Where Does One Draw the Hanging Out Line?

[swedeace]

I like this guy, and we have hung out twice within the last three weeks. I know he must like me in some way; otherwise, he wouldn't have accepted the invitations. Well, the first invitation was his, and the second was mine.

I sent him a message on Wednesday inviting him to do cosmic bowling this weekend. Friday has passed, and we obviously didn't go. So, that leaves tonight. My only problem is that I haven't heard back from him. Does he not want to go bowling, or what?

I am thinking that I should've called him instead of sending an email. I was suggested by different people to do different things. I was suggested to invite him three times. If he declines them all, then I should just give up inviting him for a while. I have also been suggested to just call and ask him in person right now.

I am scared. I don't want him to be annoyed with me (if he just likes me as a friend instead of as more than a friend). At the same time, I don't know if he'd be touched with me and really enjoys my company. When we are hanging out, he seems to like me. He's just lazy to write me online, it seems.

My question is where does one draw the line of waiting for/inviting out people? I don't know where that gray line stands between "annoyance/pushiness" and "showing interest?" I don't want him to become annoyed, yet I do want him to take a hint that I like him and want to hang out/go out with him some more. How long is appropriate to pursue invitations with someone you are interested in?

Should I just try and call him to see if he wants to go? Or, shall I wait till (or if) he writes me back concerning the invitation? I want to hang out with him some more times. I plan on calling him (if I go with it) within the next hour or two), so I hope to gather some responses before then. :wave:

[Courtnee]

Give him a call. If he gets annoyed with you, then he wasn't worth it in the first place.

[TJL]

I too suggest you call him. It's much more direct than an e-mail or text.

If he says no to a meeting, then let it go. At least you'll know how he feels.

[Number 9 Dream]

I know I'm late for this, but I figured I'd give you my .02. I say just give him a call...you never know--he may be interested and take you up on his offer! If he doesn't (or, worst case scenario, he gets annoyed), then it's not worth it to keep pursuing him.

But, hey, I think you should take the risk....You'll never know unless you ask, right? :)

p.s. To answer your question about that 'grey matter': It goes according to the individual you're asking about, in my opinion. Some people are more easy-going and don't mind being asked to hang out, while others prefer to do the pursuing (or some may just be too busy to pursue...you never know!) So, it's hard to tell.

[TVFactFan]

I like this guy, and we have hung out twice within the last three weeks. I know he must like me in some way; otherwise, he wouldn't have accepted the invitations. Well, the first invitation was his, and the second was mine.

I sent him a message on Wednesday inviting him to do cosmic bowling this weekend. Friday has passed, and we obviously didn't go. So, that leaves tonight. My only problem is that I haven't heard back from him. Does he not want to go bowling, or what?

I am thinking that I should've called him instead of sending an email. I was suggested by different people to do different things. I was suggested to invite him three times. If he declines them all, then I should just give up inviting him for a while. I have also been suggested to just call and ask him in person right now.

I am scared. I don't want him to be annoyed with me (if he just likes me as a friend instead of as more than a friend). At the same time, I don't know if he'd be touched with me and really enjoys my company. When we are hanging out, he seems to like me. He's just lazy to write me online, it seems.

My question is where does one draw the line of waiting for/inviting out people? I don't know where that gray line stands between "annoyance/pushiness" and "showing interest?" I don't want him to become annoyed, yet I do want him to take a hint that I like him and want to hang out/go out with him some more. How long is appropriate to pursue invitations with someone you are interested in?

Should I just try and call him to see if he wants to go? Or, shall I wait till (or if) he writes me back concerning the invitation? I want to hang out with him some more times. I plan on calling him (if I go with it) within the next hour or two), so I hope to gather some responses before then. :wave:



When trying to see someone in THAT WAY, I don't think using email is a Good thing. Telephone is the way to get in contact with someone not Email

[¤I Love Clay Aiken¤]

Im going through the exact same thing right now, but things are a bit different.

[swedeace]

Thank you all to those who replied in this thread. I feel like I need to say "D'oh" because it wasn't until later when I thought about how I should've just called him instead of writing him for the cosmic bowling invitation. I ended up leaving him a voicemail yesterday. I called twice, but he didn't pick up both times. Just tonight he got back to me via a message apologizing that he didn't get back to me. He forgot, but he didn't mention the bowling.

I just replied to his message and brought it up for next weekend. But....I will call him tomorrow or Tuesday evening and inviting him again.

He just confuses me - he is slow as far as getting back to me, but when we hang out/go out, he is attentive and looks interested. Confusing, confusing, confusing....

[FOLrocks1]

I wrote a little message in the other topic that you started about 2 weeks ago. Something about how do guys treat the different women. Anyway, it's not the exact same question, but hopefully my answer will help.

[swedeace]

I wrote a little message in the other topic that you started about 2 weeks ago. Something about how do guys treat the different women. Anyway, it's not the exact same question, but hopefully my answer will help.
Thanks! I will refresh on what you wrote and get back to you. :)

[Shine]

I think everyone has pretty much said everything that I would have said. Damn, I hate it when that happens. :lol:

[FOLrocks1]

Sounds good.

[FOLrocks1]

Thanks! I will refresh on what you wrote and get back to you. :)

Sorry meant to quote you when I posted my last post.