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LuLu Rogers
09-07-2008, 07:49 PM
I realize that most of you probably won't accept this apology, quite frankly, I don't blame you. I screwed up beyond belief this week and I'm extremely ashamed. I've done a lot of thinking this week and I realized that I was wrong. Apparently I have more growing up to do than I thought. I feel like utter and complete **** right now.
Brian, I'm so sorry for the way I acted. I've never made fun of your daughter and if anyone has, that's just horrible and I'm sorry. I got way to touchy when I shouldn't have and I hope you can forgive me.
Sonny, I don't know where to start. From the bottom of my heart, I truly am sorry, I mean that.
Michelle, You really hurt me, but I didn't react the way I should've and for that I am sorry.
Janice, I said things I didn't mean out of anger. I guess I just got tired of paying for the things my friends had done. I'm sorry for what I said.
TJ, I'm sorry for making a scene and causing trouble. I really do love SO and I think you do a wonderful job with it.
Tara, You warned me ahead of time and I didn't listen. You've been an incredible friend to me and I pray that I don't lose you over my own stupidity.
And to anyone else I have hurt or offended, I'm truly sorry.
To the friends that stuck by me, I love you all!
I've started completely changing my life this weekend and though I know it will be a slow process, I plan to stick with it no matter what.
As of this moment, I have no hard feelings with anyone, I've let it all go. I hope you will support me, but if you don't, I'll understand.
Thanks for listening.
Shine
09-07-2008, 09:44 PM
I know how you feel, Lauren. I too realized a couple of weeks ago that I wasn't the person that I thought I was. Well, at least not online. Thankfully, I've been able to work things out with most of the people who I offended. Still, it is important to remember, Lauren, that it might take some time to heal some of the wounds. Even though someone may not except your aplology now, they may except it in the future. Especially if they see that you really have changed. Just give it some time and hang in there. :)
LuLu Rogers
09-07-2008, 09:57 PM
I know how you feel, Lauren. I too realized a couple of weeks ago that I wasn't the person that I thought I was. Well, at least not online. Thankfully, I've been able to work things out with most of the people who I offended. Still, it is important to remember, Lauren, that it might take some time to heal some of the wounds. Even though someone may not except your aplology now, they may except it in the future. Especially if they see that you really have changed. Just give it some time and hang in there. :)
You're right Mike, it will take time for some of the wounds to heal. At least I can show everyone that I am changing for the better. Thanks for your kind words. :bighug:
Janice
09-08-2008, 02:43 AM
Lauren, everyone deserves a second chance. Nobody's perfect, certainly not me. I truly wish everyone could just get along. Some of us sound like we're in High School, Jr. High at that, lol. Brian was sincere in his apology thread. I know this because he told me so. If everyone, even members who haven't posted in a while, just joined in, I think it would have had a good outcome. Instead, everyone's faults were blown way out of proportion.
So sure, you're a nice person to have around. I just didn't know who to trust anymore, but the past is the past. I don't want any stress in my life. I have health conditions that are made worse by stress. You do as well, same as me, with the Fibromyalgia. Life's too short. We're good. :)
LuLu Rogers
09-08-2008, 03:04 AM
Lauren, everyone deserves a second chance. Nobody's perfect, certainly not me. I truly wish everyone could just get along. Some of us sound like we're in High School, Jr. High at that, lol. Brian was sincere in his apology thread. I know this because he told me so. If everyone, even members who haven't posted in a while, just joined in, I think it would have had a good outcome. Instead, everyone's faults were blown way out of proportion.
So sure, you're a nice person to have around. I just didn't know who to trust anymore, but the past is the past. I don't want any stress in my life. I have health conditions that are made worse by stress. You do as well, same as me, with the Fibromyalgia. Life's too short. We're good. :)
That really means a lot to me Janice. :)
The day I got so upset was just a horrible day for me. That morning, my parents spent an hour telling me what a failure I was. I took that anger out on you guys and I never should've done that. I'm trying so hard to prove my parents and family wrong, and it's been such a hard road. I'm trying my best to live a better life and to prove to them that I am worth something, that I'm not a failure. Even my two younger sisters say that I'm worthless, that REALLY hurts.
