Does age really matter?

[*MIBabe03*]

Recently I was asked out by a man who's 38, has never been married, and dosen't have children. He's 38, and I'm 20. Obviously an 18 year age difference. I've never dated someone that much older, but I've always been curious about it and I want to try it. Does age really matter if you end up having a lot in common?

[MsOrange]

ehh.. i'd say if you were 30 and he was 48 that probably wouldn' matter... but I could be wrong, but i'd say a 38 year old is way too mature/old/experienced for a 20 year old.. but that's a general statement, you might be completely different... go w/ your gut.

[consentida]

I don't really think age matters that much.

[MsOrange]

I don't really think age matters that much.
i think it depends on the person

[TVFactFan]

Recently I was asked out by a man who's 38, has never been married, and dosen't have children. He's 38, and I'm 20. Obviously an 18 year age difference. I've never dated someone that much older, but I've always been curious about it and I want to try it. Does age really matter if you end up having a lot in common?


I'm 30 and i think a 20 year old female is too young for me

[TVFactFan]

Recently I was asked out by a man who's 38, has never been married, and dosen't have children. He's 38, and I'm 20. Obviously an 18 year age difference. I've never dated someone that much older, but I've always been curious about it and I want to try it. Does age really matter if you end up having a lot in common?



He sounds like a dirty old man-lol

[swedeace]

I used to fuss about the age difference too, but then I realized that age is just a number. I have crushed badly over two guys who were both younger than me. They were not THAT younger but it bothered me for the longest time. It also depends on the individuals as well, as someone posted above.

Go with your gut instinct. You have to go with how YOU feel. You were the only one who has seen this man, so only you can make that decision.

[The Chauffeur]

Look at it this way. he was already legally an adult when you were born....creepy yet?;)

[PZelda]

It really doesn't matter. You left your teens, you'll be 21 in a short while and the guy has never wed nor had kids. Sounds like a good guy to me :). But go with your gut instinct too. If he acts like an *******, dump him ASAP.

If you have a great time with him, then who the hell cares about age...it's just a number. :D

[Number 9 Dream]

Kind of a tough call. I mean, personally I have always felt that such a big age difference might be hard to handle. I mean, someone who is 18 years older has had more experience with life and has a whole slew of different things going on than a 20 year old. I know someone who is 17 and is being persued by a 36 year old...now, to me, that's just wrong. Not to mention illegal.

But, hey, you're old enough to know what you want and you seem mature. I'm not saying it can't work but those situations are tough to deal with.

[TVFactFan]

I would just play with someone 18 years older than me, not date her-lol Besides she would have to be a HOT 48 year old

[Mijada]

I think it's kind of strange for a 38 year old man to be pursuing a 20 year old woman. It makes me wonder what exactly he's after and why he can't get someone closer to his own age. I guess it wouldn't hurt to go out to dinner with him or something but I would be very careful.

[Tuesday Weld]

I think it's kind of strange for a 38 year old man to be pursuing a 20 year old woman. It makes me wonder what exactly he's after and why he can't get someone closer to his own age. I guess it wouldn't hurt to go out to dinner with him or something but I would be very careful.

Yeah, I was just thinking that......

[-*Forever*-]

Go for it. Age does nooooooooot matter.

[theshark8777]

The biggest problem could be the generation gap.

[robyrob]

you could always ask Anna Nicole for tips, or advice...

[Shine]

The biggest problem could be the generation gap.

I agree. What are a 38 year old and a 20 year old possibly going to talk about?

[Courtnee]

I wouldn't go for,IMO,People in your age gap are easier to talk to. :)

[dawsongirl]

It depends more on a person's maturity than their age.

