband and it scares me that in 15 years or so (more i hope) i could be alone and i can't imagine life without him. luckily (aside from his cancer) he is active and vital and in good shape. he actually doesn't have one gray hair on his head. but its always in the back of my mind.

I respect you both very much and wish you much happiness, but as a mature 46 year old man who has exposed much of my private life in this thread, something I usually don't like to do, again from a man's perspective, and I'm sure if your men knew you were thinking these things about the future, they would heavily suggest as I do that you live every moment in the now, as nothing is more important than now, the memories will never go away, I'm not saying live in a bubble and not realize what could happen....but living now will make now even better instead of thinking of being alone in the future and as John Lennon said "Life is what happens when your busy making other plans". Sorry for all the cliches, but I am being very sincere to you both!

[Big C]

I don't think age should hinder how you're seen.

See Mariah Carey and Valerie Bertinelli- way up there in age, but still very hot.

[catlover79]

I never would have guessed :D
:rofl:

[Janice]

When you say "I wouldn't have known" do you mean if you never met, you would have never known the possible pain of loss or lonelyness that you could eventually face??? So you would give up the 26+ years of wonderful happiness you've already had??? I hope not because again you seem really full of contradictions....I'm not being mean.....but I subscribe to the theory of love that if I could have even 10 years of perfect happiness and have it suddenly end, which actually did happen to me...she left without a single word of warning....I don't regret a single day even though most men would consider her a b**ch, yet we were happy for those 10 years and I will always treasure them.

Yes studies have proven that men do mostly die before their wives even when close in age, studies have further proven regarding of age, if a man survives his wife, men have a much harder time excepting and living life again....remember no matter what happens with your situation, nothing will ever change or take away the 26+++ years you will already have had.
I wouldn't have known him. You can't miss what you never had. I was a young, very pretty girl. I don't mean to sound conceited, but I was voted prettiest girl of my senior class in high school. Finding love was never a problem for me from the time I started dating at 13 until I met my husband at 25. He had four teenage kids at the time, not too much younger than I was. Step-parenting is not a walk in the park. Demanding in-laws. It wasn't easy. It's more complicated than I can get into here. Still, I was crazy over him, and I still am today. Whenever I'm asked for advice by young girls (nieces, etc), I tell them when they meet an older man with kids, to run for the hills.

:seeya:

That's all history now. Things are okay with with his kids. I'm very close to a couple of them. Still, if I had to do it over again, I'm not so sure I would, for a couple of reasons. The kid/family part of it being a big reason, and the fact that if he lives to be 80, I'll still only be 62. My big reward, young widowhood. I didn't say I wouldn't do it again, I said I wasn't sure, and I'm still not. I just don't know if it's all worth it, on a few levels. There's no contradiction. Life isn't cut and dry, and I'm basing my reply to this thread with my life experience in mind (nobody else's), and my fear of losing the love of my life. A person can be the love of your life, despite having problems. He's the greatest guy going. It's just been a lot of headaches. FYI - my husband helped me write this post. :)

[PunkyP0WER]

this is my husband and me

[Janice]

janice that was so beautiful it brought me to tears. that is exactly how i feel. i sometimes dwell on the fact that i will most likely outlive my husband and it scares me that we might only have 15 "good" years left (more i hope) and i might be alone and i can't imagine life without him. luckily (aside from his cancer) he is active and vital and in good shape, but as you get older health becomes fickle.

he's very young at heart and he says i keep him young. he actually doesn't have one gray hair on his head. we try to enjoy the time we have together and not dwell about the future but its always in the back of my mind .
I just saw your picture, Kim. It's a great shot. You look fantastic together. It is scary. My husband is a diabetic, and that's just the start of it. I worry every day of my life. It's nice to find someone who can relate. :hug:

[catlover79]

this is my husband and me
I think you two are adorable together!! How many years have you been married??

[PunkyP0WER]

I just saw your picture, Kim. It's a great shot. You look fantastic together. It is scary. My husband is a diabetic, and that's just the start of it. I worry every day of my life. It's nice to find someone who can relate. :hug:
thank you Janice, i feel the same way. when i read your post it was like seeing my own thoughts put into words and written out. those are all my very fears and worries. and they're very scary for me to think about because i know it will one day be an inevitable reality.

i want you to know i still pray and will continue to do so for Carrie and i will pray for Lou, that he stays in good health and that you will have many more years of happiness together.

its nice to know theres someone to lean on who can truly understand and i hope you will not hesitate to lean on me either, sweetie. God bless you. :bighug: :hug:

[PunkyP0WER]

thank you monika! i've known him for 5 years and have been married 4 years.