My Fibro is getting better though, Water Therapy has been a God send!!
LuLu Rogers
09-08-2008, 03:05 AM
Just stay strong.
Thanks :)
Shine
09-08-2008, 12:50 PM
That really means a lot to me Janice. :)
The day I got so upset was just a horrible day for me. That morning, my parents spent an hour telling me what a failure I was. I took that anger out on you guys and I never should've done that. I'm trying so hard to prove my parents and family wrong, and it's been such a hard road. I'm trying my best to live a better life and to prove to them that I am worth something, that I'm not a failure. Even my two younger sisters say that I'm worthless, that REALLY hurts.
My Fibro is getting better though, Water Therapy has been a God send!!
Lauren, you're not a failure. You are a good person. :)
LuLu Rogers
09-08-2008, 01:50 PM
Lauren, you're not a failure. You are a good person. :)
Thanks Mike, so are you :bighug:
Brian Damage
09-08-2008, 02:41 PM
Hey Lauren,
I accept your apology. Life is way too short to stay angry. I admit, I lost my cool when my daughter was made fun of. That to me is a big no no. Do not bring kids into an argument, which Irene did. I was furious and went on the attack. I am not mad at you at all. I apologize for any hurtful comments I made to you. Let's just start fresh. :)
LuLu Rogers
09-08-2008, 03:00 PM
Hey Lauren,
I accept your apology. Life is way too short to stay angry. I admit, I lost my cool when my daughter was made fun of. That to me is a big no no. Do not bring kids into an argument, which Irene did. I was furious and went on the attack. I am not mad at you at all. I apologize for any hurtful comments I made to you. Let's just start fresh. :)
I accept your apology too. I can completely understand why you were upset. I don't have kids of my own, but if I did, I would've reacted the same way if someone was talking about them. I'd love to start fresh. :)
Janice
09-08-2008, 03:11 PM
GROUP HUG!!
:heart: :bighug: :biglove: :hug: :bighug: :heart:
LuLu Rogers
09-08-2008, 03:37 PM
:bighug:
Chocoholic
09-08-2008, 04:11 PM
Lauren, you've been nothing but nice to me on these boards. I think you're an amazing person. We all say the stupid things we regret. It's what makes us human :D
coffield3
09-08-2008, 04:36 PM
You have always been a sweet heart to me Lauren :)
LuLu Rogers
09-08-2008, 05:33 PM
Aww, thanks ladies! :bighug:
I love it when people on here make up. It shows how close a bunch of people
we are on here.
LuLu, I am glad things are alright between you and Brian Damage and I hope
things go well for you in the army.
LuLu Rogers
09-08-2008, 10:32 PM
LuLu, I am glad things are alright between you and Brian Damage and I hope
things go well for you in the army.
Thanks Lee :)
dawsongirl
09-08-2008, 11:21 PM
That really means a lot to me Janice. :)
The day I got so upset was just a horrible day for me. That morning, my parents spent an hour telling me what a failure I was. I took that anger out on you guys and I never should've done that. I'm trying so hard to prove my parents and family wrong, and it's been such a hard road. I'm trying my best to live a better life and to prove to them that I am worth something, that I'm not a failure. Even my two younger sisters say that I'm worthless, that REALLY hurts.
My Fibro is getting better though, Water Therapy has been a God send!!
How can family say such things? I mean, if you really were like, a murderer or something, then yeah, you're a loser. But sheesh...! I tell myself I'm a loser at least once a day, but my parents don't tell me that...and despite the fact that I think they think I am, they tell me I'm not.
:crazy: That was confusing. But anyway, your family sucks balls.