[Jo_Luvs_Ketchup]

I guess I get to help ya out a little bit.:D My sister is 18 years old and she is dating a 35 year old man. We were all really scared at first you know? My mom couldn't really disapprove because my sister was 18 after all and if she said no, my sister would just sneak around. He is the nicest man though. They met in church and they are completely in love. He treats her like a queen and all my mom cares about is that he is good to her and treats her with respect. I guess it all depends on the situation and the man. Age is just a number, like other people have said. Go with how you feel! I hope I helped you a little bit.:wave:

[Brent88]

I would just play with someone 18 years older than me, not date her-lol Besides she would have to be a HOT 48 year old

What does "play" mean Mr. Solomon? :lol:

[Brent88]

Look at it this way. he was already legally an adult when you were born....creepy yet?;)

:eek:

Do whatever you want. If the age difference bothers you, then it bothers you. Some people won't care though. He's obviously interested, he's single, he doesn't have kids, and he's apparently attractive, those don't come along everyday. :lol:

[Brad Russ]

I don't go out on dates very often, but when I do, I usually go out with older women. I don't think there's anything wrong with it. It's kind of interesting how an older guy who's into younger women is immediately considered a creepy old man. You really don't hear that much when an older woman goes out with a younger guy. Anyway, I see no problem with a 20 year old going out with an older guy. As long as he's a good person, who cares.

[*MIBabe03*]

you could always ask Anna Nicole for tips, or advice...

:lol: I know that was a shot at me, but I'm mature enough that I can laugh at myself. It's only an 18 year difference, Anna Nicole and that other guy were like 60 years apart or something like that. Now that's an age gap! The way I look at it is that it's just a date, I know the chances of him being "the one" are probably nonexistant. I figure if it doesn't work out romantically, that at least maybe I'll get a friend out of it, you never know.

[*MIBabe03*]

I guess I get to help ya out a little bit.:D My sister is 18 years old and she is dating a 35 year old man. We were all really scared at first you know? My mom couldn't really disapprove because my sister was 18 after all and if she said no, my sister would just sneak around. He is the nicest man though. They met in church and they are completely in love. He treats her like a queen and all my mom cares about is that he is good to her and treats her with respect. I guess it all depends on the situation and the man. Age is just a number, like other people have said. Go with how you feel! I hope I helped you a little bit.:wave:


That does help, thanks. That's great that he treats your sister with so much respect. I mean age I don't think really matters, as long as both parties are of legal age. Anyway my grandparents were 13 years apart, both had children at the time. They stayed together until his recent passing. Then my aunt married a man who was also 13 years older. They hadn't met when she was 20, but that shouldn't matter. This is the first time I'm going out with somebody much older. The other guy I went with was only 5 years older. My problem is that I am pretty mature for my age, and guys really don't understand me. I'm also not the kind of person that likes to go out and party either, and my goal is not to get laid by some random guy. That's another thing guys my age don't seem to understand. I just don't like the idea of having sex, just because I can.

[~LadyJess~]

That does help, thanks. That's great that he treats your sister with so much respect. I mean age I don't think really matters, as long as both parties are of legal age. Anyway my grandparents were 13 years apart, both had children at the time. They stayed together until his recent passing. Then my aunt married a man who was also 13 years older. They hadn't met when she was 20, but that shouldn't matter. This is the first time I'm going out with somebody much older. The other guy I went with was only 5 years older. My problem is that I am pretty mature for my age, and guys really don't understand me. I'm also not the kind of person that likes to go out and party either, and my goal is not to get laid by some random guy. That's another thing guys my age don't seem to understand. I just don't like the idea of having sex, just because I can.

I say go for it. As you said, it's only one date and you see where it goes from there. I know for me, I've always been interested in guys that were older than me, basically for the maturity factor like you said, and in fact I'm a bit surprised that the guy I'm with right now is only 2 years older than me. And for an example from my own family-my aunt was 22 when she first met my uncle, he was 36. They've been married for almost 20 years now.

[MsOrange]

:lol: I know that was a shot at me, but I'm mature enough that I can laugh at myself. It's only an 18 year difference, Anna Nicole and that other guy were like 60 years apart or something like that. Now that's an age gap! The way I look at it is that it's just a date, I know the chances of him being "the one" are probably nonexistant. I figure if it doesn't work out romantically, that at least maybe I'll get a friend out of it, you never know.
I say that's a good attitude to have. Sounds like you're mature enough to handle it. But you have to admit, for hte most part, 20 year olds aren't mature enough to date someone almost old enought to be their dad.


Hey, if your heart says go for it and your head agrees.. do it!