[beautifuldreamer]

this is my husband and me

Wow, you guys look really great together. I must say... hearing about the age difference in writing, it seems like a lot of years, but seeing the two of you together... I don't know, it just fits, and the numbers don't matter all of a sudden.:D

[PunkyP0WER]

thanks mattie. it does seem more significant when you look at the math of it, but i believe if you're young at heart thats all that matters

[Janice]

Yep, I'm posting pictures that are 10 years old. I don't take a good picture anymore. It's the weirdest thing, I look good, then I see a picture, and think WTH?, lol.

[Hollywood Rock Chic]

Yep, I'm posting pictures that are 10 years old. I don't take a good picture anymore. It's the weirdest thing, I look good, then I see a picture, and think WTH?, lol.

JESUS, are you absolutely stunning or what? What a gorgeous couple, too:)

[catlover79]

Yep, I'm posting pictures that are 10 years old. I don't take a good picture anymore. It's the weirdest thing, I look good, then I see a picture, and think WTH?, lol.
You guys look like models!! :D I also loved your wedding picture that you posted here a while back, Janice. :D

[catlover79]

thank you monika! i've known him for 5 years and have been married 4 years.
Awwww...:love:

[steevo]

thanks lauren. before i met him, the thought of a relationship with an older man was something i wouldn't even consider but there's a lot to be said for it. he's not into head games, he does not need me for any monetary aid, hes sowed his oats so to speak and its a much more stable lifestyle.

however, its not without sacrifice. he does not want children and thats always been my dream, but you can never say never.

we do have a lot in common...we both love old movies and we are both homebodies. and we've also exposed each other to differnt interests. i never liked sports but now i am an avid yankees fan and i introduced him to theatre. he never saw a play before but this may he'll be seeing his 3rd one. i also introduced him to ipods and text messaging (he textes more than a teenager now)

Kim, I have heard people say that opposites attract. It looks like you and your husband have quite a strong relationship and that's a precious thing.
BTW, nice picture of you two. :wave:

As for me, as long as they are both consenting adults, I don't see where age is a factor. I also don't feel the need to be in a relationship. I have a mostly platonic friendship with a woman who is two years younger than me. Maybe it will develop into a more serious relationship down the road, or maybe not. I would love to share my life with a good woman, but it has to be right. I would also need to make some changes in my life, so I am probably not ready.

[LuLu Rogers]

this is my husband and me

Beautiful Couple :)

[LuLu Rogers]

Yep, I'm posting pictures that are 10 years old. I don't take a good picture anymore. It's the weirdest thing, I look good, then I see a picture, and think WTH?, lol.


I've said it before when I saw these pictures and I'll say it again, you're one of the most gorgeous women I've ever seen in my life! Lou's not to shabby either ;)

[PunkyP0WER]

Yep, I'm posting pictures that are 10 years old. I don't take a good picture anymore. It's the weirdest thing, I look good, then I see a picture, and think WTH?, lol.
Janice you are jaw droppingly gorgeous. My gosh you're stunning. Your husband looks so debonair and handsome as well. Those photos look like they should be in a fashion mag! You make such a lovely couple.every year i ask my husband to get a prof. photo done of us together but he won't.

[PunkyP0WER]

Kim, I have heard people say that opposites attract. It looks like you and your husband have quite a strong relationship and that's a precious thing.
BTW, nice picture of you two. :wave:

As for me, as long as they are both consenting adults, I don't see where age is a factor. I also don't feel the need to be in a relationship. I have a mostly platonic friendship with a woman who is two years younger than me. Maybe it will develop into a more serious relationship down the road, or maybe not. I would love to share my life with a good woman, but it has to be right. I would also need to make some changes in my life, so I am probably not ready.
thanks steve. we are definately like the odd couple. he's felix and i'm oscar although he managed to domesticate me some;) he's very neat and high strung and i'm very laid back and sloppy.

[PunkyP0WER]

Beautiful Couple :)
aw, thank you sweetie :)

[LuLu Rogers]

aw, thank you sweetie :)


You're very welcome :)

[Shine]

Yep, I'm posting pictures that are 10 years old. I don't take a good picture anymore. It's the weirdest thing, I look good, then I see a picture, and think WTH?, lol.

You have a classic movie star look to you, Janice. :)

[Brad Russ]

Yep, I'm posting pictures that are 10 years old. I don't take a good picture anymore. It's the weirdest thing, I look good, then I see a picture, and think WTH?, lol.