LuLu Rogers
09-08-2008, 11:41 PM
How can family say such things? I mean, if you really were like, a murderer or something, then yeah, you're a loser. But sheesh...! I tell myself I'm a loser at least once a day, but my parents don't tell me that...and despite the fact that I think they think I am, they tell me I'm not.
:crazy: That was confusing. But anyway, your family sucks balls.
:lol: Cathy you always make me laugh!!
I guess I just haven't lived up to their expectations, I wasn't a really smart kid who made all "A's", I wasn't athletic, I wasn't the cheerleader/popular girl type. What I was good at was playing the Baritone in band. I loved it! But my parents never came to any of our marching competitions to watch me, not one. They would come to maybe one football game and that was it. When my sisters started cheering, they never missed a game. Very interesting.
dawsongirl
09-08-2008, 11:56 PM
:lol: Cathy you always make me laugh!!
I guess I just haven't lived up to their expectations, I wasn't a really smart kid who made all "A's", I wasn't athletic, I wasn't the cheerleader/popular girl type. What I was good at was playing the Baritone in band. I loved it! But my parents never came to any of our marching competitions to watch me, not one. They would come to maybe one football game and that was it. When my sisters started cheering, they never missed a game. Very interesting.
O_o Yeah...cuz cheering is so above playing an instrument....
God, at my HS, the band was as cliquey as the cheerleaders, but much bigger! Band was like air to some of them.
LuLu Rogers
09-09-2008, 12:06 AM
O_o Yeah...cuz cheering is so above playing an instrument....
God, at my HS, the band was as cliquey as the cheerleaders, but much bigger! Band was like air to some of them.
I LOVED band! Our highschool had 103 band members and we one best band in our area, ahhh, good times ;)
KissMyGrits
09-09-2008, 12:19 AM
I realize that most of you probably won't accept this apology, quite frankly, I don't blame you. I screwed up beyond belief this week and I'm extremely ashamed. I've done a lot of thinking this week and I realized that I was wrong. Apparently I have more growing up to do than I thought. I feel like utter and complete **** right now.
Brian, I'm so sorry for the way I acted. I've never made fun of your daughter and if anyone has, that's just horrible and I'm sorry. I got way to touchy when I shouldn't have and I hope you can forgive me.
Sonny, I don't know where to start. From the bottom of my heart, I truly am sorry, I mean that.
Michelle, You really hurt me, but I didn't react the way I should've and for that I am sorry.
Janice, I said things I didn't mean out of anger. I guess I just got tired of paying for the things my friends had done. I'm sorry for what I said.
TJ, I'm sorry for making a scene and causing trouble. I really do love SO and I think you do a wonderful job with it.
Tara, You warned me ahead of time and I didn't listen. You've been an incredible friend to me and I pray that I don't lose you over my own stupidity.
And to anyone else I have hurt or offended, I'm truly sorry.
To the friends that stuck by me, I love you all!
I've started completely changing my life this weekend and though I know it will be a slow process, I plan to stick with it no matter what.
As of this moment, I have no hard feelings with anyone, I've let it all go. I hope you will support me, but if you don't, I'll understand.
Thanks for listening.
I think I'm gonna puke. Actions speak louder than words and truthfully, I don't think your ever gonna learn just how much you've hurt the people that you mentioned in this post.
They can forgive you if they want. As for me, you've done too many things and hurt me too deeply for me to ever forgive you. I don't hate you because hate makes a person ugly. Mostly, I feel pity for you. Have a nice life Lauren. I know that I will.
Michelle
LuLu Rogers
09-09-2008, 12:24 AM
I think I'm gonna puke. Actions speak louder than words and truthfully, I don't think your ever gonna learn just how much you've hurt the people that you mentioned in this post.
They can forgive you if they want. As for me, you've done too many things and hurt me too deeply for me to ever forgive you. I don't hate you because hate makes a person ugly. Mostly, I feel pity for you. Have a nice life Lauren. I know that I will.
