what is the problem with this?

[Michael [hXc]]

i had a fight with my mom about something today and she is really upset about it and i don't know why. i don't see how this could possibly upset someone as much as it upset her, and i am wondering if someone else can explain it.

i went to the local carnival/fair with my dad and stepmom Maureen today, and i went with my mom on wednesday. there is this one ride there (tilt-a-whirl) that me and my mom have gone on together since i was 5. and today, i went on that same ride with my dad and stepmom (turns out Maureen almost threw up so they stopped the ride). but when we got back today and my dad dropped us off at home, i went upstairs to talk to my aunt who was here. and then i came back and my mom was crying and said "why did you go on the tilt-a-whirl with your dad and Maureen?" and i said to my brother "did you tell her that?" and my mom said "you're really heartless and cruel." and she was crying and her face was all red. and then i explained how i didn't mean it was anything to hide but i asked why my brother specifically told her we went on that ride. but then i said to her "you're really weird when you act like this, it is just a stupid carnival ride". and then she and my brother were leaving (to stay at a hotel with my great aunt who is visiting) and my mom stood in the doorway for a good 20 seconds, staring with no expression. and she said "i don't even want to talk to you. tomorrow i won't talk to you at all".

what is the big deal? why does it upset her so much that i went on that carnival ride with my dad and Maureen, that she had to cry and throw a fit about it? can someone explain it. I can see why she would be a little bothered since it's a tradition i go on that ride with her, but to cry about it and tell me i am heartless and cruel? :rolleyes: and now i feel bad.

[Stuck In The '70's]

I think it's because it's something you and your Mom did together. It sounds very special to her. and the fact you did the same thing with your step mom must have really hurt her. That's what it sounds like.

[Ireneparalegal]

I think it's because it's something you and your Mom did together. It sounds very special to her. and the fact you did the same thing with your step mom must have really hurt her. That's what it sounds like.
:yeahthat

No matter what she is your mom and when a "step-mom" comes into the pic, no matter how much it seems everyone gets along, things like that can hurt.

Also, she might be on her period, we can get overly sensitive to things...she may be upset abt the ride, but if she is on her period, she would be EVEN MORE UPSET. Take it from me, a mom and a woman! :lol:

[Brad Russ]

It's obvious that your mom really loves you, and is just hurt. My advice is, try to be sympathetic with her, and see where she's coming from. I know you didn't mean any harm, but your mom's just hurt right now that you'd do something that's so special to her with someone else. When she's feeling better, I'd just give her a big hug, and let her know that you didn't mean to hurt her. I know you didn't ask for it, but that's my advice for what it's worth.

Btw, I think it's really cool that you have a mom who seems to love you so much. Alot of people don't have that.

[Michael [hXc]]

i just talked to her on the phone. i said sorry if i was insensitive in any way and she didn't seem to want to listen. i think it basically comes down to that it didn't occur to me when getting on that ride with my stepmom and dad (and brother) that it was something special that i did with my mom. but it wasn't special with them and that's what i tried to explain. i think i can go on that ride with one person without it being special like with my mom. and i think she should realize i didn't mean for it to hurt her, but as she would say, it should have occurred to me that it would.

[Courtnee]

I understand that it was special to your mom, and that it hurt deeply, however, it seems like she's purposely overreacting and munipulating you. I think there is something bigger here than just a retarded ride.

[Brieannas21]

I think your mom just got her feelings hurt, since you did something "special" with "the other woman". Now that you've talked to her and apologized, she'll get over it.

[theshark8777]

mom stood in the doorway for a good 20 seconds, staring with no expression. and she said "i don't even want to talk to you. tomorrow i won't talk to you at all".

You know I don't care how much it may have hurt her feelings, I don't think a parent should ever say that to their child. I think it was all an over reaction. Divorces suck. The end.

[Michael [hXc]]

everything is all worked out now :) i asked my mom what is bothering her and she said that my stepmom Maureen is able to be involved in my life and that she is trying to boss me around like i'm her own child is what bothers her. it didn't have to do with a carnival ride as much as i originally thought.

[Jonathan]

It's obvious that your mom really loves you, and is just hurt. My advice is, try to be sympathetic with her, and see where she's coming from. I know you didn't mean any harm, but your mom's just hurt right now that you'd do something that's so special to her with someone else. When she's feeling better, I'd just give her a big hug, and let her know that you didn't mean to hurt her. I know you didn't ask for it, but that's my advice for what it's worth.

Btw, I think it's really cool that you have a mom who seems to love you so much. Alot of people don't have that.
:yeahthat

[Sharop]

I'm glad everything's sorted out. :) I did think your mother was overreacting a little when I read your post, but I can understand how she felt. And she was upset, so she probably didn't mean a lot of the things she said.

[dawsongirl]

That's good. :) I think she overeacted a little (because didn't you really not like Maureen at first anyway?), but it's water under the bridge.

[Michael [hXc]]

That's good. :) I think she overeacted a little (because didn't you really not like Maureen at first anyway?), but it's water under the bridge.

I always did like Maureen, but i didn't like the idea of a new woman coming into my life, since stepmother/mother situations can get awkward. and I didn't like being forced to be in my dad's wedding.

[dawsongirl]

I always did like Maureen, but i didn't like the idea of a new woman coming into my life, since stepmother/mother situations can get awkward. and I didn't like being forced to be in my dad's wedding.
Oh, ok. I couldn't remember the exact situation.