I love these pics of you and Lou Janice. I actually still have them saved on my computer from when you posted them a few years ago. Like I said back then, you both look like movie stars or something!! And Lou definitely doesn't look his age, he looks much younger. You two make a beautiful couple. I was touched by what you said about hm in your earlier posts, it is so obvious how much you love him, and how much he loves you. I can even tell when I'm talking with you on the phone, I can hear the love and fondness you two have for each other in your voices, and it's a beautiful thing. I just wish every good person out there had what you and Lou have, and what Kim and her husband have. That's a rare thing, and is something that most long for. Anyways, I hope you and Lou have another 40 years together, you two were made for each other!! :)

[Brad Russ]

this is my husband and me

Awesome picture Kim, you two look great together!! It's like someone else mentioned, when you look at the picture, you don't even see the age difference, you just see two people who look like they were made for each other. :) I'll always believe that age is nothing but a number, and you, and Janice, among others prove it. Be with who your heart tells you to be with, and don't ever let society tell you what's right and wrong. Just follow your heart!! Thanks for posting Kim, I enjoyed the pic!! :wave:

[beautifuldreamer]

I love these pics of you and Lou Janice. I actually still have them saved on my computer from when you posted them a few years ago. Like I said back then, you both look like movie stars or something!! And Lou definitely doesn't look his age, he looks much younger. You two make a beautiful couple. I was touched by what you said about hm in your earlier posts, it is so obvious how much you love him, and how much he loves you. I can even tell when I'm talking with you on the phone, I can hear the love and fondness you two have for each other in your voices, and it's a beautiful thing. I just wish every good person out there had what you and Lou have, and what Kim and her husband have. That's a rare thing, and is something that most long for. Anyways, I hope you and Lou have another 40 years together, you two were made for each other!! :)

Well, I don't think I can improve on what Brad said... but, you should've seen my jaw drop when I saw those pics of Janice and Lou.:eek: :D

[PunkyP0WER]

Awesome picture Kim, you two look great together!! It's like someone else mentioned, when you look at the picture, you don't even see the age difference, you just see two people who look like they were made for each other. :) I'll always believe that age is nothing but a number, and you, and Janice, among others prove it. Be with who your heart tells you to be with, and don't ever let society tell you what's right and wrong. Just follow your heart!! Thanks for posting Kim, I enjoyed the pic!! :wave:
thank you brad for those lovely sentiments. i had to kiss alot of frogs to find my prince.

[AKA]

I'm 28 and my girlfriend is 21. I used to be pretty closed-minded to dating someone that much younger than me. Then we fell in love.

[Shine]

I'm 28 and my girlfriend is 21. I used to be pretty closed-minded to dating someone that much younger than me. Then we fell in love.

That is a sweet picture, Brad. You and your girlfriend look great together.

[Janice]

I'm 28 and my girlfriend is 21. I used to be pretty closed-minded to dating someone that much younger than me. Then we fell in love.
That is a nice picture. :) I don't think seven years is a substantial age difference. Ten years and beyond sort of starts the meter for me.

[AKA]

Yeah, I know. I just get over-analytical about stuff. Like, to put it into perspective: when I first started posting here, I was 21 and she was 14!

[Pus$y Galore]

I don't think age should hinder how you're seen.

See Mariah Carey and Valerie Bertinelli- way up there in age, but still very hot.

You think the mid 40s are WAY up there in age? :rofl: Just wait until you get closer to it and we'll see how you think then! :lol:

Trust me, these days, the 40s are NOTHING. I feel younger now than I did in my twenties - lousy health issues and all. I also still have the mind of a 28 year old, but now with some wisdom and "calm" behind it. I might not be able to hurdle fences (hell, I never could), but I still feel and act like a "kid" most of the time. I don't act anything like my parents did at this age.

The main thing that's different with me now, and that age is behind it, is that my hormones aren't still going crazy so that I feel I have to compete with every female I know. I'm calm and happy within myself, so I can see the beauty now in others that I used to feel threatened by. And in the long run, I think that makes me even more attractive to the opposite sex. I don't freakout the same about slights from people. I try to just understand where they're coming from more.

And yes, I wish Janice would post more pics. She's way to hard on herself as I can be. I sent her some pics of me recently that I thought were absolutely horrible, but she felt they weren't that bad. I'm sure I'd feel the same about seeing pics of her.

Kimberlee - you are STUNNING!!! And your hubby ain't bad at all either! Now I can see the attraction and think it's great. Actually age differences don't bother me one bit.....unless my ex is involved! :lol:

And I hate to sound like a bummer, I'm like you too, absolutely devastated without Frank. Even though he's still alive, it still hurts in ways I could never put into words not to have him involved in every bit of my life. So if the worst should ever happen, both of you are welcome to live with me. I know it can't fill the void, but if nothing can, then at least be with someone who totally understands.