Michelle
I'm sorry you feel that way Michelle.
Stuck In The '70's
09-09-2008, 12:46 AM
Lauren...Like Michelle said actions speak louder than words. I won't say that I'll never forgive you but I have to see alot more than a simple apology. Remember some of us have accepted your apology before when you said that you changed and we got burned. You hurt alot of people and I don't blame them for not forgiving you. I don't hate you...I don't hate anybody. I wish that everyone on SO could get along but sometimes even if you wish for it to happen , it can't. Some things are just too difficult to get over. Maybe next time you'll think before you hurt people like this. As for your apology... Time wll tell if you have really changed...
Michelle, Lauren apologized and I think she is being genuine. I realize she may
have hurt you in the past, but she is trying to make amends for that now
and I think you are displaying a very bad attitude. You say you don't hate
her, but you basically imply that by your words. I am a christian and I try
to live my life by the principle of forgiveness as Christ has forgiven those
who sin against him.
Stuck In The '70's
09-09-2008, 12:53 AM
Michelle, Lauren apologized and I think she is being genuine. I realize she may
have hurt you in the past, but she is trying to make amends for that now
and I think you are displaying a very bad attitude. You say you don't hate
her, but you basically imply that by your words. I am a christian and I try
to live my life by the principle of forgiveness as Christ has forgiven those
who sin against him.
Lee you really don't know what this is all about. Forgiving is great but when people forgive people over and over again and nothing changes then what...do we keep forgiving? It's very easy to say I'm sorry but when its said over and over again and nothing changes it loses it's meaning.
LuLu Rogers
09-09-2008, 01:09 AM
Lauren...Like Michelle said actions speak louder than words. I won't say that I'll never forgive you but I have to see alot more than a simple apology. Remember some of us have accepted your apology before when you said that you changed and we got burned. You hurt alot of people and I don't blame them for not forgiving you. I don't hate you...I don't hate anybody. I wish that everyone on SO could get along but sometimes even if you wish for it to happen , it can't. Some things are just too difficult to get over. Maybe next time you'll think before you hurt people like this. As for your apology... Time wll tell if you have really changed...
Yes, actions do speak louder than words, you're right about that, which is why I'm making an effort to change. I know I hurt a few people and I feel terrible about that, but I'm only human. Back when I first joined this board, you hurt me deeply, but after some time I forgave you. Staying angry with people who hurt you only makes you feel miserable, believe me, I know.
Hollow
09-09-2008, 01:09 AM
Michelle, Lauren apologized and I think she is being genuine. I realize she may
have hurt you in the past, but she is trying to make amends for that now
and I think you are displaying a very bad attitude. You say you don't hate
her, but you basically imply that by your words. I am a christian and I try
to live my life by the principle of forgiveness as Christ has forgiven those
who sin against him.
you really shouldn't criticize someone's decision to do something that you don't know anything about. i don't know what went on either, which is why i've just been observing rather than jumping into it.
Hollywood Rock Chic
09-09-2008, 01:17 AM
Lee you really don't know what this is all about. Forgiving is great but when people forgive people over and over again and nothing changes then what...do we keep forgiving? It's very easy to say I'm sorry but when its said over and over again and nothing changes it loses it's meaning.
But, I think you can forgive a person (in a way), but, you can NEVER forget.
Yes, we all make mistakes, and we all said, stupid and hurtful words towards people that we cared about, etc. It is called being human. But, also, time does heal all wounds and also time does tell the truth. If, Lauren is being honest is saying that she is sorry, we will found out, if she is genuine or not in the future..but, mean while, let's be cordial towards each other. :)
Stuck In The '70's
09-09-2008, 01:53 AM
But, I think you can forgive a person (in a way), but, you can NEVER forget.
