How important are children in amarriage.

[lilhave]

I am very fortunate in having both a wonderful wife and mother to our children. I think our marriage would have been lacking if the good Lord hadn't blessed us with two children, a boy and girl.

Looking back at the wonderful memories of coaching little league ball and taking my daughter to the dance school still bring smiles to me. It was like yesterday my daughter would say "I love you daddy", actually she still says it, and of course my son when he looks at me and says "what do you think dad"

Harvey

[dawsongirl]

Personally, I feel the same way. Marriages with no children might be for some, but to me they're kind of...dull. You get married and then....yeah. Nothing big happens. I'd think you'd get kind of bored. But that's just me.

[Shine]

Personally, I feel the same way. Marriages with no children might be for some, but to me they're kind of...dull. You get married and then....yeah. Nothing big happens. I'd think you'd get kind of bored. But that's just me.


I'm with you on this one, Cathy. I want children.

[gilligan fanatic]

I am glad my parents had children :crazy:

[cmcb06]

My Bf and I have been talking about maybe adopting someday. But I never see myself doing it. I couldn't face, seeing kids if we ever did adopt any being ridiculed for having 2 daddies etc.

[Mrs. Ducky]

I think children are very important in a marriage. My dream is to get married and have a cute house in the country and somewhere between 4 and 7 children. Kind of like the Waltons! :D

[rusyd]

I am going to be 43 soon and am going on my 2nd marriage. I don't have children and will not have any. I understand how children are importnat to many people and I love kids, but does it really make a marriage? Shouldn't it be about the two people getting married? If you both want children then great but what about the ones who don't or can't? I feel it should be about the love and respect between the man and woman and then the childeren should come after if that is what they both want. :)

[Better Days]

I'm 37. I'll never have kids. Never. Haven't been married. I know society promotes it - lord do I know. I don't dwell on what I don't have - I DO have plenty, and I'm happy; never bored: interests, career, I play 3 instruments, internet, 400 channels, CD's...........You get married and then....yeah. Nothing big happens. I'd think you'd get kind of bored. But that's just me.
Yes, It's you....everything is in the mind....If one wants a change...change your mind. If someone's bored in 2006!!, they're not trying hard enough.
I am glad my parents had children Some kids aren't. Depression and suicide is the highest ever. I know I sound like Debbie Downer from SNL:lol: , I just want people to live better lives.
Kids souldn't be brought into the world because we're reaching a sad future. Living in the US and watching the distractions on modern TV, you might not be aware of the horrifying things that are building. The last 150 years was a temporary isolation. But soon, it will hit us - because americans are asleep at the wheel.
People having kids is important to the rich and powerful - more slaves and army members.

[Penny Lane]

Children can really cement a marriage. I think that having children (if possible)is very important.

[Penny Lane]

[QUOTE=Better Days
Kids shouldn't be brought into the world because we're reaching a sad future. [/QUOTE]



My grandma used to say the same thing way back in the 50's.:lol:
Lucky for me and my 6 brothers and sisters my Mom didn't listen to her.

But I know what you mean. It's a scary world. :eek:

[MaydayMalonesGirl]

Some kids aren't. Depression and suicide is the highest ever. I know I sound like Debbie Downer from SNL:lol: , I just want people to live better lives. Kids souldn't be brought into the world because we're reaching a sad future. Living in the US and watching the distractions on modern TV, you might not be aware of the horrifying things that are building. The last 150 years was a temporary isolation. But soon, it will hit us - because americans are asleep at the wheel.

that is so true.

[Mijada]

Children are very important but I think marriages can be happy without them. Some married couples don't want kids but feel pressured to have them. You have to be a very patient person as well as emotionally and financially secure to be a good parent imo.

[strawberry cupcake]

i do. i almost got married earlier this year, but me and him seperated. but if we did get married i would definetly want a baby or two.

[Courtnee]

Personally, I feel the same way. Marriages with no children might be for some, but to me they're kind of...dull. You get married and then....yeah. Nothing big happens. I'd think you'd get kind of bored. But that's just me.
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[Rachel3118]

I'm looking forward to having children when I get married. I guess some marriages will need children while others don't.

[LuLu Rogers]

I can't wait to get married and have kids!! Kids are my life, I love them with all of my heart. I do think though that it's a good idea to be married for a year or two before having kids, it's important for you and your spouce to have some bonding time before kids come into the picture. It will greatly help your marriage.

[KissMyGrits]

I think it depends on the couple.

My husband and I have a 9 year old son. He is the light of my life. I couldn't imagine my life without him.

My best friend and her husband are a different story. They have been married for 15 years and have no children. They don't want children and are perfectly happy without kids.

I do agree that waiting is best. My son was born a little over a year after my husband and I married. It was hard enough getting used to being married. Then along came this little boy and man was it hard getting used to all the changes right away.

I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world. It is alot of work, but worth every second of it.

[Number 9 Dream]

I think it depends on the couple, honestly. Some couples are happy without children and are content to just work and enjoy each others' company. Some can't wait to have children.

I'm always torn on the issue. I can't see myself having kids, but I'm not totally against the idea. I know if I did have a little boy or girl, though, I'd love it with all I've got and make sure it's of utmost importance in my life (before my career, that is).

[LuLu Rogers]

I do agree that waiting is best. My son was born a little over a year after my husband and I married. It was hard enough getting used to being married. Then along came this little boy and man was it hard getting used to all the changes right away.

I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world. It is alot of work, but worth every second of it.

Exactly. My parents were married at a young age, then had me a year later. It really put a strain on their marriage and they even divorced for a year when I was a year old. They were remarried, but even to this day they'll tell you that they wish they'd had me later on in their marriage.

[KissMyGrits]

I'm always torn on the issue. I can't see myself having kids, but I'm not totally against the idea. I know if I did have a little boy or girl, though, I'd love it with all I've got and make sure it's of utmost importance in my life (before my career, that is).

I was totally like that before I got married. In fact I never really wanted to get married, let alone have kids. I had too much fun being single. I met my husband and we married 4 months later. A little over a year after that along came my son. It was a HUGE life change for me.

I don't regret one second of it though. My son comes before my career. If he is sick and it is a day that I would have to work, I call my boss and tell her that I won't be in. Luckily she is wonderful about it.