[Number 9 Dream]

Hey there, teeveecloset :) Thanks for the compliment on my username--I love John Lennon! Well, to answer your question....I've never actually DATED guys that were substantially older than me (maybe they were a few years older at the most), but I've always had a thing for the older, smart types (mostly my professors). I think with some women (and I'm generalizing here) they are looking for that secure "Daddy figure" and they seek this out by pursuing older men. I must admit, the idea is appealing to me too. Again, I'm not saying this is true for all women who like older men, but it's been something I've seen quite a few times and in my talks with other girls my age who like older men.

Why they grow out of it...hmmm, maybe it really was just a phase? Maybe they got swept up by the whole romantic notion of having an older guy but then they realized it wasn't for them? You mentioned that you saw your girlfriends change after a while. So it's not you that's the issue--it's the fact that THEY changed and decided that it wasn't something they could actually keep going relationship-wise? Like you said, it was a novelty to them. I think you may be on to something there.

But you shouldn't beat yourself up for it. Maybe the girls you were with had a lot of growing up to do. You sound like a great guy, so I don't think it had anything to do with your looks or anything. Those girls were still in their "exploring phase" and, unfortunately, you were the one who got the **** end of the stick :( But keep trying...you'll find your girl one day :)








This is to the above poster and the other poster who said she always falls for older guys.....First could you please read my other longer post in this thread about "crushes". also #9 BTW love your screenname, being a Beatles fan all my life, and yes my first concert was John Lennon in 1972 when I was 9, but I digress...lol.....since I have been involved with two women being 17 and 20 years younger then me....I ask sincerely when you quote "I've always preferred older guys"...How long does it last? obviously there are many reasons why relationships end....but from my expierances.....I am fairly attractive, its hard to examine yourself, I'm not muscular, thin, have all my short hair...lol....never been told by any woman that it didn't work out because of looks, obviously if they weren't attracted to me, we wouldn't have gone out in the first place! I have worked in television for 29 straight years, am financially secure, not a player, respect women, and never had a woman complain about not being "satisfied" if you get my drift...lol.....but both of the younger women I was with ended it because I saw them change, because I felt the novelty wore off after about a year or shorter and the crush ended. I would really like your opinion, since yes I am attracted to younger women, not all the time, but at age 46, and I would like a family eventually, I am almost forced to date a woman not past age 35 or so because I feel you should have at least a year of "fun dating" which includes traveling, etc and really getting to know eachother before you talk marriage, children....you should both discuss what your goals are, meaning if one person doesn't want marriage, children, etc.....but I have had many friends that marry after 6 months of dating and it turns out to be a disaster. thanks for some thoughts in advance!

[catlover79]

Yep, I'm posting pictures that are 10 years old. I don't take a good picture anymore. It's the weirdest thing, I look good, then I see a picture, and think WTH?, lol.
I just remembered who you look like in these pics, Janice - Stefanie Powers!! :cool: :D

[catlover79]

See what I mean?? :D

[PunkyP0WER]

See what I mean?? :D
yes very similar. i think she also resembles raquel welch too

[catlover79]

yes very similar. i think she also resembles raquel welch too
Wow, I never thought of that - good call!! :cool:

[PunkyP0WER]

Wow, I never thought of that - good call!! :cool:

[TeeVeeCloset]

Hey there, teeveecloset :) Thanks for the compliment on my username--I love John Lennon! Well, to answer your question....I've never actually DATED guys that were substantially older than me (maybe they were a few years older at the most), but I've always had a thing for the older, smart types (mostly my professors). I think with some women (and I'm generalizing here) they are looking for that secure "Daddy figure" and they seek this out by pursuing older men. I must admit, the idea is appealing to me too. Again, I'm not saying this is true for all women who like older men, but it's been something I've seen quite a few times and in my talks with other girls my age who like older men.

Why they grow out of it...hmmm, maybe it really was just a phase? Maybe they got swept up by the whole romantic notion of having an older guy but then they realized it wasn't for them? You mentioned that you saw your girlfriends change after a while. So it's not you that's the issue--it's the fact that THEY changed and decided that it wasn't something they could actually keep going relationship-wise? Like you said, it was a novelty to them. I think you may be on to something there.

But you shouldn't beat yourself up for it. Maybe the girls you were with had a lot of growing up to do. You sound like a great guy, so I don't think it had anything to do with your looks or anything. Those girls were still in their "exploring phase" and, unfortunately, you were the one who got the **** end of the stick :( But keep trying...you'll find your girl one day :)

Hey #9, #9, #9.......(reference Revolution #9)

Thanks for the very kind, educated, understanding opinion and yes I believe you are right on target with your thoughts........my best to you.