Yes, we all make mistakes, and we all said, stupid and hurtful words towards people that we cared about, etc. It is called being human. But, also, time does heal all wounds and also time does tell the truth. If, Lauren is being honest is saying that she is sorry, we will found out, if she is genuine or not in the future..but, mean while, let's be cordial towards each other. :)
You're a great person Tara and a great friend. :) That's what I basically said...that time will tell. I haven't been bothering Lauren. Until the night of Brian's apology thread, I had barely talked to her since April. I just don't like being called out on the boards like she did a few days ago. As for being cordial...I'm not going to bother her at all. :)
LuLu Rogers
09-09-2008, 02:03 AM
That is true, Sonny hasn't been hateful toward me and I appreciate that.
Hollywood Rock Chic
09-09-2008, 02:16 AM
You're a great person Tara and a great friend. :) That's what I basically said...that time will tell. I haven't been bothering Lauren. Until the night of Brian's apology thread, I had barely talked to her since April. I just don't like being called out on the boards like she did a few days ago. As for being cordial...I'm not going to bother her at all. :)
Sonny, if you look up the word, GENTLEMAN, you will see your picture; and thank you, for the compliment.
I know that you have not been bothering Lauren (and vice versa); what I told Lauren, is that, it DOES take time, to truly show, that you have been sorry (to some people) yes, she was strong and mature enough to apologize; but, also, sometimes it takes time for wounds to heal..:)
KissMyGrits
09-09-2008, 02:49 AM
Michelle, Lauren apologized and I think she is being genuine. I realize she may
have hurt you in the past, but she is trying to make amends for that now
and I think you are displaying a very bad attitude. You say you don't hate
her, but you basically imply that by your words. I am a christian and I try
to live my life by the principle of forgiveness as Christ has forgiven those
who sin against him.
Okay, Lee, I can understand where your coming from. Also understand that I forgave her in the past and she turned around not even a few days later and stabbed me in the back. So, am I just supposed to forgive her again, again and again when it's so obvious that she will never change?
My attitude is mine and I have every right to feel the way that I do. Just as you have the right to feel like you do. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. She won't fool me again.
When she kicks you in the head, like she did me, then talk to me about my attitude. Please don't preach to me about my attitude. I really hate that you judge me without knowing all the facts. She can be oh so nice and then if you piss her off, watch out.
I don't hate her, because hate would imply that I actually care about her. Nothing could be further from the truth. I know who my friends are and trust me, she ain't one of them.
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I don't even come here that much anymore. Simply because of the fact that if someone speaks their mind about someone, they are villanized and hung out to dry.
SO, used to be a fun place to visit. I still feel that in some instances, but for the most part, it's become an ugly, hateful place that if someone speaks their mind, they are attacked and made to feel about three inches tall and then they are driven away. A lot of the good ones don't stay because they get tired of being bullied.
I for one, don't like feeling my blood boil when I see someone belittling my reasons for not forgiving her.
Talk to someone else, I've forgiven her time and again and she's done nothing but prove to me that she doesn't deserve forgiveness from me. Don't like my attitude, put me on your ignore list.....
Chelly
treky
09-09-2008, 02:59 AM
Lauren, you didn't hurt me, but even if you did, I know you wouldn't mean it. The important thing is, you relize you need to make a change in your life, and you are. And I really admire that, hon!
We all deserve a second chance in life.
(and I think that's cruel that your parents would talk to you like that.)
(glad to hear that your fibro's getting better, sweetie!:) My H.S.P.'s getting better, too. Just slightly though. I'm taking new meds and they've been, in your words, "a godsend")
Okay, Lee, I can understand where your coming from. Also understand that I forgave her in the past and she turned around not even a few days later and stabbed me in the back. So, am I just supposed to forgive her again, again and again when it's so obvious that she will never change?
My attitude is mine and I have every right to feel the way that I do. Just as you have the right to feel like you do. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. She won't fool me again.
