How would some of you solve this problem with school bullies?

[GARFIELDKOOL]

My 13 year-old nephew started 7th grade a few weeks ago. A week ago into school, he was being bullied on the bus by some bigger kids. So his mother, (my sister) wanted to take him out of the school, and put him into another middle school where his father works. I don't think that is the solution, you have to deal with the problem, not run away from it, because there are bullies in every school. My sister even rode the bus with him one day! She treats him like a baby. Up until last year, she walked him to school and the school was 2 blocks away. (I posted a topic about that awhlie back) My nephew was real excited about going to this school, so now he wants to leave because of bullies on the bus. It's not that easy.

[D.J.]

Taking him out of the school isn't the answer. Personally, I'd teach him how to fight and have him beat the **** out of the kids. Option 2, have me go to school with him. No one is going to mess with a 6'1" guy with a Mike Tyson temper.

[Sharop]

I'd say they should notify some teachers, and maybe they'll be able to help. I would imagine it's quite hard to stop kids picking on you on the bus, as there aren't any adults except for the driver, and he/she will be up the front and focusing on the road, not so much on what the kids are doing.

Maybe your nephew could sit relatively near the driver, at the front of the bus? If he's near the driver, the bullies might not be so bold.

[GARFIELDKOOL]

Taking him out of the school isn't the answer. Personally, I'd teach him how to fight and have him beat the **** out of the kids. Option 2, have me go to school with him. No one is going to mess with a 6'1" guy with a Mike Tyson temper.


That's the thing, too. My nephew is undersized at 13. He could possibly go for a 9 year-old. Maybe that's why he's being bullied.

[D.J.]

That's the thing, too. My nephew is undersized at 13. He could possibly go for a 9 year-old. Maybe that's why he's being bullied.


Did you consider taking him to one of those karate classes? Not only do they teach you how to defend yourself but it also teaches you discipline and self-respect.

[Janice]

I wouldn't advise violence. Someone, including your nephew, could get hurt. I'd call a meeting with school officials. I've read that there are anti-bullying laws on the books in some states. I'd also explain the situation to the bus driver.

If I got no results, I'd call the police. If your nephew is getting harassed or assaulted, I'd file charges.

[Czas na Zywiec]

Getting teachers involved can make matters worse and will cause the bully to possibly pick fights with the kid off school property, where it's not the schools business anymore and could possibly lead to worse consequences. And you can't have a personal bodyguard around 24/7. The kid needs to learn how to stand up for himself, try to find a crack where it won't lead to the violence but will stop the bullying. it's a long, hard road but like someone said above, running away from your problems does nothing. If he would be taken out of school, chances are they'll end up at the same high school and the bullyisng will just pick up from there.

[GARFIELDKOOL]

Could your sister drive him to school? Try talking to the school and see what they can do. Being bullied is very hard to handle. It can damage a child's self-esteem. I was picked on bullied in school. It was terrible.

My sister doesn't have a car anymore. I stated above that she rode the bus with him one time. Like Czas na Zywiec said, he needs to stand up for himself. He shouldn't be shielded all the time.

[KristinHerreraFan]

I wouldn't take him out of school, because father working there or not, every schools is going to have AT LEAST some bullies. It's one of the tough things about school. I suggest talking to him about just ignorning them, do not associate with them, or if you want you can teach him how to fight back. ;)

[James"Thunder"Early]

He has to learn to stand up for himself, even if he is afraid. Once he starts standing up to them, they most likely won't bother him anymore.

[Courtnee]

Notify the pricipal or something, however, if that failed, I'd teach him how to throw a good punch. My dad taught me how in 4th grade when I got beat up a lot. Best thing he ever did for me.

[Bobby F.]

