Advice: Sister's Friendship (I think?)

[swedeace]

Sue me. I am seething with jealousy. I hate how my sister seems to soak up MOST of the attention.

I don't appreciate how she's becoming good friends with my co-workers, especially with one friend in particular. My sister has her own good friends, and I don't really have any good friends. When we are together, people seem to prefer my sister more than me. I hate that. It hurts my heart and makes me want to drown myself in my own damn tears.

It's really not fair. I try and be myself and everything, and people are so damn slow with becoming my friend. Then, here comes along my younger sister and BAM....people gravitate to her personable self and her humor. I, on the other hand, am very quiet and look serious, so I think people think I am snobbish. I can't compete but I would just cry if one of my co-worker friends treats my sister as a good friend over me. It's not fair. :crying:

Any advice in confronting my sister about this?

[Shine]

Honey, the only reason why people gravitate towards your sister, because she is open and not intimidating; you on the other hand, are shy and reserve (there is nothing wrong with that) I am the same way; remember, just be your self (your true self) and believe, people will like you for YOU, at the end.


I agree with Tara.

[swedeace]

Honey, the only reason why people gravitate towards your sister, because she is open and not intimidating; you on the other hand, are shy and reserve (there is nothing wrong with that) I am the same way; remember, just be your self (your true self) and believe, people will like you for YOU, at the end.
Thanks, Tara. It's just that I always feel secondhand next to my sister, and I am the older sister. I hate how people talk to me and all, but they end up wanting to talk more to my sister once they see how much of a people-person she is towards them. I hate that invisible feeling. That's why I hate introducing my friends with my sister for this same reason. I just never tell my sister this because then we'll argue horribly over it.

[swedeace]

I'm sorry Mona. That's tough. It's hard when you feel that you have to compete with your sister. I'm not sure what the best way to confront her would be. I know how you feel. I have a brother that is almost a year and half older than I am. He's always been everything I haven't been. In school he was normal, cool, popular, smart, athletic, etc. It was so easy for him to make friends. He had so many friends. I hardly ever had friends. I've never been as smart as him. I've never been popular, cool or normal like him. It used to make me feel so sad that he had tons of friends, yet I could count on one hand, when I had friends at all, the number of friends I had. Even when I had good grades, it still didn't amount to his. He was in honor classes. I never did because I couldn't handle that level of school work. I managed to graduate with honors because of my grades and grade point average. My brother still has friends from high school that he has stayed in touch with. A friend of his that lives out of state, Chicago IL, drove all the way to Texas just to see him get married in June 2002. I don't know anyone that would do something like that for me. It would be nice to have a chance of having a friendship, but no one would pick me over my brother. I'm sorry if what I've said makes me sound totally pathetic. I'm sorry that someone may prefer your sister over you, that seems unfair.
Yeah, I see what you are saying about your brother. I mean, I know we shouldn't be able to compete or anything, but it's still difficult to feel otherwise. I know part of it is that I am a naturally horribly jealous person.