When she kicks you in the head, like she did me, then talk to me about my attitude. Please don't preach to me about my attitude. I really hate that you judge me without knowing all the facts. She can be oh so nice and then if you piss her off, watch out.
I don't hate her, because hate would imply that I actually care about her. Nothing could be further from the truth. I know who my friends are and trust me, she ain't one of them.
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I don't even come here that much anymore. Simply because of the fact that if someone speaks their mind about someone, they are villanized and hung out to dry.
SO, used to be a fun place to visit. I still feel that in some instances, but for the most part, it's become an ugly, hateful place that if someone speaks their mind, they are attacked and made to feel about three inches tall and then they are driven away. A lot of the good ones don't stay because they get tired of being bullied.
I for one, don't like feeling my blood boil when I see someone belittling my reasons for not forgiving her.
Talk to someone else, I've forgiven her time and again and she's done nothing but prove to me that she doesn't deserve forgiveness from me. Don't like my attitude, put me on your ignore list.....
Chelly
Do you have any idea what kind of situation Lauren is going through right now
with her family? She is hurting right now and she deserves our sympathy,
not our anger.
LuLu Rogers
09-09-2008, 11:13 AM
Do you have any idea what kind of situation Lauren is going through right now
with her family? She is hurting right now and she deserves our sympathy,
not our anger.
It's ok Lee, she has the right not to forgive me if she doesn't want to.
Shine
09-09-2008, 03:57 PM
Sonny, if you look up the word, GENTLEMAN, you will see your picture; and thank you, for the compliment.
I know that you have not been bothering Lauren (and vice versa); what I told Lauren, is that, it DOES take time, to truly show, that you have been sorry (to some people) yes, she was strong and mature enough to apologize; but, also, sometimes it takes time for wounds to heal..:)
I totally agree with you, Tara. Sonny is a gentleman in every sense of the word.
Shine
09-09-2008, 04:00 PM
:crazy: That was confusing. But anyway, your family sucks balls.
:rofl:
Hollywood Rock Chic
09-09-2008, 04:18 PM
I totally agree with you, Tara. Sonny is a gentleman in every sense of the word.
Yes, he is. If there were more men out there like, Sonny. Trust me, this world would be a better place:)
Shine
09-09-2008, 04:33 PM
Yes, he is. If there were more men out there like, Sonny. Trust me, this world would be a better place:)
I agree. :)
It's ok Lee, she has the right not to forgive me if she doesn't want to.
I hope I have not offended you, Lauren
I for one, don't like feeling my blood boil when I see someone belittling my reasons for not forgiving her.
Talk to someone else, I've forgiven her time and again and she's done nothing but prove to me that she doesn't deserve forgiveness from me. Don't like my attitude, put me on your ignore list.....
Chelly
I was not patronizing you, Michelle, I was just saying that forgiveness is good
and that people in general should forgive. However, you are right-you do have the right not to
forgive if that is your choice. There is no need for me to put you on any ignore list because I do
not dislike you. I strive to love every person as god so loved the world that he gave us
his son. I really do wish the best for you and Lauren and Brian.
LuLu Rogers
09-09-2008, 05:37 PM
I hope I have not offended you, Lauren
No, you're fine. :)
treky
09-10-2008, 02:15 AM
Do you have any idea what kind of situation Lauren is going through right now
with her family? She is hurting right now and she deserves our sympathy,
not our anger.
yes she does; I totally agree; poor girl. Lauren sweetie; if you see this; I want you to know that you're in my prayers every night!:) :)
always remember :yourock: :bighug:
LuLu Rogers
09-10-2008, 02:17 AM
yes she does; I totally agree; poor girl. Lauren sweetie; if you see this; I want you to know that you're in my prayers every night!:) :)
always remember :yourock: :bighug:
Thank you honey, you're a great friend! :bighug:
treky
09-10-2008, 02:21 AM
thanx sweetie! I try to be!
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