As long as he is not the one starting things he should knock one of them on his ass! He may end up getting whooped but he will at least make a stand. Tell him that there are no rules in street fighting. If he has to kick someone in the nads to get their attention then so be it. And I agree about telling a teacher or principle about it. It usually will stop it where there are teachers around but sooner or later he'll be out on the streets and they'll be waiting for him. Best way to stop a bully is to confront a bully. Does he have any buds to back him up??

[D.J.]

As long as he is not the one starting things he should knock one of them on his ass! He may end up getting whooped but he will at least make a stand.

Sometimes, we have take a beating to make a stand. At least if he does that, the bullying will end because they'll see he's not afraid.

Tell him that there are no rules in street fighting.

That's very true. In New York, that's lesson #3. :D

If he has to kick someone in the nads to get their attention then so be it.

All part of street fighting my friend. :p

And I agree about telling a teacher or principle about it. It usually will stop it where there are teachers around but sooner or later he'll be out on the streets and they'll be waiting for him. Best way to stop a bully is to confront a bully. Does he have any buds to back him up??

I'll be his bud. I want to see the look on those kids's faces when they see me. :D

[chillspike]

The problem of Bullying is something that will only be solved by good 'ol American
activism. Schools and local governments just won't listen or care enough until parents present a united front against this kind of behavior and basically picket the offending schools one at a time.

[Jrnygrl]

I wouldn't advise violence. Someone, including your nephew, could get hurt. I'd call a meeting with school officials. I've read that there are anti-bullying laws on the books in some states. I'd also explain the situation to the bus driver.

If I got no results, I'd call the police. If your nephew is getting harassed or assaulted, I'd file charges.

I agree with this solution. I would call the police and file a harassment charge, which in some states makes the parents the target of the charge because the child is underage.

[isiahthomas]

Good topic GarfieldKool. I got bullied a few times when i was in middle school by a black boy and a white boy. I hated both of them. I never fought them because they were bigger than me but i wish i would've fought them because then they probably would've left me alone. Fighting a bully is the only way a bully will stop bothering you. I almost got killed a long time ago because another bully who was a black boy choked me because he believed this punk ass white boy who told him i said something about him when i didn't say anything about him. A couple of black dudes that i knew found out about this bully choking me and they wanted to beat his ass because i was cool with them and they knew i was a good guy because i never picked on people. I can't stand bullies and i really think that principals at schools need to address this problem because it's getting outta hand. People don't deserve to get picked on, laughed at and bullied because they're not ignorant like other people. I used to hate my high school because of the ignorant black kids always teasing me because i was quiet.

[GARFIELDKOOL]

Good topic GarfieldKool. I got bullied a few times when i was in middle school by a black boy and a white boy. I hated both of them. I never fought them because they were bigger than me but i wish i would've fought them because then they probably would've left me alone. Fighting a bully is the only way a bully will stop bothering you. I almost got killed a long time ago because another bully who was a black boy choked me because he believed this punk ass white boy who told him i said something about him when i didn't say anything about him. A couple of black dudes that i knew found out about this bully choking me and they wanted to beat his ass because i was cool with them and they knew i was a good guy because i never picked on people. I can't stand bullies and i really think that principals at schools need to address this problem because it's getting outta hand. People don't deserve to get picked on, laughed at and bullied because they're not ignorant like other people. I used to hate my high school because of the ignorant black kids always teasing me because i was quiet.

I can relate to that, too. I was bullied in middle school by this one dude. He had just transffered from another middle school. People made fun of me because I was skinny, and the way I walked. The dude saw this and joined in making fun of me. I had got food thrown at me, he pushed my head, and everybody thought I was a punk because I didn't do anything back. But one day, I stood up to him because he came at me with the same sh*it in gym. He called me egg head. So we took it to the locker room, he was ready to throw down and everything, he was getting fancy, I backed him into the showers, and he slipped on the water onto his back, and I jumped on him and started punching him and kicking him. To make a long story short, he didn't bother me again. Another thing was, that this due was smaller than me in height! He was just crazy and nobody really messed with him!